Hey guys, so this chick I dated for a month cheated on me multiple times, I fucked other girls on the side as soon as I heard about that and told her to go to hell.
Now the thing is that she already told me on day 3 of our dating that she loves me and now told me that she loves me forever and I shouldn't give her up, but the whole time she also fucked other guys while telling me "I love you" out of "desperation".
Now what do you guys say? Do I give her a chance?
The only way in hell I would - in my own eyes - would be if she cut off contact to all guys she knows, got a new number, deletes facebook and stops being a total whore.
Pic related. Kinda how she looks like, but a bit more BBW and blonde.
Sounds like she has borderline personality disorder.
They're serial cheaters yet don't understand what they do hurts people. Basically they dont know how to just be friends with the opposite sex, they'll fall in love at the flip of the switch to any guy that gives them the time of day.
You're not the only person that this chick "loves" OP, she's seriously fucked in the head and obviously damaged goods.
You're only hurting yourself and if you stay with her you're gonna be spiteful as fuck.
I am in the same position. I've dated this girl for a year and a half, but she tried finding other dates during that time. Every time they always were an asshole and she'd come crying back to me. She finally saw a therapist in November and so far has been straight. She deleted all her dating profiles, all the phone numbers and has shown a lot more commitment.
However I still am on the edge if I should fully take her back. I feel like we are only together because we can't find anyone else sometimes, and that she listens to others instead of mesuch as listening to the therapist over me though we said the same thing.
OP here. I'm death serious. She told me "she loves me" and that she'll "always love me". The next thing I'm about to tell is also serious: She even proposed to me a few days ago.
>doubles of truth(?)
I mean she already told me that she was about to go to mental hospital last year, because she had a "depressive phase" where she basically fucked everybody in sight and her family didn't want to her shit from her and blah blah.
The thing is that I was lonely for a long time (not a chronic loner though) and she gave me the sex, attention and words I wanted to hear and although I didn't want to have something emotional with her from the beginning, I (how else could it be?) developed some kind of attachment to her that I want to end.
You really feel me anon.
The thing is the girl I'm dating basically did everything - regarding sex - that a filthy porn slut did, except prostitution and porn.
When she told me she loves me, I told her I don't care about her past, as long as she stays faithful and I'm the man in her emotional and sexual center. When she did shit for that I told her to go to hell and now she can't seem to let me alone and keeps bothering me.
I mean the sex is good, really and overall she is a nice person, but she doesn't seem to understand what her fault is and I don't think she'll be able to change.
Saying she loves you so soon, "proposing" to you and still cheating is some weird stuff. Maybe try a therapist like my gf. She needs to get her head straight. I know my gf only said she loves me and stuff to keep me around, I know there were times she would have left me behind if she found the right guy. And that's not right, but my gf moved on it seems, so my position is if I should forgive and forget.
Normally I'm a guy hat never forgives. Seriously. I dumped people I knew for 8 years for less shit than this girl atm gave me. But you and me, we both should get our shit str8 m8, because in the end we have to look in the mirror and ask ourselves, if we can keep going like we do.
This is the reason I'm seriously considering just not to see/hear/text with her again.
The only thing I consider is going to her place tomorrow and having sex one last time and stealing her ciggs, because I'm broke atm.
I mean isn't the whole thing about a relationship that both partners should push themselves further and elevate themselves emotionally instead of dragging one another down and giving them shit like unfaithfulness and all of that?
Think about it this way:
if your best mate came and told you this story, what would you tell him? To drop the bitch like an hot potato, and wrap it up thrice if he's going for a last goodbye fuck.
Why would you give a different sort of advice to yourself?
>I mean isn't the whole thing about a relationship that both partners should push themselves further and elevate themselves emotionally instead of dragging one another down and giving them shit like unfaithfulness and all of that?
You're describing healthy relationships.
Those are pretty damn rare, nowadays.
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This is sth I asked myself last time I thought about relationships.
Like, why are relationships like that; "healthy relationships" are that rare nowadays?
First of all, you can't "love" someone you've been dating only a month. I know there's been this huge movement lately where people are told to say "I love you" more often but that should relate to family members and close friends, at best they're infatuated with you.
Second, you both sound terribly insecure and awful matches for one another. You're both sex craved horn dogs and even if you did get back together you'd both go back to cheating on each other cause you aren't mature enough to know the mechanics of a proper relationship. How can you cheat on someone multiple times in the space of 30 days then claim you love them?
Finally, it does not matter what she looks like so you didn't need to post the picture to get you any points. You can't order someone, especially like her, to never interact with any male guys except you that isn't a relationship, it's prison.
tl;dr Break up, you're both wasting each other's time.
>Like, why are relationships like that; "healthy relationships" are that rare nowadays?
Because people are worse than they think they are, and toxic people will be toxic in a relationship too.
Learn how to recognize and avoid them, your life will instantly improve.
I know you guys will hate me for this, but I told her we'll see each other tomorrow morning (we both know that it's for a last fuck, I know at least).
Can I at least fuck her one last time and then bounce?
I got a new SIM card, so after I leave I'll immediatley change my number (already blocked her on everything).
Gonna tell you it straight, OP
If you go with her, you ain't gonna have a fun time
I'm warning you now, so when you actually go through with it and it bites you in the ass, remember that I warned you
It's meaningless when a girl such as this tell you they love you. Meaningless.
This girl has issues. Find someone without these issues.
The tell-tale sign here is the nymphomaniac past. This is always a huge red flag. Especially if she went around serial-fucking people.
I've had similar girls like this in the past. Ones that told me that they loved me more than anything else and that I was the "One"
And this was all pretty soon after meeting them. Yet they hardly even knew me.
I turned them down and while they never would leave me alone, they had no problem hopping onto another cock and trying to make me jealous about it.
The attention might seem nice now, but it ain't worth the pain. Don't be a fool.
You can find a girl that means it, yo.
You're an idiot for being pissed that your girl listened to her therapist over you. Even if you said the same thing, her therapist is a therapist for a fucking reason, she's literally a trained professional. If you gave any kind of shit about your gf then of fucking course you let her listen to her therapist over you.