hey /adv/ how do i not feel like shit about my average length and average girth cock? I'd kill for more girth...
I'll never be the guy she tells her friends about his cock, i'll never get to show off when skinny-dipping or show off when grinding with a girl, i'll never be the guy she sleeps with and talks about how it's so much bigger than her bf's, never be the fuck buddy with a fat dick, etc, etc.
especially because the girls i'm most attracted to are girls with big butt/thighs, and more some reason it always seems like they like bigger dicks and/or black guys
Same situation as you op, it might not be as good on your end but girls always go on and on about guys who give amazing head, you might not get as much out of it and it won't be as cool but at least its something
Youll always feel like shit and want more.
Im 7.5x5.5 and pray to be 8x6.
I think max boner is 8 but thats like right before I ejaculate and its hard to measure. the base is 6 though girth which is best Im getting.
Just accept it. No matter your size youll always want to be bigger.
yeah but that guy with the big dick can give amazing head and then proceed to fill her up as well. any technique a merely average guy can do -- so can someone with a girthy cock AND they get to have a fat dick that easily hits all the nerve endings.
This insecurity was like... spread to me by my friend who got "cheated" on by his girl (tho they weren't officially gf and bf) with his roommate who was known for being hung. he could always hear thru the wall when his roommate had sex and also heard when the girl he had been playing around with hooked up with the roommate. he said the moans she had were drastically different than when he had sex with her and lots of 'oh my godddd' 'fuckk' etc type comments while fucking...
yeah i dunno man just after he told me about that shit i now feel like all this cuckold shit spreads too online and interracial sites (blacked, etc) and it makes me feel inadequate (i mean.. if i would 100% of the time choose a girl with above average size booty, above average thighs, etc. why wouldnt they choose above average dick for their dream guy?)
Like I said, its not as good and it never will be but at least its something, I got fucked once like that and it fucked me up bad desu, I don't talk to girls anymore unless its strictly platonic and I haven't fucked since then and my cock is below average so yeah I just wanna kms
Women are terrible at gauging size.
If you fuck a woman like a pro she'll think an average cock is bigger than average. As long as you don't have micro penis shit does not matter, it really fucking doesn't. Men care a thousand times more about penis size than women do, at the end of the day the only thing having a big dick is going to do for you is to have more bragging rights to other men online.
8x6 here. Ite never given me confidence. No one knows how big your dick is until you have them in bed. I've never seen it as lucky or that I won the genetic lottery. I'm also 6'3 and don't pay much attention to that.
What I do pay attention to are my shortcomings. I think we just pay attention to what our shortcomings are compared to the perfect guy.
dude... how many girls have you slept with? you don't think being 6'3" has helped you in that regard? you're tall and have a big dick. imagine life if you were average height, average dick like me. 5'9"...
I prefer guys with average dicks. Blowjobs are better, I even manage to deep throat. Sex is great anyway. I can have anal. And, usually, they eat you out so well.
Just so much better overall.
Yes, a big dick is nice to look at, but during sex there's no comparison. Average is way better.
I had sex with two guys, one was big (8,5), the other was average (around 6).
I came with both, and could do much more stuff with the average one. Anal and blowjobs are a pain with a big dick. Even sex hurt for me, for, like, the first minute. And doggy was annoying, he had to be so careful because if he took me too roughly it hurt.
It is my experience, I don't want to say every girl is like me, but if I could chose I'd go for the average one.
Slept with 6 girls and I'm 27 years old. Yes Maybe looks, height, personality, and intelligence has helped me get laid but it's not something I pride myself in. I don't go around all smuglike because of these qualities, they don't boost my confidence be ause I don't think about them. I guess I just focus on the negative es
>if I could chose I'd go for the average one.
This is only true if you are a big anal fan.
And honestly 5 inches around is average so it doesnt seem like you know what youre talking about if you think it would effect anal. Unless he was an idiot and try to go balls deep
The bigger guy was really girthy. We had to be super careful about everything and I couldn't manage to take it all. Anal was out of question, tried once but it was too much, I wanted to cry after 20 seconds. When I was on top, it hurt. During doggy, it hurt. He tried to fuck my mouth, it hurt.
