ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Hey women, we asked 100 members of the studio audience, top five answers on the board:

>Name something a man might do to flirt with you.

I want to see how often you all might misinterpret things.

Guys:
I'm a girl.
About a month ago, I expressed my desire to start a sexual relationship with a guy within my circle of friends. I was absolutely not interested in a romantic relationship.
In the days following that statement, he acted like he was really interested: he was cuddly, sweet and wanted to be with me all of the time. He seemed to be really into me, and since I wanted to fuck him, I played along.
Then, when the moment came, he stopped me before we could even kiss to tell me that he wasn't sure about the whole thing, since he didn't want any problems with our friends.
From then his behavior completely changed: he started being distant, never texts, when we're together alone he's super awkward.

The problem is, in the meantime I've sucked him off a few times (always in the hope it would progress into sex) without him ever reciprocating. And he still treats me weirdly, but says that having sex would be 'too big of a step'.

What the fuck does it mean? Is he into me or not? Was he ever into me?
I'm very confused, especially since our friendship was taking off so well, now things are weird.

>>16725353
Sounds like he's just a puss. I wouldn't keep holding your breath for this sexual arrangement to work out. Put it behind you and never speak of things again. Continue being friends in the context of your social circle and leave it at that.

At the end of our time together she reached out to brush my hand.
She's Japanese, and my understanding is PDA is pretty rare, so I think that's gotta be a sign.

This is a long shot, but what's some really low-pressure way I can reciprocate next time we meet? I don't want to make her uncomfortable. Maybe sometimes you have to, just try something?

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>have plans to hang out with guy on Friday
>reschedule to today because of the snow
>snap chats me this morning
>says something like "Sorry, something came up and I can't go out"
>say "it's ok, we can hang out another time"
>snaps me back
>doesn't say if he wants to or not
>just sends a pic of himself
>I don't reply

Should I try to hang out with him again or just let it go?

>>16725337
Create sexual tension during the conversation and gauge my reaction.

>>16725777
If he responded to you he might be telling the truth. If you are still interested in him, give it some time and ask again.

I had a girl bail on me two weeks ago, and when I got myself ready to ask again we ended up having a very nice time (just yesterday, actually)

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Meant for girls but I guess it could go either way

What are some things that can start/prolong a conversation with someone you don't know very much at all? I have no stress talking to girls, but the conversations I have are awfully short because they die out so quickly.

>>16725353
lol this guy sounds like he may be a bit retarded. either that or hes not into it and is using you for free blowjobs
you made a bad call. happens to all of us at least once. disregard this guy, find another. if you are even moderately attractive, you should have no problem finding a guy that is on board for that sort of arrangement.

>>16725831
I get that something came up, that's ok. But shit, he could say if he wants to try to hang out again or not instead of saying nothing.

As a guy, in a club, what's a good way to take flirting to the next level? What's a good technique to go for the kiss?

>>16725789
Survey says...ding

That's a pretty good one, if a bit obvious.

I was walking along in the city earlier when I noticed a large breasted woman wearing a teeshirt. Thing is, her chest was moving, a lot. I figured she wasnt wearing a bra, but wouldnt that be uncomfortable? It's summer here though, so that might be why.

>>16725789
Incidentally, what can be considered a good reaction?

Is it possible for a guy and a girl who has been chatting online for months every day (yet they've never met each other irl) to have feelings for each other? He is from another country. He once commented how I fit his criteria of what an ideal girlfriend should be likepersonalitywise, told me how he read a post about the benefits of dating a girl from my culture, said how he thought it would be cool if I could join his party, etc. But then we talk about all sorts of things besides that. We talk about EVERYTHING, really.

>>16726523
Christ, you've already asked this. If you were ignored it's because your question is so painfully obvious.

YES people fall for people long distance. How did you think internet LDRs started?

Who knows if you/the person you're talking to really likes you. Personally I've found that its a lot different IRL and you might not like them the same way IRL.

Stop worrying about these kind of things and just ask yourself what you really want. What do you want to do together? What do they mean to you? Etc

Just called a girl on my campus a slut. How big is the backlash going to be.

>>16726681
Depends, how'd she react when you said it?

>>16725359
What he said ^

girls, if youre talking to a guy you just met, how important are things like holidays? for example if you meet a guy in the next week or so does that fact that valentines day is coming up after anything? like are you going to try to bag him so you'll have a date for that day? or just carry on as usual?

>>16726681
What's the story?

>>16725290
This is for both genders desu. How can I ask someone out and not make our friendship weird if I get turned down? We are pretty good friends atm and I wouldn't wanna lose that.

>>16726794
Just keep doing what you've been doing

>>16726805
Wondering about the actual asking out part.

>>16725353
either caught feels or is a total sociopath. your friendship is fucked eitherway
>>16725777
>trips check'd
usually the social cue is to offer another time when you bail on a scheduled event
>>16725833
http://bfy dot tw/3ttj
>>16726523
yes
>>16726681
anywhere from hurting her feelings to a sexual harassment lawsuit

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> have cute guy friend
> always flirty/affectionate
> almost kiss
> kiss on cheek instead
> trade IMs during the week
> decide to see if things are going anywhere
> guy is online all weekend
> guy doesn't return ANY IMs all weekend

Guys, WTF?

>>16726794
In my experience, you can't. If you're lucky, things will only be awkward for a little while and then go back to normal, but every time I've actually seen it or been involved irl one person keeps pining after the other and it causes all sorts of problems.
I'd still say go for it, though.

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Made my own thread before seeing this one:
>>16726849
Mostly for girls I guess, or girl-savvy guys.

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>>16725833
A.R.E. is a tried and true method of talking to people, even strangers, and with a little practice it can be used to keep conversation flowing naturally while getting to know people better and having them like you in return!
>A: Anchor
The Anchor is a shared experience between both you and your target. A hard test that you just took, the rain that you just stepped out of, the traffic you both got caught in on the way to work, the weird smell in the bookstore you're both in. Anything that links the two of you together.
Example: "Dr. Landis is hilarious!"
>R: Reveal
The Reveal is something you share about yourself which is related to the Anchor that you started off with..
Example: I’ve tried to get into Dr. Landis’ class for three semesters, and this is the first time I was able to land a spot.
>E: Encourage
The Encourage is when you move the subject of the conversation from you to your target. This is when you get to ask them how they feel about the Anchor, in a way that logically flows from the Reveal.
Example: Did you have a hard time getting into the class?

Continue employing the ARE method and you can keep the conversation going by asking follow-up questions and commenting on their responses. People love to talk about themselves, so keeping things focused on them is smart, but keep them feeling at ease by remembering to Reveal more about yourself as follow-ups to their answers.

It sounds cheesy but it helped me get my social life back after being a cocoon mode NEET for a few years and losing all my social skills. People will take to you very quickly after even just one conversation if you can get them to answer questions like "What's your dream job?" and "What would be your perfect day?".

>>16726873
either coming on too strong or over-read the signals

Do you girls ever feel humiliated or bad about yourselves (or something less drastic but with words to these effect) if a guy doesn't approach you after you tried everything you could to call his attention for a good amount of time (1 to 6 months or more for example)
Would you go as far as to avoid him where you used to see him just to keep on with your life and never see him again?

What do girls think of the pickup community?

Starting as a 17 year old kissless virgin, I am now 19 years old with 7 girls Ive had sex with since i lost my virginity 7 months ago. Currently dating the girl I lost my virginity to, but also going out and meeting lots of girls at the local clubs and bar as well as on campus. I have a reputation for being open, blunt, loud, flirty, and childishly sarcastic/crass, but also extremely humble and caring/compassionate. The pickup community, specifically RSD and some books on sex/seduction, have helped me tremendously on becoming a man, communicating attraction and creating attraction, setting life principles, and generally growing the fuck up and dealing with the way things are and not how I wish they were. I have talked to girls about this before, but not often. Usually they know who I am and my intentions so they get introduced to it in a much warmer light. But from a purely anonymous perspective I'm curious as to what the 4chan demographic thinks about the practice of learning seduction online, going out with friends or by yourself, practicing (at this point going up and talking to strangers is no fucking problem once I get socially warmed up), and looking back and analyzing the interactions.

tldr; I was taught how to talk to girls online and by doing it in real life, and now I'm the better for it.

>>16726997
>learning, practicing, analyzing
Seems like a good way to improve at anything, pussy slaying included.

>>16726730
bitter
>>16726787
Called a girl out for being a slut, partly to defend someone else.

