Ok guys. I'm a 30 year old man. My girlfriend is 24 and has 2 kids from a previous marriage. I know i know. Cuck hahahaha. Got it.
Anyway. I own a home, have a stable job, am great to her and her kids.
She, lives at home with her parents, and the kids are there. The baby's father isn't involved much in their life. Once or twice a month he will get them for a week for me and her to be alone.
So the argument we are having arised last night and continued through the day. We were hanging out at her parents house, because I rode by for dinner she mad. She put the kids to bed and we were hanging on her couch while everyone else in the house was asleep. And she wouldn't blow me. She said she doesn't want to do that her house because someone might walk out and catch us blah blah blah.
Am i being unreasonable for pretty much demanding sex? I fucking take this girl out all the time and her kids. Her whole thing was "i just dont like doing it at my parents house its weird" even though when we first started seeing eachother she did it all the time.
I feel like she's trying to get me to ask her and her shitty little kids to come live with me and if there is anything that bothers me it's the constant feeling of someone trying to make me into a punk.
Am i betabux? I fuck the dogshit out of her when when we fuck. She shivers. I do it well. I have a nice social circle but i honestly have no idea if this bitch loves me or if she is just with me because she sees me as being the one to support her and her shitty little kids.
Just dump her, you sound like a total cockhead.
Protip: It's never OK to have any kind of sex in a public area of a house when there are children in that house (EVEN IF THEY ARE ASLEEP). That's what bedrooms, bathrooms and locked doors are for.
It's about the power play. It's not about the actual blowjob. It's the "no i don't wanna do it at my house but if we were at ur house i'd blow your socks off". She didn't say that but it was implied. Something along the lines of "when we do it here it's just not the same".
Tell me I'm being retarded on this. The feeling I have is that she wants me to let her move in with her kids and now she's witholding sex until i can make that a reality.
>she's witholding sex until i can make that a reality.
Sex at your parents is fucking disgraceful, it is definitely weird.
How would you feel if a visitor came on your fucking sofa? This is real life, not a porno dude.
Also, fuckin cuck.
I'm a grown man. I don't let my friends hook up with their dates here. Thats irrelevant.
Sometimes it goes 2 weeks before she can stay the night at my house because of our work schedules and her ex husband's schedule and her schedule.
So sometimes we just have to make eachother cum quick and fast on her parents couch. It never used to be a problem but all of a sudden it is now.
Her parent probably saw or heard and gave her shit for it. I bet she's just a little embarrassed to tell you, like she worries it might make her sound childish. She's probably self conscious that she depends on them for a house.
She's gotta keep her living arrangement problem free, so she's probably trying to mitigate problems with her parents/hosts.
Jesus, man, put yourself in her shoes for a second.
Sounds to me like she just doesn't want to do sexual stuff in her family home?
Has she ever done sexual stuff there before? If yes she's power playing youc if no, everything is okay and she prob just genuinely feels wierd sucking dick in the room she grew up in....
Bro. I would never date some used chick who has two fucking kids. She was the fool who made the mistake of having two children with someone she doesn't truly love. There is a special person for you out there that has no kids and might have had a better upbringing than this girl.
>So sometimes we just have to make eachother cum quick and fast on her parents couch. It never used to be a problem but all of a sudden it is now.
Maybe her parents or her children saw, and now she feels uncomfortable. I had a similar situation with a long-term relationship when I still lived with my mother. She actually pulled me aside and hit me, saying that she would kick me out if I did it again. Some parents are just like that, and she has to think of not just you and herself, but her kids.
did u just say shitty kid?so about u being good with the kid was just an act?duh its weird doing it in parents house.u r 30 and u dont even how it feels?maybe shes the type that prefer only you can see her like that in sex situation... =_=
It sounds like you're ridiculously insecure about this relationship, it doesn't sound like you have much respect or regard for this girl, so why are you with her? You're acting like you're better than her, acting like you're above getting entangled in her life, yet you don't seem to have any better options available. Fix your attitude and re-examine your priorities
I love her. But most of arguments stem from sex. I want it more than she does and it's just frustrating. I've calmed down since the original post. I just don't know what to do. I'm not ready to move in with her yet. And i'm not ready to being relegated to sex a few days out of the month. So yeah. That's the frustration.
Hey idiot, it's time to get creative.
1) Can't her parents watch the kids while she stays at your house more often? It's called baby sitting.
B) If she's uncomfortable having sex in her parents house, how about walking her out to your parked car. Live a little, why don't you.
Girls with kids act super slutty so you think you can get away with this kind of behavior all throughout the relationship but the reality is that they're just overcompensating for being a poor catch with baggage by attending to a "man's every need".
Eventually they start feeling like you respect them and enjoy your time with them so they cull back on the "huge slut single mom" deal so that they can manipulate you. They're pretending you're their husband and not boyfriend and that's why you're posting here today. She views you like a partner. You cannot be her partner. She has to be reminded that this relationship could die at any minute and she needs to want to blow you rather than want you to deal with not getting blown that night. She will lay out some excuse like someone might walk out, or that she's not feeling well...and might even offer another time.
Your response when she said no should have been to leave or start making your own decisions at least, not dictated by her. Now she's wearing the pants in that conversation and you know it so you're angry about it enough to make a thread to vent and hear the responses you want. "Break up!" "Fuck that single mom cunt!" are all in the mix and you like it.
So do you really want help or do you just want to be told what you're already feeling?