Might be just my experience, I didn't have enough partners for this to be statistically relevant in any way, but sex was easier with the average one.
the answer is don't worry about your dick size
if you're around average with the ability to go balls deep without causing her pain, you are in great shape.
>she can deepthroat you easier
>anal isn't as intimidating for her
>you can go balls deep and do it roughly without hesistation
just work on oral technique, fingering, and stamina. having an 8x6" dick is nice, but being able to get her off 2-3 times before you even put it in AND be able to go for a long time is a lot more important
Yes, but it took me 15-20 minutes of foreplay to be wet enough to take it without feeling pain. And we had to be careful, he couldn't be too rough or it hurt.
I came with both, so I don't know. The average one was more inexperienced, but when he understood what I liked sex was great. The other was way more experienced so he made me come from the start.
I can't fucking understand inches, he was around 21 cm. That's what I meant. 8 inches and half.
I could barely touch thumb and index while jerking him off. That, to me, is being girthy.
don't fall for the "5 inch length is perfectly average" meme. a 5 inch dick is absolutely small. any guy with a 5 inch dick can take a photo/video of themselves and you'll be crushed. it's puny.
i'm supposedly in the upper percentiles of length and girth and i still feel small. it's ridiculous.
also, don't ever ask your gf if she has been with a guy bigger than you. you don't want to know. female anons, just lie and say that he's the biggest.
Girthy six inches reporting in OP.
I still feel small.
Its psychological. You just gotta get it through your head that every guy wants an extra inch or two, and every girl really doesn't care all that much as long as you can use it well.
end of the day, it's what you got to work with anon. no point being upset about something that's genetic. that's like being upset about being whatever ethnicity you are. it's pathetic and accomplishes nothing.
this is my dick. there are many like it but this one is mine.
and just get good at eating pussy.
But girls freely admit (at least online in anonymity) that girth DOES matter (length not as much)
Yeah but eating her out and having her come is a much different orgasm than the one she gets when Chad Thundercock has her legs pinned back and her pussy filled up. You can't really make a girl 'dick drunk' from eating her out
I have no clue, honestly. I didn't spend much time measuring his cock and don't have much comparison anyway. Plus, I don't really care, it's just a cock.
His ex said that he was "21 cm and as thick as a redbull can". Does it mean anything to you?
>But girls freely admit (at least online in anonymity) that girth DOES matter (length not as much)
Try talking to a female for once lol. Length first. Girth second.
Girth only matters if its really small. Since men's girth doesnt vary as much they cant really tell the difference in their head well. Hell you could show me a 5.5 girth object and a 5 girth object and I would barely be able to tell.
Its all about length. But you cant be a pencil.
kek. Thats not big. Thats queen size exclusive.
Were talking big and usable here. not 13x8.
big>average>too big too fit
That being said the fact that you had sex makes that unlikely. At 6 most women cant fix a guy in their mouth.
>Girls all said length didn't matter much after 5 or 6"
Im actually crying from laughter.
Women cant tell girth. They only think of pencil dicks when they say that. This is too good. 5" is barely over half the length of the vagina when aroused.
8x6, 5'9 here, 25 yrs. I've had sex with 6 girls total. all 5/10 or lower.
it's never given me confidence because I'm much more insecure about my tiny skinny body and my shitty hair and my general gay appearance. and the fact that I'm not interesting at all.
sure girls like you when they're having sex with you, but I'm 100% convinced bigger pecs/traps/biceps would turn girls on way more than a big penis. especially if that guy had an identity, like passions or something he stood for.
Put average and girthy next to each other and the difference us night and day. See this amateur video where two girls compared their bfs dicks: http://m.mylust.com/videos/52811/two-amateur-webcam-chicks-play-with-big-dicks-teasing-me/
>hey /adv/ how do i not feel like shit about my average length and average girth cock?
same way you stop feeling a certain way about anything. decide that it's not worth your time to feel that way. keep deciding that and telling yourself that until you believe it.
of course, it always helps if you address the root (heh) of the feeling. if you are insecure about your cock, you are probably insecure about other things too. address your general feelings of insecurity and a lot of the specific insecurities will take care of themselves.
