Is there any hope for a trans woman in the middle of transition who wants to date mostly straight men?
I'm such a person, 20 yrs old (6 months on full-dose hormones) and while I don't pass over half the time I don't look like a "man in a dress," just an androgynous individual. For a while I had almost zero sex drive, but now it has resurfaced. I feel incredibly pessimistic about any prospects for dating guys that aren't chasers. As a corollary question, what tips do you have for a girl that has never dated for flirting/letting someone know you're interested?
The picture is not me, it's just to give you an idea of how far along I am (i might even look a little more feminine).
Thanks in advance.
Most straight men, especially in conservative areas, won't think of you as a woman.
I'd say your best bet might be (straight or bi) FTMs or bi men honestly. While there are straight men who date trans women without fetishizing, they're vanishingly rare. Sorry.
are you the guy posting about his HIV recently?
Just faced kid, nobody wants you.
Straight men want to fuck woman.
Gay men want to fuck men.
You are left only with the deviants who actually are attracted girls with penis. However for that you actually have to be attractive. If you are not, there's not much to do.
We'll let's see a picture of you cause I'm straight.
but the normal man will disgusted by what you are cause what your doing goes against nature and how do you expect to love someone when you couldn't love yourself.
how autistic are you. If someone wants to turn into a female through surgery let them, who are you to judge mr "i use technology that goes against nature" hypocritical faggot.
If you want to date a straight male it depends on how attractive you are. If you post a picture we will be honest, if honesty is what you want.
There is hope OP, i've only dated women but if there was a cute enough trans i could see getting into a relationship, and i'm not a "chaser" i'm pretty sure
>as a man, is there any hope that a straight man will date me?
one of the biggest life lessons you will learn is being grateful for what you can get, or impoving yourself to get better.
sure, you are in the middle of a transition but you arent entitled to the type of man you want (which inherently cant really be attracted to you).
I feared the worst. Thank you for being honest. I'm in college so I hope that improves my chances.
I do not have HIV. I would like to think that attraction has more components than just fucking (or even physical attributes), but I should expect as much from a degenerate like yourself.
You are very ignorant.
Thank you for the defense. I don't think I will be posting a picture.
Thank you for the vote of confidence :)
thanks for your criticism. I know that I do not deserve anything. I am continually improving myself to look more feminine (as you suggest), but denying the natural urge of a relationship becomes difficult after several months. However, you are obviously a bigot and so I will not take your opinion too seriously.
Do you tell the men that you're trying to date that you're actually a man? If not, I'd fucking ditch you on the spot for being deceitful. Then, if you did tell me, I'd politely turn you down because I'm not into that. I'm looking for a woman who came equipped with that hardware at birth. Sorry but not really sorry. Best of luck to you in your search.
I had a mtf friend, who wanted to date only straight cis men. She couldnt find any, not even the shittiest man outhere. Ended up with a /b/-like guy who had a trap fetish so she couldnt complete her transition on the risk of loosing that guy.
Most likely you will end like that.
The only tranies that I have seen that actually have relationships are dating other tranies.
Ironically, you would have more chances to get fucked by straight men if you just stayed a gay man.
I would tell them that I was born biologically male before they tried to kiss me or anything. I don't really understand why that matters (aside from having sex of course) if you thought that I was a cisgender woman.
I hope to prove you wrong, jackass.
I was never, am not, and never will be a gay man.
>Aside from having sex
That's a pretty big thing there, anon. Also, I'm allowed to like whatever I like and having a romantic relationship with a man (or used to be a man) is not something I'm interested in. If other want to do that, go for it. Like it or not, you will never be a real woman because you weren't born with woman parts. You were born with man parts.
You had to know that transitioning would lead to a very limited pool of potential partners to date. Didn't you talk this over with your psychologist (where I love psych consults are mandatory before transitioning).
I'm not judging you, but as a straight male I don't see myself dating a mtf, it'd be a dealbreaker and while I'd respect anyone who told me up front, I'd be enraged if a mtf tried to keep it from me.
I'm sorry, but that's how I feel about it, and in my experience most other guys feel the same, really.
