ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

>>16694410
How do I find people to rule the world with? I want to rebuild the Sith Order

Women, why lie if not interested? Spend time together for months and start bringing up dating a couple weeks after she breaks up and while she is looking for casual dating. Get closer and closer start spending more and more time together over a couple months until she says she doesn't date friends. By this point we are texting back and forth and sending pictures multiple times a day.

girls:

>talk everyday to her, throughout the day
>usually it's her that starts the conversation
>literally anywhere and everywhere she's not too busy to just talk about anything
>on new years eve on impulse called her
>ended up talking from 2am to 6am
>today I admitted I feel a but mean always teasing her abut everything
>she says actually that I'm funny and lovely and that I make her laugh a lot
>tell her I feel the same
>going to see her on the weekend
>met her before at work, worked at the same place for a couple weeks so never got to know her that well but we exchanged glances a lot

Does she like me?

>>16694460
I don't see where she lied.

>>16694460
I don't see where she lied here? You were her friend while she was dating someone else, and you didn't make your intentions very clear until quite some time after she broke up. This one's your fault.

>>16694462
sounds like yes desu, if she is the one searching you and starting things up she probably likes you in some way.
however her being like "same" about that makes me think she does like you in a romantic way, so go for it.

I learned that good guys never finish recently
>be me
>lonely.jpg
>roommate meets girl he likes, asks me to come along with her and others so he's not the only guy
>go there, instant connection between her and I
>I act like good friend, I stay out of it and let him try to do his thing
>fast forward two months, he never asks her out, is basically a beta orbiter
>I later meet up with her to discuss the situation
>we talk about him for a little bit, rest of the time we talk about our feelings and we confess that we like each other
>because of situation, we decide not to do anything for a while until we tell him the truth
>we text frequently all throughout winter break
>Inlove.webm
>get back to school, she starts talking to me less
>we haven't seen each other in person ever since
>feel alone and forgotten, but at least my friend has his chance now
>he tells me he lost interest over the break, now just friends with her
>mfw I lose the perfect girl for me being the good guy
>mfw he just loses interest despite my sacrifice for him
>I've never felt so alone, so forgotten, and so betrayed in my life
>I don't know what to do /adv/ anymore
Thoughts?

>>16694477
I think most of the appeal she had to you and you had to her was the fact that you were 'forbidden' because of your roommate being involved

guys, is it normal if my best friend gets jealous when i mention other guys?? our friendship is 100% platonic and i have asked him a few times if he liked me or anything and if he was comfortable about me talking about other guys and he always said it was fine HOWEVER every time he ends up bashing the other guys, i have called him out a few times on that and stopped talking about them but he brings them up later on.

>>16694477
Why don't you just contact her and ask her out? Don't lose hope.

>>16694484
Because he's lying to you/himself

>>16694530
What? I really don't understand your question anymore

>>16694484
He wants to go out with you but is too pussy to ask. The more you hang out with him, the nicer and better friend you are, the more he thinks you like him too and eventually will ask you out. You'll say no and be confused, he'll be frustrated and think you're a bitch who led him on.

Probably slowly cut him out.

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I went on a few dates with a girl back in the summer, but nothing serious really came of it because she said she wasn't looking for anything serious right now because she had just gotten out of a relationship. I thought this was her way of rejecting me, and we basically cut contact after that. For some reason, I got pretty hung up on this girl and while I have pursued other girls since then, she's always sort of remained in the back of my mind. Out of a lack of better judgement I ended up texting her a few days ago, not really expecting anything. But now, we're supposed to be hanging out on Wednesday (she was the one who asked me to hang out, I basically just texted her to she how she was). Is this a second chance? Now I'm starting to think that she actually was hesitant to pursue a relationship in the summer, and now she might be ready.