>>16725337
Go out of his way to fiegn fascination in something that bonds u to him. I.E., notices earrings and asks a million questions.

>>16725833
Mutherfuckin pets my dude

Summing this up again :

>meet girl on site
>she asks for my contact
>she pushes me into asking her to come meet me and she does
>we have a good time
>I express my interest in seeing her again, she says she wants to as well
>she can't come the following day due to family duties
>today send a message to chat
>she answers right away to both
>ask her out again
>silence since then

It's been hours. Almost a day I believe. I sent another message 5 hours after to jockingly ask if she was alive.

Should I just give up? Did this ever happen to anyone that a person who previously showed interest and even came after you suddenly stopped for no reason?

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>>16725290
Girls: What boards do you normally browse besides this one?

Guys: Whats the most homophobic thing you've done?

>>16727356
I don't think I've done many homophobic things. Probably my use of the word fag, if that is considered homophobic?

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Is this considered sexting?

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Why do so many girls in there 20 want to find there soulmate already?

>>16727516
Yes.

>>16727539
When else would they find them?

>>16727640

I'm doing it! I'm really doing it!! :D

>>16727516
>and theeeeen
>and theeeeen
Sexting with somebody that isn't creative to stroke back is boring and stupid.
Literary dead fish.

>>16727712

nooooooo :(

>>16727028
Defend someone from what?

>>16727712
But it gives you creative freedom. I could never get a girl to be a sexual velociraptor otherwise.

>>16727765

What do you mean? By her just listening?

Well. She did say after that "you are always welcome at my coffee shop... Especially when it's empty and closed, and with just me and you there ;)."

>>16727356
/p/ and /cgl/

Guys:
I have uneven tiddies. Is that something I should mention before sex or should I just not say anything about it?

>>16728125
Most girls have uneven tits, you know.

>>16728125
not a guy, but WHAT? do you also describe the size and tone of your labias? and that mole you have on your buttcheeks?

>>16727539
what alse should they be looking for? somebody nice but not somebody i would love? really dude? are you retarded?

>>16727516
yes. to so,e extend. it's not very sexual yet. but you're getting there

>>16727356
/fit/, /fa/, /lit/, /ck/, /ic/, /gif/, /hc/, /out/, /wg/

>>16726920
neat

>>16726968
yes

>>16728132
Haha yeah I guess it sounds really dumb when you put it like that. It's just that it's something I'm really insecure about and with our cultural obsession with tits, I get scared that a potential partner will be expecting cute even porn tits and be disappointed when they see mine.

>>16726997

>19 years old with 7 girls Ive had sex with since i lost my virginity 7 months

>dating the girl I lost my virginity to, but also going out and meeting lots of girls

i really hope you weren't still dating this girl whils fucking those other ones... if so, you are just scum.

otherwise, i think it would serve you better to just have an interest in clicking with people better in general. labeling your interest in social dynamics as "pick up community" is EXTREMELY cringey.

>>16728166
i understand where you are coming from. the key is to only sleep with people that care about YOU. if you have random hook-ups, sure, it will only be about your body and thus the expectations are higher. if somebody sleeps with you because they want the whole intimacy and closenes that comes with it, they couldn't care less about the even-ness of your titts. they will think those are the most beautiful titties ever, because they are YOUR titts.

I had a first date that went really well. But it was literally my first date and I have no idea what to do next. I think we're both a little on the shy side.
[spoiler]I'm 30 and this was my first date ever. Should I...like, own up to that before we get serious?[/spoiler]

>>16728125
Tits are usually uneven to some degree. Christina Hendricks has breasts that are noticeably uneven, but she's still a sex icon for perspective.

The body is generally symmetrical, but it's not perfect.

>>16726873
Probably shy

My girlfriend gave me my first blowjob a I couldn't climax. It felt fucking amazing and I kept getting extremely close, but I never could quite orgasm at all. I don't watch porn much and I only masturbate when it's uncomfortable to walk, so every 3-5 days. Is something up here? She said she was genuinely surprised and impressed at my endurance but also extremely confused because the last guys she was with came within a couple minutes whereas I lasted gaining on an hour.

>>16728390
Shit happened and continues to happen to me too man. It's normal, happens to a bunch of guys. Besides it's kinda hard to just straight suck out semen, usually it's the stroking that does it. Least that's what I've read and I feel.

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Guys and Girls

Do you prefer Hot or Cute?

>>16728526
Guy here. I prefer cute.

I'm dating this girl and we really like each other. Everything's going all right, but last night she told me it'll take a while for her to "unlock" her feelings. That means that right now she's into me, but sometimes she acts cold or distant, 'cause she had a lot of terrible experiences with her exes and she doesn't want to suffer again.

What should I do in this kind of situation? I'm pretty sure I'm different from her exes (they were junkies and stuff) and I want her to be at ease with me...

>>16728557
Just keep doing what you are doing, man. Why change your behavior? It isn't gonna speed up her process.

>>16728526

Male here...
Cute females, definitely...

Cute appears to always be more genuine and down to earth. Nothing seems as forced and as manufactured.

>>16728526
Guy, definitely cute

>>16728526
Girl here. I prefer cute girls and hot guys. I'm big on traditional gender roles.

>>16728526
Female

I'm leaning towards the hot.

>>16728541
>>16728567
>>16728595
>>16728605
>>16728607

funny how we can see the differences, people always says that guys are more shallow than girls but that seem to be bullshit if i trust thoses answer...

>>16728612
How is it shallow? I can't help what I'm attracted to.

How important is "the game"?
>been texting a girl
>I almost always initiate
>we met up and had a very nice day together yesterday
>she made a fairly open gesture, checking out a book I mentioned I enjoyed so we could discuss it in the future even though she doesn't read novels

Is it still cool if I just keep initiating texting? I'd rather have conversations than not, you know?

>>16728612
>people always says that guys are more shallow than girls but that seem to be bullshit if i trust thoses answer...
What? No one said that they don't care about attractiveness. People have preferences, and attraction is needed in a relationship. I'm not sure what your malfunction is.

>>16728612
I don't see how what someone likes is shallow. It's like saying liking blonde haired people is shallower than liking redheads. Or preferring blue eyes over brown eyes is somehow more shallow. It's just personal preference.

Going to great lengths to achieve what you think is hot/cool/acceptable is shallow. Only caring about looks/reputation is shallow. But having preferences isn't.

>>16728526
Female, of these options I prefer hot. I prefer men that look like men, not men that look like boys.

Unfortunately, I'm trapped under the inescapable weight of being cute (I look 12 years old apparently) and I can't stand people like >>16728567 who make assumptions about my personality based on my face, rather than things that would actually be worth judging.

>>16727356
/ck/, /vg/

>>16727344
No more messages unless she says something first. Even then, probably not worth.

>>16726997
I don't exactly appreciate men talking to me about getting girls. If you approach me, I might humor you if I feel like it, it's not like your chances are inherently worse.

>>16726968
This is ridiculous. I don't wait around for other people to do things for me. If I want someone, I'll ask them out. Women that think that they can force men to make moves should be smacked upside the head.

>>16726767
I don't notice holidays. I often have to be reminded of their existence. Valentine's day is really fucking stupid.

>>16726794
Be the same as always. Hope that they value the friendship enough to keep going.

>>16727356
>Guys: Whats the most homophobic thing you've done?
I like to send my faggot friend screencaps of bug chasers. He tends to hate the LGBT scene in general too.

girls:

what's a good happy birthday text to send to a girl you've been talking to/have had a thing with for a few weeks? she's into all the sweet stuff but i don't want to go overboard.

>>16728733
Dude, at least call

>>16728736
idk man. i feel like that would be too much rn since we aren't that serious yet. i'm not trying to scare her away or anything. just something short and simple.

>>16728526
Female here
I like cute girls and hot guys.
Honestly though, guys don't have to be as hot looking as that example, I just prefer guys that look like adults, that other example looks like a teenager. For girls I prefer cute, but I'd still date a hot girl.

>>16729005
>>the other example looks like teenager
>tfw look like the cute example except with blonde hair and glasses
>tfw 24

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Question for both: Do I have to have extremely super white teeth for dating?

Or should I just continue with my brush two times a day schedule and ignore the commercials and adverts?

>Inb4 implants

>>16729031
Try changing your hairstyle to something more mature, you'd be surprised how much that can help.

>>16729039
I usually don't notice a person's teeth unless they have super nasty smoker teeth. If you feel insecure about it, try whitening them, but you're probably fine the way you are.