Obviously if you have them right next to each other. But if youre only seeing them 1 at a time like most humans it makes it impossible to get a relative scale.
its much easier to detect something an inch longer than it is an inch girthier
Girls can tell if a dick is filling their vagina or not dude. Even just watching porn you can tell if a vagina is "hugging" around the cock or if the dude is just average (small for porn) and there's not as much friction
Yes for massive size differences, which is the only thing a women can tell. Male girth does not vary like length. its generally all 5-5.5. Which is impossible to tell easily. Stop learning about sex from porn lol.
yeah, I know. it's weird when you see a guy in a video and are like damn that's huge, I feel like shit. then you see their "real" size and are like whaaaat. The guy Ramon who is always on those monsters videos? looks like a fucking 2 liter. when in actuality he's (a still impressive) 7-7.5x5.5-6.
don't get all your info from 4 chan. I have an average dick and I make my girlfriend cum multiple times a night while fucking her. She loves it. The internet is no good for sex advice, just jump in, go for it, and find out on your own.
one time I had sex with this girl, she was a complete slut (feminazi, empowered, also sexually abused when younger). she unprompted told me that she's had a few bigger and most smaller, but that I was like only the second one to make her cum with insertion alone. so, biggest isn't always best.
I know that feel OP but you just gotta realize sex for women is very much a psychological thing and the penis is just a tool. I am 30 years old and have had sex with more women than I can remember and you just gotta trust me on this.
Women want a dominant man, someone who feels powerful and makes them feel powerless. Eye contact, sounds, the way you position yourself, the way you manhandle her, the way you touch her - all of these things matter ten thousand times more than how many inches your dick is measuring. I found that the more horny you
get them trough this part the easier it is for them to cum/the more they feel fulfilled by the sex. Remember that there is not a cock big enough in the world to fill the soul of a unsatisfied woman after you're done fucking in 3 minutes.
The only thing I would feel would be a major problem is an actual micro penis, but since you don't have that its of no issue.
honestly if your dick is at least 5 maybe 5.5 inches and you're confident and dominant enough in bed it won't matter
sexual arousal for women is 98% psychological, just be a total fucking dom
Yeah but I want to be the guy that leaves her in a quivering puddle after sex. Where she's dick drunk and bask in her after glow -- leave her so physically satisfied she's fine being broke with me and forever ruined for any guys after me. I wanna be the life-changing fuck.
Women's vaginas vary in size too. They are basically inverted penises. Being average I was too big for my ex, I was able to hit her cervix without condoms. Current gf can certainly go deeper, she loves it deep too, pretty obvious that she's like it deeper than I can go but that doesn't matter to her. In my opinion, learn how to fuck good and hard in doggy. Learn the angle to get max depth and fuck like that for as long as possible. It will wear her out.
average isn't good though. that's like a C in school. or an IQ of 100. Yeah it's average but average doesn't count for much in today's world
I'm talking more girth. i'm somewhat fine with not going super deep, I just kinda lament not being able to totally fill up a girl so her pussy hugs my cock and is every so slightly stretching/so she has to "get used" to me. Even if sex with a fat cock starts out slower, it seems like she ends up being more submissive/pleased by a thick cock. Here's one example (only semi-amateur) with a swinger semi-reluctantly taking a BBC:
She at first says oh it won't fit, sorry no, and kinda moves away but he is persistent and eventually gets to fuck her, and she's submissive as fuck. Eventually after he cums and leaves she says noo come back.
lol my dicks not wide bruh. right at average (5" girth) or maybe slightly below 4.8 or something idk. doesn't look 'thick' in the slightest and nothing like the cocks in porn (which can be 6" or 6.5" girth, shane diesel (way too big for most girls) is 7")
And? Like I said my ex didn't like it. Putting up with a girthy man for 5 minutes or getting paid to do it is one thing. Having a relationship or fwb deal is something different.
and even shane diesel, the thickest dude in porn, gets some crazy positive reactions you don't see an average guy getting. Watch this from 20:00-23:00 and tell me that's not amazing
Take advice from somebody with an average length dick (17cm), but the thickness of (at least) Shane Diesel.