>>16694640
THIS IS SERIOUSLY THE COOLEST PICTURE I'VE EVER SEEN FUCK

>>16694623
i´ve been cutting him off slowly these last weeks, we used to be best friends and went to the same college + hung out once or twice a week, now i moved to other college and he is stuck there, plus i told him a few months ago that i kinda like him and he was very weird about it, now i can´t even mention oscar isaac without him bashing him (the latest "bashing a guy" thing he did was calling chris evans a "fucking scumbag nerd" for being in the scott pilgrim movie????)

but yes, i´ve been cutting him off step by step, i feel kinda sad because he only has another friend besides me but i can´t keep up with his jealous bullshit and negating stuff that he is probably feeling

Guys, are you happy with the size of your penis?

>>16694462
Of course she does. This sounds like a good match.

>>16694661
Yes I wish it was black though

>>16694647
Well the way you said it before, I guess I had the impression you don't like him. But you just said you do, so maybe you could date if you initiated it. Yeah he's jealous but people can slowly change so maybe you'd be happy together.

>>16694477
She liked someone else at school you didn't know about. Hence roommate didn't follow through because he felt inferior to this other guy.

I have 3 friends who are so close among themselves that they are basically sisters.

I am generally close with all of them, and I think it's safe to say that they make up 3 of my 4 closest friends.

Then I began to develop feelings for one of them.
In a vacuum we're a pretty good match:
> many of the same hobbies
> intellectually similar
> we get along very well, make each other laugh
> love the same shows/movies/games
> she's stunningly beautiful imo and at minimum thinks I'm not unattractive

And the other two friends we share (who at this point don't know I'm interested) are pushing me to go out with her (although to be fair it's partially because we're a convenient match)

But I hesitate to ask because I don't see a clean exit strategy: If we had a good first date, that'd be it. We already know we like each other as individuals and if we got as far as the first date and it went well, it'd be safe to say there was shared attraction. But what happens down the line if it doesn't work out? I know both of us well enough to say that there'd be no screaming-crying-fighting breakup where someone crossed a line, but if it just plain doesn't work out it would make things strained among all four of us, probably not talking unnecessarily to her, at best. I don't wanna bet what I have with most of my oldest friends that everything is picture-perfect, and that's what it seems like.

Should I create some space and move on, or am I over-thinking?

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>>16694410
Girls: Do you want a man to lick your ass?

>>16694686
Stop over thinking. Lots of people go out with friends and find out they're not romantically compatible, laugh it off and stay friends.

>>16694661
No, I wish it was as big as the guys in pornos. I've told old girlfriends to "tell me it's big" when we're messing around and that was nice, but still. It's not like tits where you can get implants, you're just stuck with it.

Girls, why do some of you get so mad when I say that I'll only date a virgin in a group discussion? Most don't care but there is always at least one that feels the need to point out that it makes me an asshole. Happened to me twice(ik I should just pretend that idc but I like getting ppl angry sometimes) and both times one girl (the slut of the group) got really angry and threw a tantrum. The guys just laughed but both of the girls actually hate me now. I'm aware that there's no need to say it but it's my personal decision so why get so butthurt over it? I never even said anything bad to or about either of them but they suddenly get all offended.

>>16694744
Because honestly, deciding to date someone based on whether or not they're a virgin is pretty fucking stupid. I'd accept your position, but I think you're a dumbass. Especially if you're not a virgin.

>>16694744
Why don't you ask them instead of us? Anyway, my guess is that it came across to them like you're 'slut shaming' girls who aren't virgins, or are implying that girls who aren't virgins are inferior to virgins

>>16694755
They won't talk to me, I tried asking and I never got a real response out of them.

>>16694767
Well then you're not going to know. Does it matter? Also I agree with >>16694754

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>>16694744
They're mad because they think you were calling them sluts in a round-about way.

But I think you're making the whole thing up.

>>16694754
>Especially if you're not a virgin.
He's a guy on /adv/ on a Saturday night.

When it comes to attraction, does it matter to girls how many friends a guy has or how much he interacts with others?