Girls: Thoughts on Micropenises?

Would you think it odd if your partner stopped talking about you in places where you live your own lives (hanging out with friends, meeting new people, studying, etc)? Like, any mention of having girlfriend/boyfriend is nonexistent even if the topic of relationships is brought up, or they use past relationships as input instead of the current one.

Friend (girl) I like says she's sorry for offending me via text because she asked something personal about my past on the phone and I declined

Do I respond to her immediately or wait several hours? Don't know what's the unwritten rule for texting girls you secretly like. I have work now and I can text her back but I honestly don't feel like it because I don't want to seem I'm trying to over please her emotions

She's a good person and I'm not a texting expert so idk what to do

>>16729097
Go ahead and respond. If we're gonna play into "reading into text technique" then that means she might think you're extra upset for waiting to respond. But the waiting or not waiting thing is BS.

Talk at the frequency you want to talk, because you're setting the standard now of what she can expect from you. If you talk at the frequency that you enjoy and she likes it, congrats! You're compatible! If you're too much/too little for her, then you aren't very conversationally compatible.

>>16729094
Is that what you're doing or what your partner is doing?

I'd wonder if it was pointed. Are you saying they/you deny being in a relationship?

On talking about previous relationships, those ones are done so you can be more open about discussing the pros/cons with friends. With an active relationship, it's probably best not to be sharing a lot of those details with a ton of friends, because it could he damaging to the relationship.

>>16729039
Healthy and clean teeth are much more important than color. And for the love of god don't destroy perfectly healthy set of teeth with implants.

>>16729050
Oh I don't have that type of hairstyle I was referring more to the facial structure and general looks. That said what type of hairstyle would you recommend? At the moment I just keep it short so it's easy to deal with. It's gotten a bit long and I need to get a haircut soonish anyway so could just as well try something new.

Friend 1: So Johnny what are you into?

Johnny: BIG GIRLS

Friend 2: So... Guys right?

Johnny: NO BIG GIRLS.

Friend 1: Younger girls?

Johnny: NO BIG GIRLS

Friend 2: Really old women?

Johnny: NO BIG GIRLS

Friend 1: Fake women?

Johnny: NO BIG GIRLS

Friend 1: Transexuals?

Johnny: BIG GIRLS!

Friend 2: So you are into girls that are extremely muscle bound and taller than you?

Johnny: NO BIG GIRLS.

Friend 1: So you are into girls way shorter than you?

Johnny: BIG GIRLS.

Friend 2: So fat girls?

Johnny: NO BIG GIRLS.

Friends 1 and 2: Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.........................................................................
Friend 2: So that explains that and why h- Yeah I get it now.
Friend 1: You're not going to-
Johnny: EARNING BIG GIRLS IS HOT AND I DON'T LIKE HURTING BIG GIRLS OR SEEING THEM HURT.
Friend 2: Oh.... He's fine....
Friend 1: Yeah he is alright.

>date girl
>first date
>lots of talking, feeling really comfortable with each other
>walk her to her bus
>text a bit
>ask her out on second date
>she happily accepts
>going to see a movie
>a week or so passes
>this time she asks me out to see a movie, one i really like, and have talked a bit about
>grab a bit to eat and talk a little more after the movie
>part ways
>a week later out of the blue she backpedals big time, says we shouldn't text or date anymore
>ask her whats up
>no reply
>ask why she made it over out of the blue, when she just asked me out
>still no reply

wtf

>>16729112
My partner, and I don't know if they're denying. If I was some random person, I'd think they were single.

I see how that makes sense, but I wonder how much that applies when this is mostly being done with people I don't know.

Why do so many women want to call me "daddy" during sex.

This shit is disgusting, like an instant boner deflatter for me. It makes me want to pop my cock right out, and leave.

The fuck is wrong with you? I've cut it off with three women because of this.

How can I identify these types earlier?

>>16729271
as long as you are getting laid, you shouldn't be complaining bro.

>>16729271
Would you rather have them call you Onii-chan instead?

How can I be there for my girlfriend who has had a miscarriage and 2 abortions, one with me? It's hitting her pretty hard.

She says she still loves me, but I'm worried she's going to resent me for making her preggo and having to go through that trauma again.

>>16729431
Why did she get the abortion with your case in the first place?

If she's had miscarriages I might suggest she check for ovarian cancer just in case.

>>16729271
It's just a kink anon chill out. It's not even an extreme kink, it's just a word she moans out.

Eternal virgin question here: how likely is it to get a woman on birth control pregnant by cumming inside her?

For both Males and Females, how long does sex last if it is your first time?

>>16725290
why can't I be straightforward when talking to women?
for example with guys I can just say "In my opinion what you did is A and I would've done B, because:"
but if I do this with women they just get insulted

What are some advices for a guy to look more handsome/attractive?

>>16729501
Because feminism fed the victim complex of some women and normalized it for all women in general.

>>16729481
I did it. When I lost my virginity no less. So it can happen to you.

>>16729505
Clean, well fitting clothes. In a style that suit you. Good haircut. Well groomed. Don't be fat. Confidence.

>>16729443
We're both pretty young. Not financially or emotionally prepared to take care of a kid

>>16729505
Seriously just look at other handsome men and emulate them. It's not hard to look at something and consider it part by part.

>>16729536
If you're not adapting what they do to suit you, you're going to look like terrible

>>16729144
Prolly she was cheating on some guy with you and caught a case of guilt. Don't feel bad, just move on.

Suppose youre n love with a girl but the honeymoon phase is over and you realize cant overlook her past without it. Whats the most gentle way to let her down.

>>16729474
Where do I find a girl that moans "gas the kikes" when we're fucking?

Girls..

Would you have a problem if your loving boyfriend revealed him self as a soft racist.

And by soft racist i mean absolutely hateful towards all muslims and brown people?

Fat girl opinions not welcome (because fascism and all..).

>>16729579
Dude, hating niggers and mudslimes is alpha. Only beta cucks like those filthy subhuman scum.

>>16729579
Why do you hate muslims and brown people
Its pretty disgusting to hate people for being born. Being fat is a decision.

>>16729557
She didn't really seem like the type, but i dont know

>>16729600
>why do you hate massively inbred savages?

>>16729606
Why do you hate people for being born. If you really want to go there, Brown people are the reasons whites arent neanderthals still. Shouldnt you be grateful.

>>16729501
Because why does what you would do matter?
Context is important here. Did she ask for your opinion? Is your opinion actually helpful to her, or just critical of her?

>>16729613
>Brown people are the reasons whites arent neanderthals still
Nice meme.

My gf avoids "adult" or negative topics. As a result she has an innocence that at first I found refreshing, but I'm starting to find annoyingly childish. She's lovely and I almost always enjoy the time I spend with her, but I can see myself wanting to be with someone more mature eventually.

I'm not sure what to do and I guess I'm after stories of similar situations.

>>16729613
>shouldn't you be grateful for brown people wiping out part of your ancestors
all of my wat

>>16729618
Science isnt a meme

>>16729622
Would you rather be a neanderthal?

>>16729579
I would break up with you. I find it hard to love someone that's filled with so much irrational hate.

>>16729623
But pseudoscience is.

>>16729579
>soft racist

Do racists think that's a thing?

>>16729501
>why can't I be straightforward when talking to women?
Because women aren't like men. Let go of that idea and start learning from scratch.

>>16729629
Are you saying science you dont like is psuedo science.

>>16729635
Everyone over the age of 14 does. Pretty ironic to think in black and white about racists desu.

>>16729628
>irrational hate
I bet you also think "moderate Islam" exists.

>>16729635

Well yes. The difference is wanting segregation from them, and wanting them harm death and suffering.

>>16729628

Oh...it's not irrational at all. Also, I'm not walking around and screaming "i was the jooos".

I do flip my shit a bit when some one starts blasting gangsta rap in my civilized white environment.

Every thing being nice and cool when all of a sudden "yeah fuck nigga, kill nigga, all my niggaz mo paper mo hoes, keep my bitch hoes in check with a slap, kill da nigga pull da trigaa, gangsta kill fuck my nigga........all our problems caused by white devil"

Not in my car motherfucker.

Men and women of /adv/:

I have finally managed to acquire my first bf at 25. He is very kind. Unfortunately he thinks bigger women are more attractive and my bmi is 17.
Should I try to gain weight for him?
This is not a joke question.

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>>16729669

>>16729528
How old are you two?

Having kids in your late 20's ain't really that bad.

