>>16710986 >Start liking other people and people will like you back because you're doing them a solid by fulfilling a basic need. This.
There's a saying I heard a few weeks ago on here that went something like: If one person you've met is an asshole, then that person is an asshole. If everyone you meet is an asshole, then you're an asshole
>>16710968 Because eventually you will find someone who does and it is the best (also scariest) feeling in the world, dont give up i was alon for 20 yrs and found someone and I am an older guy and unattractive.
>>16710980 was right. You shouldn't care if one likes you as long as you aren't breaking any code of conduct and are holding a job. That's the minimal requirement of what you need to give back to society. Anything beyond that shouldn't be of concern.
>>16711172 My family doesn't like me, or at least they dont show signs of it. I have work friends, but I never see them outside of work. I couldn't get a date to save my life (I'm not ugly, and yes, I've tried fat chicks) and even complete strangers are rude to me for no reason. Basically, I can say that I've never felt loved. Even the one relationship I've been in, where the girl furiously insisted that she loved me, never really showed affection.
It's a shame to hear that. I'm sure you could find out why they hate you and address it if it was something you could control and you valued being liked enough. I wouldn't opt for that and, as simple as it sounds, would suggest to acknowledge that it's out of your power ( to the extent of not doing anything to hinder your lifestyle) to make people like you. It's important to fully come to terms with that if you were to before you found some alternative to enjoy life, because you don't want that to be something you avoid.
>>16711258 Right. I guess I should mention that nobody really "hates" me as far as I know. I'm sure public opinion of me is actually quite good, it's just that I'm not really close with hardly anybody. It's a vicious cycle, to because ultimately I just want a girlfriend or some sort of romantic life, but no girl wants a guy that doesn't have a social life.
people dont make friends with people who give off a vibe of NEEDING said friendship. (unless if you are in fact me & have a massive messiah complex but anyway)
learn to love being a loner. hang out at coffee shops & bars- NICE ones, not dives, craft beer & shit- if you want to see people.
youll be mysterious. if you successfully learn how to embrace solitude, you won't take opportunities for friendship too seriously, which drives some girls absolutely crazy, and makes for a cool guy to hang out with.
tl;dr, seriously dont worry about it, dont try too hard
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