I am quite ugly (not a little ugly or very ugly, quite ugly is what describes me).
I had money for having surgery. But, what should I do?
I want to know what steps I must follow. I have to go to a cosmetic surgery clinic or I have to go to an advisor of image? I don't know what to do because I don't know what would be the best for me.
I don't have something a big nose or big ears but I'm not even a bit attractive.
Eight years since my last girlfriend and interaction with women, being called ugly several times in the last years and being almost bald are my presentation card.
At least, I go to the gym and I'm not fat. But the face I can't change my face lifting weights or running. (26y/o)
Yesterday I posted this and I couldn't upload a pic so...
I don't want compliments, I don't feel good when I look myself in the mirror and that's why I'm posting here looking for advice.
I don't want to boost my ego or anything like that.
Then get some self esteem. Tell yourself in the mirror "I am normal and not ugly" or something of the sort. Other than that, I think you need a woman. Join a dating site or something.
Hey OP, as a guy I'd say you look quite handsome. Attractiveness isn't primarily about physical appearance. Work on your confidence, attitude, behavior, how you interact, the way you talk, the way you walk, the tone of your voice, body language, the way you smell, your dental and mental hygiene.
Those are far more important than the structure of your face.
You seriously look fine, surgery won't really change anything at this point, unless you have really fucked up teeth that I can't see.
The only thing I can assume is that you dress like shit, which will polarize people on how they see you, and yourself.
Like that shirt you're wearing, literally dirty and unfashionable. I hope that isn't what your whole wardrobe looks like.
I try to work in my self esteem but sometimes is difficult. Also I tried online dating websites with no results, I feel a lot worse when I did it because I felt that something is not right about me because almost anyone like to talk with me.
I think that you are right but also is important being happy with your image and I'm not happy with it.
Also you gave me a good advice and I'm going to try put in practice what you said.
sound like something else is bothering you and you're just blaming it on your looks, you look above average but you probably can't see it because you're not looking with your own eyes rather than trough critiques of others
I'm the dental and mental hygiene poster
My online dating game is also bs, but I don't see any reason why it should get me down. I know for a fact that I put zero effort in putting images up that will increase my chances, as I only use fb-photos, and I rarely get tagged in photos, so there's little to chose from.
I've had three tinder dates, two of which I fucked (didn't fancy the third one, I was just lonely atm), one twice and the other I dated for two months. But those are the rarities. I seldom get matches, and 90% of my matches don't respond.
I've heard from a lot of people that I'm attractive, and I feel quite attractive myself. /soc ranked me 6-7 on two different photos, both really bad. I've had a few LTR, two of which lasted 5 years (one is ongoing open fwb + affectionate love), and two years ago I had fucked five women in the course of 12 years, now two years later my number is eleven (In the past ten months I've slept with six women). A year ago I was heartbroken and moderately depressed. What helped me was learning how to let go (YT: letting go sedona), reading up on how to build attraction, primarily in field game and text game (YT: how to hold a conversation like a man + YT: rsd tyler / rsd todd + Torrent: how to text your ex back). I've gotten back into eastern philosophy (YT: anything by Alan Watts), which has helped me being more easy about love and life, becoming more mindful.
All of the above helps, but as most people I will have bad days and look in the mirror unsatisfied. The thing is to get creative and realise that there's always room for improvement, but it should shine from the inside out, not by way of surgery. Surgery won't fix a broken self-image.
One of the greatest pickup-artists in the world is a short, balding ginger with a funny voice. It his act and the things he says that gets him layed, not his looks.
Do some research, it will probably motivate you and give you reasons to raise your self esteem.
You look pretty fucking attractive, the only way I wouldn't hit that is if you were a complete sperg, but you'd still need to be pretty fucking autistic.
You need a therapist, not surgery.
And you remind me of my literature teacher, on whom I have a crush. Fuck you.
I haven't tried minoxidil, I heard about it and about finasteride. Both have some serious side effects especially finasteride. I'm not sure if they are a good option because you can lose something else than your hair.
I'm not autsitc or weird but also I'm not the best in social interaction. I think that I'm an average person.
I think that I'm not a good candidate because I'm young and the surgery could be a failure.
I'm going to be honest, you are slightly below average. What I want to say is that I don't see anything in you that could attract the attention of women.
I don't know what could you do to fix that but being bald at your age is a big no no for a lot of girls
I'd have sex with you as long as your dick works and it's not a micro, you aren't a total autist, and you aren't a total asshole with no sense of humor. This is coming from a 7.5-8/10 grill.
You aren't ugly at all, and you can pull off being bald. You just need self-esteem.
I know that being bald is a no no for some people but I can't do a lot about it. It simply happens.
It's not b8 is really what I think, some people heard that some people say that I'm ugly and I'm also think that I'm quite ugly.
>You are just using an easy place like /adv/ to think you are doing good you aren't.
I come here to laugh at stupid people by provoking them
You are average. You not stunning enough to get all women wet, not ugly enough to be gross to all. To most women, your empty space, to those you piss off you disgusting, and to those who like your type or some other aspect of you (humor, social status, interests, whatever) you good looking. This is where most people are look wise, pursuing and meeting people with similar interests is your best route.
You look like any everyday guy anyone meets on their lives. also being ugly its not that huge deal except if you're like a burn victim
your real problem is that you're retarded. only retards base their selfconfidence on how they look. never seem a turd getting laid with hot bitch? that's what I mean.
Its only an insult if the receiving party takes offense
Probably I'm retarded, but I don't feel good with my appearance. I know that are more important things in this life to worry about this.
I'm not thinking all day about my physical appearance. But sometimes I think about it due to several reasons that maybe aren't correlated.