Hell, back in the olden days, we had kids in our mid teens, and by that I mean 14+ ages.

It's even been speculated that Nefertiti was about 15 when she got married. Whoever married her was one lucky mofo.

If a girl was unsure when rejecting me, can I make a date happen one day by making her being attracted to me? We see each other almost every day, but we don't talk after rejection.

>>16729678
No.

>>16729678
No, you already have him,he already wants you

>>16727356
/tv/, /sp/, /an/, /vp/

>>16729684
How was she unsure when she rejected you?
How do you expect to make her be attracted to you?

Also, probably not, no.

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>>16729669
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0itOCgJtNVU

Guys,
How do you feel about seeing your girlfriend's porn?

I know what porn my guy likes and his fetishes, but I don't want to do most of them.
I have asked him to hide his porn away, but I saw it on his homepage as most visited websites.

I'm really uncomfortable and jealous.

>>16729726
Don't give a fuck desu.

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>>16729726
I don't care, because she hardly looks at porn anyway. She has before, but I never really minded. If you're jealous and you want him to stop, I'd say you should have sex with him more often. He'll never need it if you're the only one getting him off. The flip side of that is that he'll want to fuck fairly often, most likely.

>>16729726
>>16729737
Or you could consider doing some of his fetishes

>>16729619
For clarification: by "adult" I mean things related to sex, violence, drug use, etc. and by "negative" I mean things that bring her down like depressing news stories, criticism of people, etc.

What should I do if my gf has no interest in sex but I do? I've got her wet a few times from grinding or feeling her up, but she says it feels uncomfortable and she doesn't like it. Apart from the lack of sex it's a great relationship.

>>16729733
Why not?

I'm not saying it's cheating, but it's fantasizing about other people. I think it's comparable to your significant other checking out people in public.

>>16729737
Ironically, his libido is lower than mine. I just happened to not be there yesterday morning and that's when he watched it.
I feel weird about him watching it, but I would be more comfortable if it wasn't the first thing I see when hopping on his computer to watch netflix.

>>16729743
I have. I tried it twice. I don't think I can do it anymore - I have told him. When we plan to do it I feel nervous and while doing it I feel disgusted.

I'm good with most of his fetishes. Just three I can't do.

>>16729755
Slowly try to make her more comfortable with your body.

Do other imitate things while naked - Massages, showers, shaving, etc. She will become more comfortable being close to you and touching you naked.

Do girls like really pale borserline seethrough skinny guys with long dark hair and dark eyes who barely have any sex drive and don't require anything to be happy who has no higher education and is content with nothing

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>>16729759
Well, if the real problem is that you want him to be more discreet about it, just tell him so. Hiding porn is a skill that boys of many generations have learned to hone. At this point it should come naturally.

>Just three I can't do.
That's pretty specific. What are they?

>>16729776
I did. I will again, it's very awkward to do so.

1. Diapers
2. Anal
3. Dirty Talking

3 makes me feel really embarrassed. Of course, I compliment his body during sex and tell him I love him. I can never shout "Oh yeah, fuck me in my pussy give it to me. I'm begging for your jizz." unless I'm drunk. I only do it as a joke or when drunk.

>>16729481
If she's taking it as intended the risk is so minuscule that you shouldn't worry about it. The real risk is if she messes up by taking antibiotics without realizing they interfere, or forgets frequently and takes them at odd intervals.

I wish more men would get vasectomies. Just so much easier.

>>16729765
Uh, you appear to have no drive, motivation, passion, or descriptive skill.

>>16729764
She's very shy about her body. I've been trying to convince her that I think she's very attractive, but it's hard to get past a lifetime of her thinking she's ugly. Do you think it's more that than genuine disinterest?

Thanks for the ideas. We've done and enjoyed massages, she's rejected the ideas of showering and bathing together and I'm sure she'd refuse the shaving idea if I suggested it right now. I've probably been setting too fast a pace.

>>16729765
I don't

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>>16729789
>Diapers
>mfw

In all seriousness though, your aversion to dirty talking can probably be overcome. As far as the other two are concerned, I can understand why you'd never do them. Has he expressed a legit desire to do these things with you, or do you just find them on his top websites and stuff?

>>16729803
>>16729765
Yup, you made yourself sound like shit. Why would you do that?

>>16729809
Yeah, maybe slow down. She might change her mind about sex and see it as something natural and loving.

>Do you think it's more that than genuine disinterest?

It could be many things, but the bottom line is (minor) insecurity or trust issues.

>>16729820
>your aversion to dirty talking can probably be overcome.

I know, but I really dislike it. I rather shout his name or "I love you" rather than something vuglar. I don't want to make sex gross. I'm ok with it being dirty occasionally. I rather most of the time being love making rather than I needing my hole to be filled.

>Has he expressed a legit desire to do these things with you, or do you just find them on his top websites and stuff?

He has asked to do most of them. Sometimes pleaded, sometimes slowly moving his hand toward my asshole or something like that.

One moment that bugged me was:
Over break, he visited my house and we were taking a shower together. I mentioned that my butthole felt uncomfortable and itchy for awhile and asked him to check if it was discolored or bumpy. After checkin, he asked "When will you admit your are into anal?" I think he is forcing his fantasies on me subconsciously. His first girlfriend was rather disgusting in bed or I'm way more vanilla than her.
I'm going to stop ranting now, sorry.

>>16729429
I'm pretty sure that would be a turn on to me.

>>16729678
Absolutely no

>>16729726
Indifferent. As long as her porn habits don't negatively effect our sex life she can watch whatever she wants. I'm also complitely open to watching porn together.

>>16729845
>I'm also complitely open to watching porn together

I wish we could do this together. I'm more into amateur jerk-offs and I doubt he wants to watch some guy beating his meat.

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>>16729842
Welp, sounds like a classic case of sexual incompatibility. Sorry, but I don't really have any good insight to give at this point.

>>16729865
>sexual incompatibility

Maybe so. It's not like he is bugging me with it all the time. I guess this morning just put me in a disgusted mood.
Thank you for listening and the advice!

>>16729859
Do you masturbate together? You enjoy amateur jerk offs so at least for you it should be good. And if he thinks you look good enough to be in a relationship with you then there should be something for him also. Maybe combine it with some amateur porn.

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so my gf does this really annoying thing of always going to the bathroom right after we have sex. No matter where we are, she always does this and to me it just kills the mood when I want to cuddle. Even if we're in a hotel, or drunk as fuck, she always does it. She just says she's freshening up or some other horseshit excuse, because she doesn't shower or anything.

What is this all about because its starting to really irritate me.

>>16729872
>Do you masturbate together?
A few times. It usually leads to us playing with each other.

I might ask him if I'm up for it.

>>16729875
Maybe she is peeing to avoid a UTI? Maybe she needs a minute to relish in the sexual afterglow? Maybe she is finishing herself off because you can't? Maybe she is crying because she doesn't know how to break up with you? Maybe it's a bad habit and you could just ask her to stop?

No one knows, but her.

1. Forget your frustration
2. Approach her
3. Ask what she does in there
4. Listen
5. Suggest a solution/ask her not to.

>>16729875
lol
>when I want to cuddle
>cuddle
nigga you gay

>>16729875
do you use condoms?

>>16729898
nigga you gonna die alone

>>16729875
You're always supposed to pee within a half an hour after sex, especially if you're a girl, to prevent a UTI.

Girls have extremely short urethras compared to men which can easily become infected.

>>16729875
Avoiding UTIs. Also, for me at least, sometimes things can get a little swollen and uncomfortable when a partner ejaculates inside. During those times it's nice to take a little moment to wait and let things calm down.

Best thing to do is ask her to stay and cuddle so at least she knows that's what you want, and just try and understand her reasons if she needs to run to the bathroom.

>>16729898
>not wanting to cuddle after sex
Look at this 100% straight tough guy who's so deep in the closet he doesn't even realize he's in there.

Is paying off my girlfriend's student loans too aggressive of a gift for Valentine's Day? Is this better suited for an anniversary or birthday? We've been together for two years and I don't mind a $6,000 gift.

Girls

Do you still keep in touch with your Ex?

Is there anything abnormal about a girl who you flirt with a ton and really like (although you arnt currently dating) is still friends with her ex and occasionally talks to him? Am I getting cucked? I have no experience, so I don't know if this is a issue or not.

>>16729910
Holy fuck. You should do it, but you better be sure that she's the one so she doesn't break up with you later than feel bad about having you pay for it.

