Ok so i know im a shirty person for doing this but i have reason
>fiancé sends nudes to some random guy 8 months ago
>we fight and ultimately i stay for our son.
>teust grows back and love to
>she goes out to a work function in the xity and has a hotel room provided to her for it.
>said she was going out with the girls aftwr work function.
>Ii try to call her to say goodnight and ily and other bs.
>no answer so i go eh its past 12 she is still oit with the girls.
>open her ipad and chexk her fb msgs cause in the back of my mind still some trust issues.
See her msgin some random guy she must have met at the work function and send him winky faces saying she was chilling in the bed of her room and decided not to go out with the girls...
>guy replied saying he was on his way up there.
Is this bitch cheating ?
I really want help guys i wanna stay for my kid but if this bitch is cheating im so fucking out .. also getting marries in less then 60 days ...
She is definitely cheating. Even if she manages to convince you that she hasn't fucked him (which she has), she's still been cheating on you emotionally, and your relationship can never recover from this.
Explain what you found to her, and that regardless of her 'explanations' (read:excuses), that you simply don't trust her any more.
End the relationship.
You need to break up with her. It's worse on your son to grow up seeing his dad miserable while being constantly cucked.
She's also going to turn it around on you as you spouting on her, or some shit like that. She's also going to lie through her teeth knowing that you'll have a tendency to believe her no matter how ridiculous the lies are because you love her. This taking advantage of love and trust may be the single most repulsive thing about cheating.
Don't settle for a person like her, it will just make your life constantly miserable. There are so many women out there who aren't awful, no matter what /r9k/ says.
Thanks for the replys guys OP is back ill update you when she gets home... i looked at her msgs again snd she has been sending "cheeky" snapchsts to soke guy again i am on the fucking edge atm ... just chilling out with my son and watching movies until she gets here.. im thinking about packing a bag ..
>ill update you when she gets home
>>guy replied saying he was on his way up there.
>Is this bitch cheating ?
WELL GEE, I WONDER, IT'S A MYSTERY FOR THE AGES
Sorry, OP. I'm not one to cry 'cheating', but this seems pretty clear cut.
Just leave with your son, and print out the messages and have them on the table or some shit when she comes back. Use that shit in court so it can help you get custody over your son.
Your relationship is doomed btw, she isn't going to change and it sounds like she's done this before. I'm sorry.
You should get a paternity test done before you break up, surely you can hold out for a while more.
Relationship is obviously over though so get your stuff sorted out, depending on the phase of relationship you probably could also visit a lawyer before you let her know to secure your exit.
This. At times like this, you might want confrontation, but you're at your most legally vulnerable, above all, PROTECT YOURSELF.
Think things through, document what you can, contact a lawyer, and perhaps even look into paternity tests if you want. But act BEFORE she can panic.
What do i even need to contact a lawyer for? I dont have shit in my name except.my car and its barley running ... we rent so im fine there the most she is going to get is paternity (alimony) payments and they will make her dns test my kid to get it ... altho i am pretty sure he is mine..
you contact the lawyer for advice on how to keep the kid, unless you prefer to send payments over.
plus whether the kid is yours or not at this point the point will appoint you as his father and you'd still be stuck paying child support.
This shit is disgusting. Bitch is clearly cheating and there's still a chance OP will not keep his kid and will have to send this bitch money so she can spend it on dicks?! What in the fucking hell is wrong with this garbage ass law system?!
It's a holdover from a time when women weren't allowed to work, when dates were basically job interviews (hence the man paying), getting married was scoring a job, and getting divorced was breaking contract and damning the girl to potential destitution without financial support.
The fundamental issue has been long resolved, but everything connected to it is taking time to catch up.
Okay, first things first, you are NOT loosing your child. Your son will ALWAYS be in your life. It might get harder at times, but whatever happens between you and his mother does NOT have to affect your contact with your son.
No-one lives with their son forever, but you will always be a huge part of his life, and at the very worst he will always be only a phonecall away.
Good, I feel bad for you and the kid, but neither you or him deserve to go through such bullshit.
I hope you get out quickly if you find out he's not yours, get our of Aus and never look back.
And they call me a shitposter
OP is here
She got home i didnt hug or kiss her .. i was outside playing with my kid in the water (fu aus summer) i also took her pic out of my wallet and left it on the table.
She i begging me to talk to her but i havnt said 10 words to her yet. I pretty much dont know what to say. I also have to go help my brother fix his house up today and i sorta want to talk to him first
Do everything at your own pace. I'm sure you could use more time to digest this shit, just don't start to think about salvaging something that's forever going to plagued by mistrust and bitterness.
Best of luck to you, man.
Well what are you gonna do if she doesn't crack? What if she remains resolute that she didn't do anything? Even worse, what if she admits to that guy coming to her room but they "didn't do anything"? Are you going to believe that? Are you honestly going to believe that it couldn't happen again? Or (given how easily it happened) that it hasn't happened before?
Are you just going to live the rest of your life with a woman you no longer trust?
These are questions you may need to ask yourself over time. I suggest going to your brother's, and talk this shit out with him first.
- kid sees their parents as miserable and not happy but stay together anyways, gets a fucked up view of relationships
- kid sees their parents divorce and learns that when a relationship is no longer making you happy, you leave
I got to endure the first one and I still have to work on my attitude about relationships and the thought of marrying someone still seems like guaranteed misery because of what I saw my parents go through
you are getting cucked son...gather evidence for the courts...fabricate a drug addiction or shes a drunk and get photos so you can use it against her for the courts over the kids and custody
expose her on her wedding day and make it a viral video..people LOVE that shit ultimate payback lel :P
This is a choice you have to make and it'll be with you for the rest of your life.
>stay with a whore and remain a beta for the rest of your life.
>leave her and keep your dignity.
If you haven't married her yer this makes it easier, but if you have a fetish for suffering, and you like the prospect of suffering for the rest of your life, stay with the whore and marry her.
Last update. OP here.
I told her if she let me put it in her ass that i would forgive her.
When i finished she rolled over for a kiss and i was already up and packing
Ahe asks wtf is going on
I say im not forgiving you becuase you let me bury my dick in your asshole
Only a whore would think someone else would do that
She wtfs out and starts yelling im almost finiahed
I qent and hugged and kissed my kid told her she can suck dicks untill she dies cause she is just a cumsumpster to every man she will ever meet and i left... feels good ... i think ty anons for the help
I couldn't have said it better myself.
This is going to be big, OP. life changing. You've got to get out She'll never stop being the kind of woman to stone-faced lie. She'll never stop wanting attention from randoms. It'll just hurt.
Heart goes out to you, OP. Not everyone is terrible.