The alpha response would have been to not care about her kids and just whip your dick out. She will protest. Imply she should have gotten under a blanket or something and blown you, since having her kids see is important right? And if they saw nothing there should be no problem.
The omega response would have been to whip your phone out, load up some porn, and start jacking it right in front of her. Her response would be grossed out, but your indifference would have been HILARIOUS. Way more entertaining than whatever the fuck you were watching on TV, and putting that cunt in her place by showing how replaceable she actually is.
>Am i being unreasonable for pretty much demanding sex?
Yes. Full stop. Sex isn't something you can just "turn on" the desire for at will, as hard as that is to understand for frustrated dudes who just can't get it whenever they want to understand.
That being said dude, you are getting cucked hard. And I don't mean taking care of kids, because kids are fun and all adults should be looking to help them out and be nice and shit because it's a shitty society we create otherwise. I mean because it's clear to me you are a HUGELY insecure, beta asshole piece of shit and your wife can't stand you. But that's your own fault, doucher.
You definitely seem more than angry, you seem entitled and pompous because you're in a better situation than her. I don't know her life. Maybe she made poor decisions, maybe she was in a relationship that seemed perfect and stable. It's not an excuse to think you "deserve" sex. You should break it off and find someone you can respect, not look down upon.
pretty much this. It's pointless to point fingers, but from everything you've said, it's clear that this isn't a healthy relationship at all. You know this isn't going anywhere good
>Eventually they start feeling like you respect them and enjoy your time with them so they cull back on the "huge slut single mom" deal
And that's when you leave them and start the whole thing over with another single mom.
Exactly. It might be time to move on to the next single mom.
The best part is that these women are good to go if you ever want to go back to em. Some might write you off forever, but if you spin the break up to seem like you don't want commitment, and then coming back you "want commitment but we haven't been together long enough" (the second time) that buys you an extra 6 months of easy lays.
>Cuck hahahaha. Got it.
I didn't even finish reading - what the fuck is this?
You're not a cuckold for fucking a woman with kids. You're a cuckold if you raise those kids as your own IF she doesn't earn it. I've found that women with children tend to ummmm earn my affection and basically be my bitch for the sake of her children.
I will keep reading now
>raising another man's genes
>feeding them and clothing them
Literal definition of cuck- not being offensive here, just talking pure biology.
The alpha male impreginates all the females in the pack, and then seller males are killed of if they pose a threat or cucked
>And she wouldn't blow me. She said she doesn't want to do that her house because someone might walk out and catch us blah blah blah.
OK that's understandable that she doesn't want her children seeing an adult man's penis in her mouth asking Mommy what are you doing to Not-Daddy? I'm sure she also doesn't want her kids telling their teachers, "Mommy's face was in her friend's lap" lol.
>even though when we first started seeing eachother she did it all the time.
So you asked her why the sudden switch and she saaaaaid...?
>I feel like she's trying to get me to ask her and her shitty little kids to come live with me
Curious about this, you asked her about her intentions with that and she saaaaaid...?
> and if there is anything that bothers me it's the constant feeling of someone trying to make me into a punk.
You're a punk for being so passive aggressive about this shit. Talk to your woman for fuck's sake and have an honest conversation about what's going on. And if she can't handle that then you know the fit isn't right.
>She shivers. I do it well.
You might be Aries in the sack, but keep in mind that all women do this to try and keep you. Women fake that shit all day.
So my final opinion is that you're a punk because you don't know how to be honest with your woman and not take bullshit for answers. You own the house. You have the money. You're fucking her. But you can't have an honest conversation with her? C'mon.
>Am I being unreasonable for pretty much demanding sex?
Yes. That isn't something you can demand. It's something you do when both want to, not just one.
>trying to get me to ask her and her shitty little kids to come live with me
>I honestly have no idea if this bitch loves me or if she is just with me because she sees me as being the one to support her and her shitty little kids.
Break up with her. If you are seriously calling her kids shitty, then you know you aren't serious about the relationship. She might want to build a life with you. That's usually what living together implies. If you honestly see it as her attempting to leech off you and get free shit for her kids, you are the one that doesn't love her.
>relegated to sex a few times a month
If one partner wants it and the other doesn't no sex should be happening. It always has to be mutual.
If she does it just to get you off her back, how could you even enjoy it? Why not just jerk it if you want to blow?
>Yes. That isn't something you can demand.
That's bullshit. People have this mistaken impression that sex is somehow off limits to be expected. "Regular" sex is part of A) satisfying each others' needs and B) a healthy relationship.
So it's only OK for your partner to satisfy your sexual needs when it's convenient? When she feels like it? When the moon and the stars align? Fuck no. My dick needs attention. My emotions need validating via sex. A woman withholding sex in order to punish or manipulate you is fucking WRONG and I'll need you to un-brainwash yourself. And before you go "oh she's not manipulating you" bullshit. Of course she is. What she goes from "yes honey" to "only when you do the dishes honey"? No.
Your mother and your father were wrong. Chances are high your father was never getting fucked son, which is why this female-centric shit got put into your brain. /projection
OP, I was in your exact situation. Except I actually let her move in with me, and her 2 kids.
After moving in, the relationship lasted only 7 months. She was a great caretaker and home maker, but like others said, eventually she gets comfortable with the idea of you being replacement dad, and only you will remember the extra work and sacrifices you're making for her and her kids.
Just leave this girl. It's not going anywhere, and the only thing making you THINK you want to do this is your horniness. It's not worth it.