Question to femanons (or any anons, whatever)

Been texting with this girl for the entire last week. Everything's fine and dandy, we keep texting for hours at a time, but the problem is every day it is me that texts first. Is it off-putting if a guy texts you first everyday?

>>16729910
Wait three more years and make it an engagement gift.

>>16729917
How do the conversations usually end every day?

>>16729910
It's way too much. I'd never be able to accept that.

>>16729917
If I like talking to a guy, I like it even more when he initiates the conversation. That way I know he's not just politely responding to my potentially annoying/nagging texts

>>16729921
>3 more years
>6k debt
The only way you can stretch 6k debt over 3 years is if you're working a minimum wage job. And that shouldn't happen if you've managed to get student debt.

>>16729917
I've been wondering that too, but if she's clearly engaged in the conversation I think you've gotta be ok. If it annoyed her she'd half-ass it or ignore you, right?

>>16725353
basically, you are acting like a slut.
Contrary to what popular believes would dictate, guys most guys aren't actually interested on getting involved on sluts.
His wave of thoughts should go about "how many guys has she sucked off today" or "did she got molested while younger?"

>>16729798
>I wish more men would get vasectomies.
No.

>>16729922
Either they don't end and just flow to the next day (mostly when she texts me after I go to sleep) or I tell her I'm going to sleep/going out and we say night/bye to each other. The only time she ended the conversation was yesterday.
>>16729929
Well, that makes me feel better.
>>16729945
>If it annoyed her she'd half-ass it or ignore you, right?
Yeah, you're probably right. I'm most likely overthinking it.

Now, another question. A one-day break shouldn't hurt, right? I didn't write her today (lot of stuff to do etc.) and it's already 10:40PM, so I guess it's kind of late.

>>16729967
Why not?

>>16729975
Why the fuck should a man cripple his body just to have sex more safely?

>>16729980
>implying birth control pills and/or IUDs can't be crippling for some women's bodies

>>16729911

anyone please?

>>16729987
>for some
I never said to inflict pain and cripple those women. But vasectomies cripple ALL men, not just SOME.

>>16729987
>>16729975
Imagine snipping your fallopian tubes. That's the equivalent of getting a vasectomy.

>>16729996
that's true, but vasectomies are reversible if I remember correctly. it would be really expensive, but it would also be more effective than other birth control methods

Should I buy lingerie for my girlfriend or should it be a group activity? I want to get her a full-body fishnet suit. She knows I'm into it and she wants to try, I just don't know if it'll be creepy if I bought it for her instead of a group decision.

>>16729997
i'm aware. i'm hoping to tie them

>>16729911
>>16729993
I know several women who are friends with their exes.

Ask this chick out if you want to date her, though. If she is still into him you wouldn't be getting chucked because you never started a relationship with her.

>>16729997
No, tubal ligation is much more invasive.

>>16730002
Vasectomies are not meant to be reversible. You can try if you really want to, but it's an invasive, expensive surgery that doesn't have a good chance of working. Vasectomies are meant to be permanent sterilization.

AND even though they are the most effective male BC available, the female implant is more effective, less invasive, less expensive, and completely reversible.

So no, more men shouldn't get vasectomies. More women should get implants.

>>16730014
And about as permanent. You're an idiot if you eventually want to start a family and get your shit snipped.

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>>16730009

I'm glad to hear this isn't abnormal at least.

She broke up with him, she said she doesn't want him romantically because of how he is. But she said she still wants him as a friend. And, she knows I like her. But she doesn't live near me unfortunetly. It's obvious she's interested (pic related). But I don't think we are "anything" more than friends at the moment. We are meeting again in a few months and hopefully it will be clear then

>>16730019
Obviously no one's talking about people who want to have kids.

I personally am considering a tubal ligation, because if I do decide to have a family (which is a big longshot) I would like to adopt.

So basically I know this girl from work (been working at the same place for around 3 years+,
so that's around how long I've known her),
I'm 25 and she's 30, we didn't really talk much at first. But 2 years ago (june-july 2014) we started
going to the same gym and talking for a couple of minutes afterwards on daily basis.
They were always really shallow conversations and I didn't see much into it. A couple of months
after that (october 2014) we went in sort-of-a-date to buy a farewell gift to a coworker and she seemed really
enthusiastic about the whole situation, after that our conversations starting turning on the
side of "how attractive" she found me and she asking me "how I felt about her". I didn't really
found her attractive so I always handwaved and tried not to be explicit in my answers ("I never saw you with those eyes" kind of deal).
After that, (march 2015) I was going through a rough patch in my life and I was in search
for support and validation, I kind of pushed her in to kissing me, we did kiss several times but only in one occasion.
We have a conversation some days later and I basically told her that "I wasn't looking for something serious and she shouldn't get too exited",
she basically replied with a rant about how "she was older than me" and "she didn't like me" and
"I wasn't her type" and that she "was just being nice to me because she is genuine to her friends".
After that I just slowly stopped going to the gym and frequenting her.

1/2

>>16730055
We kept going like that for a while but later that year (october 2015), we end up in good terms again and we set up a meet up/date kind of thing,
basically we planned that I would sleep over at her place and we will watch some movies.
We indeed did just that, I went to her home we watched 2 movies and then we went to sleep. Same bed, but nothing happened, there was a bit of
cuddling but it didn't escalated to anything. I honestly don't know if I should have acted uppon it.
We tried to set up the same thing a couple of other times but she had always visitors (or excuses) so we didn't really get
to do it again until pretty much last week when kind of set up the date but then she didn't reply my texts a couple of hours before the accorded time so we
ended up doing nothing, she also hasn't text me ever since.
So after this awful story my problem basically is..
can someone tell me what's going on throught this girl's head?
My educated guess would be that she is mad for me "rejecting" her back in march 2015 and she is just cockteasing me.
Any other ideas?
For what I want out of this.. I'll be fine with a fwb kind of deal.
Should keep insisting or just cut her completely?

>>16729969
bumping just in case somebody has something more to say

I think a QT that I like just had sex with someone. This hurts :(

>>16730206
Maybe if you tried it could've been you. Think about that next time you like someone, brah

Out of curiosity, what type of man does a woman who has slept around in her past seek for marriage.
I find it so hypocritical but thats mainly because I dont understand what goes through their minds. Just what redpillers say.
Is it true that you look for some nice guy later in life or do you not look for that.

>>16730055
>>16730060
In the OP
>Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
No ones going to read that.

>>16730212

Honestly I don't think I will like anyone else again. I mean, I'm 25 and this is the first girl I've ever had feelings for. Not to mention that I haven't been looking for girls at all, but we kind of just met and hit it off. The problem is fucking distance. I've met her once before IRL and had a good time together. But she lives far. So we were planning to meet again in May. I know for a fact I could fuck her if I could see her more often. We flirt a lot. But we arnt "together". But, I have reason to assume she just had sex with someone the past few hours, and well. I feel like shit.

>>16730224
Everyone wants to marry a real partner, no matter their past. It isn't hypocritical because people are capable of learning and changing.

>>16730235
Those are some good excuses bro.

Your world isn't over, even though it feels like it is. I just went on my first date this week, and I'm 30. It's never too late.

>>16730248
I find it hypocritical to try and settle down with someone who does not match you own sexual history or feel they are entitled to someone else who did not engage is such activities. Would you tell your partner that you did?
I really think people should only partner up with others within a range of their own sexual partners but thats up for the involved parties to decide. But you have to be informed.

>>16730253

It's just shitty because I haven't wanted a girlfriend. Technically, I still don't. But I met this girl, we became friends. Ended up becoming close even though there is physical distance. And I developed feelings. I really like this girl a lot, and I can't just break contact with her. This is just shitty. Fuck. I just want to be with her and hug her. I've been looking forward to do just that in May. But I'm pretty sure she fucked her ex. I just feel hurt. I honestly don't know if she realizes that yet. But I just hinted at that just now.

>>16730257
But what's hypocritical about it? Different sexual histories are the result of different choices.
It's only hypocritical if different sexual history is a demand, but that's an assumption you are making. It isn't based on truth.

>>16730262
Stop hinting and start talking, what the fuck.

>>16730265
Theres this huge air of entitlement whenever this comes up when some guy doesnt want to date a girl with a different sexual history. I find that entitlement hypocritical and I dont understand the mindset behind it.
Especially if you keep it hidden.