So yeah, you'll have a harder time than most people, but that doesn't mean it's hopeless. Be the best you that you can be, and just be up front to people you engage with romantically.
For further insight, experiences and dating tips, try >>>/lgbt/
Think, a lot of dudes (who are looking for a long term relationship and further) want to have a family. A real family, you know? With a waifu who can actually bear their childs. This is why it matters.
You say homophobia, but you asked for opinions, and you got them.
Also, call me crazy, sir, but I don't think they're afraid of you. Wary, maybe. You don't sound like you're exactly the Rock of Gibraltar when it comes to being steady and predictable.
...or post-dictable, too, for that matter.
You can't mandate attraction or acceptance. You can only mandate the apparent presence of such. A lukewarm simulcra at best. But, who knows. You can't find happiness outside yourself, anyhow, though I'd bet that the only truly happy transsexuals are those who cultivate happiness within themselves rather than seeking outward acceptance as tacit approval of one's right to thrive.
Men like you are pathetic, you talk down about us yet you are the ones begging for traps to sodamize you because of the amount of pleasure which produces in your anus. I'll never understand small penis cucks who have this trap fetish, you sir confuse me.
Not being homophobic but honest. Also we are entitled to have preferences and to like woman who were born as woman and to have our kids born 'in the old natural way' if we want.
If you wanted nice words and hugs go to tumblr
No, I'm not a fan of the buttsecks or the folks who engage in the buttsecks. Prostate exams fucking hurt and are degrading. I'd make a terrible gay.
More than anything, I pity the OP. It's a big world, and finding your place in it is hard enough. That doesn't mean that the world owes you any happiness, however.
It would be sad if I could never have biological children with the person im with.
Sex with a trans could be fun but could we ever have a family?
You can't turn into a female through surgery. That's determined by biology.
In any case, the guy's right about how most men feel about this. They may be fine with a guy doing whatever he wants with his body but they're not going to want to have anything to do with them. Most men think it's against nature as it obviously is or you wouldn't need surgery to "fix" the problem.
As a straight dude, I want a woman with a vagina because I like sex, I like vaginas, and I want a woman to bear my children.
If I can be frank for a second? Transgender people aren't natural to me, you have the gear of one sexe but the physical appearance of another through medical modifications, that's not sexy no matter how you slice it.
Also, if I dated someone who was born a man I would feel emasculated, like I'm not good enough to get a real woman so I have to settle for a fake one. I'm sorry if saying fake offends you but I don't really know what else to say, you're a woman that isn't physically a woman.
I truly wish you luck OP, but you are fighting an uphill battle. I don't even date single moms, but I would still pick one over a transvestite.
Honestly, any "str8" guy who wants you will be /b/ incarnate and will just treat you like a fetish doll and never think of you like a real women (which they are correct in doing). Either detransition, kill yourself, or do porn. Those are your options you freak of nature.
That's rich hearing someone that can't even be comfortable in their own skin calling someone else degenerate.
I'm surprised dudes care so much if the person is female by all physical standards and also seems to be one mentally. But, maybe I'm just more easygoing than most. The OTHER thing that greatly surprises me is how many want to have children. I've never had a desire to bear kids- don't see the point in making more when there's ones without families.
That said, I'd likely not date a FTM, just because that transition seems to be less believable (I'm not attracted feminine features), and as they say "it's easier to dig a hole than build a pole."
Hope you find someone OP
>The picture is not me, it's just to give you an idea of how far along I am (i might even look a little more feminine).
If I shaved /I/ might even look a little more feminine, that's not a feminine person.
God damnit Pegasus, you flithy shit. Who plugged your fucking internet back in?
You're going to have to search for a while. Dunno any tips since I'm a guy, but safe sex, be wary of degenerates and so on. It'll be tough since trans is still shaky and gaining acceptance.
But do not act like
Get thick skin. Not everyone approves of your lifestyle as not many do mine or Joe the futanari loving fuck down the street. The world ain't a hugbox and people can be real mean bastards. Good luck to ya.
you can't force people to like things just because you want them to. no straight man is suddenly going to want to see a dick.
your best bet is to wait until you transition properly and then get fucked in your brand new vagina. then you can cry about them not wanting you