Everything boils down to thickness. The pleasure, the penetration of sensible spots and even her feeling when she sucks your dick. Making them vomit won't bring you much, but having their mouth full and needing to use their tongue and saliva extensively will make them more happy than a forceful deep-throat where she doesn't even get it all in (btw not all girls can [or can learn] to deep throat, some just can't and I even met virgins who could deep-throat right of the bat).
Also when it comes to sex most women prefer if you're somebody who adjusts and if you're sombody that gives an intensive or passionate expericen. Sex is not all about your dick and never will.
If you can be good at oral sex, have endurance, use many positions, use your hands; there are a ton of things that turn people on, make them hot and can get them to their sexual peak. Just find out what suits you and your partner the best.
Also the advice given on here a couple times about having the same sexual partner for a while to get adjusted is good. I didn't follow it most of the time though, but I'm another category.
Good luck. Have fun OP. Don't forget to use your hips.
P.S. Will tell more, if you have specific questions.
>Everything boils down to thickness
You meant length right. most women wont have sex with you if your girth is over 6'. 13x5 is better than 6x7. One goes in a vagina. the other doesnt.
Virgins I swear
Omg no no no this would never make me cum. I had a guy with a pretty big dick, and the only reason it was good was because he knew how to use it. Cervix tapping is never okay for me
Okay I think I'm going to stop you here. You may not like what you are about to read but I am going to say it. After doing some.research, I doubt the size of your genitals have anything to do with your success in sex. I know I sound like a Dr. Phill, but it is just a different opinion.
Your dick is your dick. No point agonizing over it. Use your anger at God as an energy source, and you will have the ability to do many things.
come on guys. I have never nor heard my friends even use the word girth. That is a guy term used to pretend women don't care about size. We do but we settle but unless it is really small it is not something we think about 24/7. I always find it funny that men obsess about dicks more than women do. I concede we all remember the guy with the big one or muse among friends if that guy or that one is big and will brag a bit if our bf or the guy we just had sex with is well endowed and will go so far as to say bigger is better. Point is there are just not that many guys with big penises so if the supply is low of course the big one stands out.
Just accept your genetics.
But if you are really concerned about it, since you cannot make it grow "naturally" like other muscles, you can make changes related to your wills by surgical procedures.
But, you know, life is not only about cock size; biologically speaking, sexual behavior (therefore, sexual selection) exerts great influence upon individuals, BUT as humans, we have self-consciousness and this specific trait implies a lot of complexity in our entire behavior. So, as humans, it's not about the physical, if you know what I mean...
It is up to you, anyway.
Same situation as you. I compensate by being really, really good at giving oral, and knowing exactly how my GF likes it. You might try adjusting your angle of penetration to stimulate the G spot more.
Finally an honest answer. I know girls talk about size, as I've been around conversations where they are talking about their latest hookup and are bragging about his dick. Or even one that showed off a dick pic she had to her friend, who was also impressed.
Question: How much does a big dick actually enhance the amount of attraction you feel toward a guy? ie. If a girl is cute but has average ass I don't feel *extreme* attraction toward her, but if it's a cute girl AND she has a bubble butt I feel that primal, strong, knuckle-biting sexual attraction to her -- is it the same for a hot guy with a big dick/bulge? it just takes attraction to an even higher level? just trying to understand a little of the female psyche (lol never gonna happen)
>You might try adjusting your angle of penetration to stimulate the G spot more.
I can't emphasize this enough. Every girl is a bit different, but usually you can find a sweet spot, ideal sort of insertion movement/angle that makes them go wild.
With my GF, it involves being missionary, but with our bodies forming about a 45 degree angle, and with me propping myself up a bit, so that my penis rubs hard against the front of the vagina (that is, in missionary, the part closest to me), with the head (mine curves up significantly) rubbing especially hard against her g-spot. I do this after eating her to orgasm, and just maintain a rhythm that she likes while being a little rough, pulling her hair or lightly choking her.