>>16730269

we are. I can't bitch because we arnt "together", so she doesn't have to commit to me. But it still fucking hurts. I just told her that.

im f 19
i have/had a group of friends from uni and then a girl started to date some guy from class.And this guy seems to hate me,like when he organizes something he doesnt invite but does invite the other girls.
i cant think of any reason why he would hate me.he does the stupidest things though,for example he would talk about how a great time they had when -insert event when they got together-,and the last one was to make a whatsapp group for us and the profile pic is a group photo where im not included.
we girls are all 19 and hes 27.
So yeah,my questions are:
what are some reasons why he would hate me? and also,
should i drift away from this group of people? we're on summer break right now so i dont have to meet them everyday.

>>16730275
>Theres this huge air of entitlement whenever this comes up when some guy doesnt want to date a girl with a different sexual history. I find that entitlement hypocritical

That is hypocritical, but you never said that was what you found hypocritical.

People can be compatible even with different pasts. People who demand a "pure" partner are assholes regardless of their own history. If you only love someone until you find out they've had sex before you couldn't have loved them that much to begin with.

My gf is nagging 24/7 despite me actually doing things. I'm not lazy, I just do things methodically. One by one, in an order I have decided on based on when they need to be done. She will constantly pester me about x even when y obviously needs to be done first and I'm going to do x in 30 mins.

Its honestly driving me insane at this point. I'm 22 in a couple of weeks and it feels like I'm living with my mother again

>>16730300
How is someone whos remained pure so that they can be with someone else pure an asshole. Im not in that category but I completely understand that.
>If you only love someone until you find out they've had sex before you couldn't have loved them that much to begin with.
This is part of the entitlement I find hypocritical. Theres many facets of a person and as you discover them you dont have to like each and everyone of them. Everyone has deal breakers. Ive heard stories of people who love someone however once they discover something about their past (ex con, used to engage is homosexual activities, engaged in criminal activities) leave them. You can love someone and not want to be with them.

>>16730287
I'm not a telepath, i don't know what he's thinking. Maybe you can assertively ask him? Maybe he's a bitch, did you insult him? or someone is spreading rumours about you because of your sexual prowess? Did you fuck him over?

>should i drift away from this group of people?
On the net, are the good feelings and companionship worth the drama?

What dresses do girls like guys to wear when clubbing for cuck?

>>16730314
Women do this. I dont know why. My mother used to do this as well. Ive gotten into so many fights with my gf about this. They basically feel insecure in the chances of y getting done even though youre working towards it. The nagging is just them expressing how they feel so anxious about it. Once I realized this I usually ask my gf to help me with x so that we can get to y. By her having a hand in making sure y gets done she doesnt feel as helpless.

>>16729911
I'm friends with a few exs but not all of them. The ones I'm still friends with are the ones I was really good friends with before we even started dating so when we broke up we just went back to being friends again. I don't think it's a big deal.

Trying to organise a date witb this girl.
She was at work and told me to text her work phone because the other one kept dying (shit battery).
I wanted to organise a date for today so last night I sent her a message to her regular phone asking what she's doing tomorrow.
No response.
Do I act as if she's ignoring it and just leave her be or do I act as if her phone finally kicked the bucket and try her work phone?

>>16729997
Vasectomies can be easily reversed

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Went across the planet for this one girl I was pretty sure liked me due to our conversations, she invited me and I wanted to go somewhere anyways. Get there, hang out, talk and meet up with her and her friends, eventually just her and I walking around this river in her town. Tried to take things slow and just hold her hand one of the last days there. "I don't know if there's a specific way to do this in XXX culture so I'm just going to do it the American way, so if it's weird then it's too late" then went through with it.
She said it wasn't weird but now she's been all distant in messages and stuff saying she's just busy and my visiting was at a bad time.

Did I misread the signals here or did she change her mind about liking me? We would share things we knew the other liked and joked about keeping each other safe and even liking each other and everything. Even the night I held her hand she hugged me pretty tightly when other nights it would just be quick. I don't really understand.

>>16730257
Okay then... Would you rather date a sleeze bag who will more than likely cheat on you or someone with no sexual history, that you can take a chance with for sure. But the sleeze bag will cheat on you. Now I know these facts, because my family went through failed marriages and I hear a lot of my male friends talking about their relationships.

>>16730351

like I said before. I'm new to this whole thing. But I don't understand what changes from the point when you break up and just hang out as normal. Is there sexual tension, or moments for romantic desire where you feel weak? I just feel very jealous right now, and want some reassurance that this isn't a big deal.

>>16730368
That's bullshit. You probably think vasectomies are painless too.

>>16730386
If everyone with your amount of sexual partners is a sleeze bag, doesnt that imply that no one has any reason to assume you are not a sleeze bag. Obviously you want to person with no history. Because you only seek to gain from it. But what about them?
I think they at least have the right to know what they are getting involved in.

Both genders. How do I deal with my partner falling asleep DURING sex? They didn't say they were exhausted or tired beforehand.

I feel really upset, really disappointed. But most of all I feel really unattractive and ugly now.

>>16730402

During?

They must be absolutely exhausted or in appalling health

>>16730386
Guys with a sexual history are more than likely to be bisexual or gay in the end more so than the guy who had nothing in his life. Reason is that he can get anything he wants because he has a history to back him up. Shy guy with no history, Don't know! Girls seeing a guy's sexuality is the same as a guy trying to figure out who is a transexual and who is not. You can't predict it all! Sex does not equal love at all. Ever heard of one night stands and how horrible they end up as for both parties? It's actually more of a sex addicts game than anything and Jad told me against that and in fact once I talked to him, told me to try making friends instead of dating and to try to not pick up girls everywhere.

Now I don't know this because of expereince, but because of research. You can't perfectly predict anything really. It's not all spit and span. Quit messing with the magical orb and just live life for what it is.

Okay it is all up to a point. Now me, it sounds like a chance because of the factors leading up to it that may sound like a homosexual, but it ain't true.

I am actually more like a Christian metal singer for The Devil Wears Prada than a homosexual and probably are a lot of high functioning autistic people.

>>16730400
I have ZERO sexual partners dude. I can tell you that straight up. No girlfriend and DEFINATELY NO BOYFRIEND. So... Been single for Twenty- FUCKING 1 years and just was able to treat people like human beings.

>>16730374
Ask her. We don't know. There are cultural differences you admit to not knowing, so it could be anything.

>>16730418
If I had a girlfriend right now. Then I would be honky doory and trying to not flirt with women. But unfortunately how the world works is that I can't right now, because of the situations I am in with other people.

>>16730418
I dont see the point of this post.or this one >>16730410
Whats the message

>>16730391
In my personal experience I haven't felt romantic or sexual tension for them. To be fair though, I was usually the one that initiated the break up in the first place, so I had already lost those desires for them.

>>16730430
Sex does not equate to your chances of dating anybody. If you walk up to a girl and ask,
"Hey I had sex like thirty times want to do it with me?"

Do you know what's going on in her head?

Sex 30 times... Uh... I don't know with what... Does he have herpes or genital stuff.. Aids possibly? 30... Well I heard on the news... Imagine if I tried to have a chil-

AND BEING A GUY AND HEARING A GIRL SAY THAT TO YOU WOULD BE THE SAME STORY.

Will a girl start treating a guy like shit if he doesn't respond to her (indirect) advances?
Like, she slights me for no reason even though she seemed kinda interested in me. The interest is not mutual though, I just wanna know if I'm reading this situation right.

>>16730444
I really dont see where youre going with this. Are you saying to hide you sexual history so people give you a chance?

>>16730424
I did, I think. After two days of distant messaging I said "I can't tell if you like me or were just being nice. Maybe your cultures niceties seem more flirty to an American and it should be obvious I like you but it's getting confusing. Which is it?"

Which sounds a bit harsher than I intended. She said she liked me but was just busy with classes and my visit was at a bad time and she had been feeling more introverted lately.

Which kind of sounds like a version of "you're nice, but no" Which somewhat contradicts everything else. I'd mention her culture if the area wasn't so small and it would be more obvious to some of the people I know Irl that visit this site.

>>16730449
No, what I am saying is that a sexual history would not help you get a girlfriend.

>>16730449
And you do have to be straight-forward to people about these things too. Mean fuck if you had sex with her and you had that much background and it turns out that you had something, then shit now you fucked her up and now you may be in court or something just as bad.

I'm mad for different reasons. You sound pretty cool and I want to help you.

>>16730463
Just gonna assume you didnt mean to quote me. Theres no logical connection between my post and yours.

>>16730470
Also no protection and now you just got yourself into a shotgun wedding and are bound to be in a shitty divorce.

>>16730471
There are numbers everywhere Anon. I can't tell who is who.

>>16730431

Ok. She was the one who ended it. So maybe I am overthinking it. I was just concerned because she hung out with him tonight (she hangs out with him every once in a while). the thing is we are not together, so she doesn't "owe" me anything. Or commitment shit. so she can do whatever she wants. But she knows I really like her. And we flirt a lot and talk about cuddling, so it would be very hurtful to me if she did end up having sex with him. I asked her tonight "so how was the hangout, what did you do?" Meant as a general question. Something you'd ask about anything. And she said "that's private Hahahaha". I tried to re-explain my question and she said "you do seem pretty curious though ;)" then asked me if I am the jealous type. So I said "eh not really. like, with you for example. I know you have a few male friends that you talk to. But I'm not jealous about that because I know they are good friends of yours! But, it's very easy to get jealous when a girl you care about is spending time with her ex"

She fell asleep and hasn't read it yet. I don't know. This having feelings thing is so new to me. I just don't understand this stuff I guess

>>16730248
You'd be suprised how few people are actually capable of self-actualization, and even fewer who are capable of learning behaviour.

Most people only grow when life forces them to. And life generally doesn't force a whole lot on women in terms of reproductive/sexual success. Be kinda pretty, that's about it. The sexual stretegies between men and women just aren't equal. Most of the time the guy has to excert himself to get the girl, why go for the girl who makes you fight for it while she's just giving it away to other without much of a struggle? Why even fight?

Why pay for the date if chad got it for free? Friendship? My geek friend's are more interesting.

Now chad is a broke bitch with HIV, and suddenly i'm your hotshot while you ignored me back in college? You're a broke bitch with a worthless degree who partied too hard and i'm supposed to pick up your mess?

Most sluts in creative industries practically get by trading their sex for positions and jobs. Very few are actually talented, most just get their ass kissed.

Women, please answer honestly:

Say you like a guy, and he is friendly with everyone, yet he seems to be a bit friendlier with everyone else than he is with you. Does this make you lose interest in him, get more interested, or neither?

>>16730528
How would a girl notice he seems "a bit friendlier?"
Why doesn't this guy take a shot?

>>16728526
Guy here. I prefer cute.

>>16730402
Keeping this to yourself won't do you any good. Ask your partner if they were really high/sick/tired. Get them to be honest about how they feel about you sexually.

>>16730495
You can fuck without becoming attached. What a great feat. Surely won't make it easier to cheat.

And then there are the dumb ones who think that's she's somehow special to this walking clown with his STD stick. They get their heart broken time for some smuck who can kinda plays the guitar in a cool band.

Then there's the nerdy open relationship sluts, where the boyfriend is there to be nice, nurturing and only friend. The others are there to release her desire, which he's not getting. I can't even image the hell you're going through in such a relationship. I've seen this thing happen twice.

>>16730453
My policy is that actions speak louder than words, so based on her lack of interest I'd advice you to do everything you can think of to blow her away. You went across the planet for her, so don't give up like a little bitch.

>>16730402
Is it a one time occurrence or all the time.
My gf and I had an argument late at night and I fell asleep as soon as she said I love you.
She spent all night crying and I didnt even realize I didnt respond to her until she told me.

>>16730034
Because you're scared of ruining your vajay due to birth or because you're such a good samaritan?

>>16729910
Do it motherfucker. That's the most romantic thing I've ever heard.

>>16730644

$$$$$$$$$$$$$

femanons and guys

Can I get a opinion on this? I just feel confused would like someone to talk to >>16730479

>>16730644

gold diggah detected

just fucking propose to her instead

>>16730681
Too long. Try condensing it to a few lines. If interesting enough Ill read the original

For girls:

I have almost 15 year's worth of acne scarring, but I don't feel like it bothers me very much anymore...but I worry that other people might find it off putting, or have it make a bad first impression.

I have the money to do laser treatments, should I? I would like to be in a relationship with a woman but I wonder if this is affecting my chances.

>>16730635
Different anon, but no need to be such a cunt. She could have a family history of medical problems that she doesn't want to pass on, or pregnancy might be a serious health risk.

Both of these apply to me, but doctors still don't want to perform a tubal ligation on me.

>>16730701
Insecurity is affecting your chances.

>>16730528
This is a really indirect question. You're also assuming that she notices your behavior. If I like someone, I ask them out.

>>16730479
Okay, i read it. Either go balls out if you think you have a chance, or eradicate her from your social media and communication and pick up a new endeavour. You're hung up on her, and you're lying about not feeling jealous.
It's okay to feel jealous because it shows you care about the ??? you're having, but if there isn't any room for you in her life, you're wasting your goodwill and energy.

>>16729875
m8 you're supposed to piss afterwards. If you hold it in the chance of getting a UTI sky rockets.

Biology doesnt give a damn about your pet peeves.

>>16730699

It's hard to summerize Tbh. But-

Girl I'm friends with who i really like (she knows this) hangs out with her ex boyfriend often. I think they might have had sex tonight but I'm not sure. Either way, I feel jealous. We are not "together" so obviously she can do what she wants. But it hurts because I really care about her, and we flirt a lot. She cares about me too cause she says it a lot. I'm just hoping I'm overthinking this whole "she hangs out with her ex" type thing.

>>16730731
Either you become exclusive with her, or you stop bitching. It's not particularly difficult.

>>16730720

But I did say that I feel jealous. I said "it's very to become jealous when a girl you care about spends time with her ex". That's me saying I'm jealous. I'm not lying about that.

>>16729987
The difference is it's reversible, and in the simplest way. The only way to reverse a vasectomy is to get your dick cut up AGAIN and even then it's not guaranteed. Then there's the fact it costs a shit ton.

They're doing some cool shit with male birth control, and if it's as good as they say I'll glady take it. You can fuck off with that shit otherwise, a vasectomy is for when I'm done with the idea of having kids.

>>16730737

I hate being a fucking human

>>16730717

>Insecurity is affecting your chances.

It used to for sure. I was overweight and had serious acne for close to 15 years, but I've lost 40 pounds and and the acne, I feel good and look much better, I'm just wondering if I should get scar treatments even though the scars don't really bother me. I'm not blaming my scars or anything, I'm just wondering if I should do something about it.

>>16729875
Be glad shes not peeing on you. My gf explained to me that i stretched her our enough to put put pressure on her bladder and she needed to pee as soon as we were done.

>>16730731
Honestly I'd just move on. If she slept with her ex, let's be honest. Things arent done between the two of them and that's a level of bullshit I'd never want to deal with.

>>16730751
Do it if you want to. Don't do it to get girls.

>>16730762

*eyeroll*

Not even sure why I asked. I'm not expecting it to change anything, I just want to know if people find it repulsive or not.

>>16730751
Do you have pics you could show? Or if you don't want to show your face can you find a photo of someone with a similar level of scarring?

>>16730773
Then take a picture of your face and show it. We don't know how they look on you.

>>16730761

I hear you. It's just easier said than done. I got really attached to her, and I was a depressed fuck before we met. We've been talking every single day for the past few months and it's been so therapeutic for me. I went from being tired and depressed to feeling content and energized everyday. Because of her. I can't just cut contact with her. Not only would that hurt me, it would hurt her too. It might be beneficial to push away the romantic feelings I have. But I don't know how to do that. She's so sweet to me, and funny, and so cute.

I don't want to mess with this whole ex thing like you said. Fuck. I hate myself.

>>16730779
>>16730783

Can't take a picture atm, that's a fair statement though.

I'll ask some people IRL for their opinion.

>>16730787
Don't get all emotional. Get something to do besides being dependent on some bitch who likes the attention;
Pump weights (5x5) learn programming, write stories, learn to draw, get a job.

Girls

A girl I really like asked me about my favorite book, specifically to read it so we could talk about it. I gave her the title and she checked it out of the library immediately.

We're both fairly shy, and it just hit me there is a fair amount of sex and/or sexual discussion in it. I don't even know how to flirt.

Any advice on how to handle discussing sex for the first time?

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Question for girls.

21 year old male here, I went out with this girl, I knew her from high school and I hadn't see her in a while.

Anyways, 2 weeks ago she chatted me and I asked her out the same day, and we had a good time, but we barely have chatted to each other, it's just me asking questions and she answering, she doesn't even ask me shit like "how was your day" or "what are you doing right now", is she just not interested?