The reality is that while us girls enjoy a bigger dick, we don't actually give that much of a fuck unless it's literally so small that we can barely feel it. An average dick is sufficient. What is important are foreplay skills, how long you last, etc. Which, you know, are skills that can be improved over time anyway.
Heck what you'd consider average would probably be large for me since I've dated a Chinese guy for ages and his cock is on the smaller side. But I still enjoy sex because he's amazing at fingering and foreplay, and he'd kinky as fuck. Plus he uses various positions to really get in deep so it feels bigger than it actually is.
I've been dating for 20 years, slept with maybe 200 or so women, and am what's called a 'grower, not a shower'. Even then, my dick, at full girth is maybe 6 inches long and lacks and substantial girth .. but guess what, I've never heard a woman complain about it, to my face, or to mutual friends.
To the point, that while in mixed company, with prospective and old fucks, women have recommend their friends take me up on an offer. Dick size really doesn't matter.
Not much. As an example, I've hooked up with two different hung guys in the past. Only one of them I enjoyed and it wasn't because he was hung, it was because he knew how to use his dick and wasn't selfish in bed. When I fantasize about him I remember what a dirty talker he was and how spontaneous he was. The big dick was only a bonus, and it's not something I would make a requirement. Big dicks don't feel good if the guy doesn't know how to use it and just slams it in after watching how to do it from a porn video. It hurts like hell and the other guy made my vagina bleed. Not fun.
>Big dicks don't feel good if the guy doesn't know how to use it and just slams it in after watching how to do it from a porn video. It hurts like hell and the other guy made my vagina bleed. Not fun.
Hell, I'm pretty average sized, but my GF is small and I actually bruised her cervix in doggy once. The average vagina really isn't that deep to begin with, and most average guys get pretty deep with doggy. Use skill, not size.
interesting.. can you shed any light on the "cuckold" fetish building online where guys watch their gf/wife taking a bigger cock that she seems to like more? i've also heard from female friends that a big cock is better for a one night stand situation, any truth to this?
OP here, another thing that bugs me is I can never participate in a devils threesome (MFM). I turned down sex with a solid 9/10 in college who wanted a MFM threesome (no guy contact) just because I didn't want to come up as the smaller guy. But the fantasy of me being the bigger guy in a 3some and the other guy isn't as "effective" is hot to me. like i'm the more alpha male and out-compete the other guy
I'd kill to have a dick like that, mine is average and I've not had any complaints but on my frame, over 6ft it would look better and I wouldnt be so self conscious about it, and that makes me insecure when i hook up wth girls. Want to post a pic of your alpha dong and make me feel even shittier?
I don't really care that my girth is not even 5 inches because my dick works just fine and people seem to think it's big. Length works just fine on any girls who haven't been stretched out by a monster cock (ie the only ones worth fucking in the first place).
I'd swap too. I have a lot of opportunity to hook up but it kills my appetite knowing that I dont measure up to expectations. You can change your hair and your body and still look good naked. I'm stuck with what I have.
Don't be so worried about MMF
I have a 10" dick, not bone pressed.
I have been in MMF threesomes.
I'm pretty sure none of the girls considered me the 'better' fuck.
I cum in 5 minutes then I'm gone, and the other guy has her to himself
Jesus what a horror story. Life is unfair.
Listen, OP. I have fucked girls who I know have had bigger dicks than mine inside them. But if you do it right, she will crave your dick regardless. I just give it all my effort to fuck them correctly. In a way you have to subordinate them with other things than your dick (unless it's like extremely small which I don't think is the case with you, really). Warm her up like crazy, massage her body, work your way to her vagina, make her really wet. Head isn't necessary but it can help. Then when you fuck her just show her who is boss while keeping up the intimacy and intensity. Work your way up generally, in the end you think about stools and your grandma as you slam her as hard as you can, while even semi-choking or pulling her hair but in any case being firm with your hands.
A big cock is easy mode, but I think I've done fucked some girls that any man will find it hard to outdo.
TLDR: Git gud.
I am aware, friend. I'm only now making the transition into viewing women as toys for my pleasure.
But if you want to impress, and it is what OP wants, then you can't override the girl.