She was in a trip abroad for a week and tomorrow she arrives, and I was thinking in asking her out on the weekend but I'm starting to think we don't have much in common, what do?

This is the first grill ever that I asked out.

>>16730805

I don't think she just wants attention. She is very nice to me.

I have a Fulltime job, but I work enough I don't really have time for hobbies. I do bodyweight workouts at home, and this girl I've been talking about is helping to teach me how to read, write, and speak Italian. It's just difficult not to feel emotional when this girl pulled me out of a REALLY bad low I was stuck in.

>>16727356
if you're into the sjw scene, probably criticizing the trans movement
if you're a rational human, probably using fag/gay as an insult
>>16727516
yes
>>16727539
societal pressure/baby crazy
>>16728125
depends on the degree of unevenness. if it's apple to grapefruit, maybe
>>16728212
don't spill that info on your own, but if it comes up be honest
>>16728390
it's common. give some verbal feedback so she knows what's working
>>16728526
cute
>>16729039
just brush your teeth idiot
>>16729094
it's refreshing to not have someone go on and on about their s/o when it's not relevant
>>16729484
personal experience: not long either from male sensitivity or female pain. anecdotal experience: you might not finish either
>>16729505
good hygiene, dress better
>>16729678
i wouldn't
>>16729726
to date, i've had one gf who watched porn on a semi-regular basis, and we didn't live in close enough proximity where finding that stuff was possible. so indifferent unless it was super weird shit like /d/ shit or scat/piss
>>16729917
girls like guys to make the first move, but at some point she can approach you first
>>16730402
seek medical help

Also in all honesty my future girlfriend is like this as:

Cheerleader 1:"OH GOD THAT DORK Just came to this university!"
Cheerleader 2:" (I'm going to continue drawing this anime, Oh my gosh.) UGH Disgusting!"
Cheerleader 3: "Cindy put that DWEEBISH shit away, what's wrong?"
Cindy: "AS BEING THE MOST POPULAR GIRL IN THIS COLLEGE AND THE HEAD CHEERLEADER I AIN'T DATING THAT DWEEB IN MY LIFE!"
Zach: "Hey there Cindy. I make movies. ;)"
Cheerleaders: OH GOD PORN DIRECTOR LET'S LEAVE GIRLS!
Cindy: "Yea.... Let's.....Leave...... NO WAY IN MY LIFE AM I DATING HIM! AND I HAVE A BOYFRIEND THANK YOU VERY MUCH! (Nope I don't still single. SHUT UP!)"

Later on in life....

Cindy: "AH WHAT THE HELL!"
Zach: "See I knew you liked me. ;)"

And I meant this humorously. I wanted someone to laugh at this and it is good. Also theme song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qFhM1XZsh6o

How to get my boyfriend to stop criticizing me? He thinks that just because he's at a higher position at a bank and works full time and goes to school that I don't do enough in his eyes. I go to school and I work a part time job on the weekends, he does bring in most of the money and it sucks because I want to also but it's hard finding a job. Plus, to make things even worse, my schools administration fucked up and now I can't attend this semester and I started bawling when in private because I know I wont have classes to attend during the week so i'll most likely be at home and he's going to come home from work yelling at me for not doing anything for myself. I don't have a car, I just uber or walk. I do a lot of creative projects, but those things take a lot of research and materials i dont have the money for so of course it's going to look like I don't have anything to show. And literally most of my checks go towards groceries and food for us, I can never buy myself materials or even get myself a haircut because it'll seem selfish meanwhile he can spend around $200 of his money on weed and paraphernalia. I just feel so worthless. This happened last spring and I went into a depressive episode because I was convinced I couldn't do anything useful with myself.

>>16731082
You aren't going to be attending formal classes, so either go job hunting or study independently. Learn something new. Make ssomething new.

As long as you do something, you'll be fine

>>16730810
I get super scientific and detached. Idk if that'd be the best option for you.
Watch by her example, her comfort level.

>>16726025
She opens up a little bit more. Instead of things being more tense you both feel more relaxed.

How do I deal with overprotective parents? I'm 19 she is 18 still in highschool, I'm 2 years graduated. Anyone have experience with this?

>>16731074

That was lame

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hey i need help from both genders on this
short version (ask for specifics): been in love with a girl for months, talked to her, got rejected, after the rejection we got surprizingly close, like buddies (?). i feel like shit, everytime i try to distance myself she complains to our mutual friends, everytime i come close, the same shit starts again, i'm trapped in a prison of my own making, how to proceed in order to save my sanity?

How do I tell a girl im not interested in a date we had planned for later in the week?

>>16731121
Tell her this. You can't be friends with her, it is too painful. If she cares she'll give you space. If you get over her reconnect.

>texting girl for ~3 weeks
>accumlate over 3,000 texts between us
>have called her attractive, asked her if i could take her on a date (she said yes), etc
>she's always "busy" or "doesnt know what's going on today" when i ask her just to hang out for a few hours
>answers all my texts promptly and friendly, texts me a lot on her own accord

is there a tactful way to just tell her that i dont want to talk to her anymore if she doesn't have the same interest as me?

>>16731117

That looks like hell

>>16731130
won't i seem..weird, and stuck and whatnot? i mean, i talked to her in summer, i don't think she knows i'm not over her yet

>>16729619
My issue as well, unfortunately. We are 21 and she still probably wishes she was 12 or so. I think the problem is that she has trouble coming to terms with what being an adult means.

Sorry to report, but this is one of the issues I'm breaking up with her over. I've grown a lot since we started dating and if we can't grow together, one of us is always going to be holding the other back.

What little thing can I have in my apartment that screams confidence, cultured, etc?

>bookshelf full of books, textbooks, etc
>multiple guitars
>wine rack full of wine

Anything else? Max budget is $2,500.

>>16731138
Just stop talking to her.

What's the easiest way to make a girl feel like shit? Some whore cheated on a friend of mine and doesn't know who I am. I want to make this girl cry.

>>16731194
Maybe you should stay out of people's business and take your bro out for some strippers

I have the reputation of a creep in school, mainly due to my own actions and sayings and the rumors spread from them.

How do I undo this?

>>16728255
Mine look totally different though. It's not like they look the same but one is a little bigger. Mine are a cups and one of them is more of a point and the other is a little bigger but rounded out.

>>16731926
I can't say too much without pictures or something similar. But one of her breasts is noticeably higher and larger.

I mean the fact is you can't really change it, so don't stress it. If a guy is at the point where he only notices when you're at bed, I really doubt he'll mind.

>>16730622
Well, my work schedule allows two weeks of vacation every month and a half. No job opportunities in her country unless you're highly educated.
I'll try to think of something. I can't think of anything I did wrong since I even helped give a presentation for one of her classes. I'm thinking maybe the reality of distance hit her and she needs to think about it.

I mean, she even started autistically messaging me like a robot when I called her a cyborg after she watched a romance movie and said she didn't understand the emotions of these humans. I played with it, it was cute.

Maybe you're right about blowing her away. Maybe it's a test to see if I do like her and didn't want to just try to bang across the world?

>>16731138
I tend to get upset in these situations, along the lines of not talking to her anymore consider sending her an almost commanding text:

"hey, you always say you want to go out but then when the time rolls around you're always busy. Do you want to go out or not?"

If she says no, stop talking
If yes, set up a time and talk a little until then and go pick her up. And see what happens from there.

>>16731179
Different sized Mason jars full of shit like rice and beans or open with fucking lavender sprigs and shit poking out of it on a display shelf in the kitchen somewhere.

>>16731605
Do something that weighs heavier on opinion than your rumors do. Like save someone's life or get blackmail on the most popular kids and force them to be your friends.

>>16731926
That's going to happen with smaller boobs. Surgery if you're really insecure but chances are most guys won't really notice or care about the difference. Maybe they'll poke fun but it's mainly just situational and not at you directly.

>>16731926
That just adds character to them. Don't worry about it anon. Most guys don't care that your tits aren't perfectly symmetric. What matters is that they're YOUR tits and he has access to them which makes them the best pair of tits on the entire planet for your bf.

Girls

Do you realize that you fuck with guys emotions pretty easily sometimes?

I met a girl a few weeks ago. End up really liking her. I open myself up to her (something I've never been able to do in the past). She told me that she likes me, but after a bad breakup doesn't want anything. Next thing you know. She's back with her ex. I'm fucking pissed off and confused. I feel vulnerable. Like I open myself up, show a side of me no one has seen. She likes it, yet goes back to her shitty ex? What the fuck. This hurts