>>16694768
What you think of it is your opinion though, it doesn't make me a bad person nor is it a reason to ignore me. I personally don't think it's stupid but just because we don't agree doesn't make it right to ignore or be mean to each other.

>>16694410
Guys, if a girl broke up with you after 3 years (assuming there's no other guy in the picture) would you try to get her back? would you be able to be friends with her eventually (and how long do you think that would take)?

>>16694661
I'm satisfied, but if a magic being told me he could make it a little bigger I wouldn't turn it down.

>>16694784
>just because we don't agree doesn't make it right to ignore or be mean to each other.
Well, it does in some situations. And to them, you're not compatible on a level that renders you unsuitable to be a friend.

>>16694770
Nope, I don't hide things. I've literally told people in public that I like lolis and other shit. I just don't see what the issue is if it's weird or creepy.

>>16694796
Lack of compatability doesn't justify calling me an asshole and throwing a tantrum. Normally I wouldn't even care but one of their tantrums ruined the rest of the day for some of us.

>>16694794
I wouldn't. No way to tell if he will, depends on his personality and mental state. Do you want to get back together? Then ask him. As for being friends, depends on how the break up went.

>>16694797
>>16694804
Serious question: are you autistic?

>>16694661
Eh. It's not a bad size, but it always nags at me that I could have more girth or whatever else. It's something I avoid stressing too much about, because there's nothing I can do about it.

>>16694422
god dammit you are such a faggot

>>16694794
No. Either she wants the relationship to be done, or shes playing stupid games. In which case there's not much you can do, or nothing you should do respectively.

Being friendly is difficult to say. Depends on how much bad blood there is.

>>16694770
>He's a guy on /adv/ on a Saturday night.
No bullying

>>16694776
It doesn't effect my attraction, but it does effect how I would expect our emotional/social compatibility to go. If I haven't seen your social skills first hand, going off of the fact that you don't socialize much might be a red flag. Not a deal breaker, just a red flag.
I honestly think it has less to do with quality than quantity.

Having one really good friend who you treat kindly and loyally is better than having tons of acquaintances who kinda hate you.

I still might not be compatible because I like meeting people and it would cause tension if you never went out with me.

>>16694776
Let me put it this way: I'm not going to date a guy who's a complete loner.

>>16694819
it was kind of unconventional, but neither of us were angry. I initiated the break up because he wasn't opening up to me and when I tried to open up to him I was hitting a wall. I saw that if it continued this way long term we both were going to be unhappy, but it's really hard because I still love him. We were close friends before our relationship, so I don't see why we can't be afterwords. I told him that he could contact me whenever he felt like it, but for now I'm giving him space. It's been about ten days though and I'm feeling really shitty and from what I hear from our mutual friends he feels perfectly fine.

>>16694869
Why

>>16694661
Yes but I wish I was a shower no a grower. I think my dick has shit circulation or I masturbate too much or because I have no foreskin but it always cold and shriveled unless I have a boner.
I am happy with it when I have a boner, it is big and thats when it matter most.

>>16694869
Riddle me this Batman, how would you know if he was a loner if you didn't go on a date with him???

>>16694892
Because I don't want a guy who relies on me for all his social interaction

>>16694894
I wouldn't, of course. But it'll become apparent pretty soon.

>>16694894
Grapevine

>>16694902
>Because I don't want a guy who relies on me for all his social interactions
Why? Being a loner does not make a person needy. I am a loner and I meet up with my friends every few months, this situation suits us all down to the ground.
If I had a gf and she wanted to meet up everyday or every two weeks I would be fine with it.
Just don't expect too much texting or social media or phone calls.

>>16694902
>Because I don't want a guy who relies on me for all his social interaction
If the guy was legitimately a loner and preferred his peace, he probably won't do as much. Don't mix it up with people who are lonely.

>>16694913
From what you're saying, the relationship would stagnate very quickly. Why would I want to date a guy who I have no future with?

>>16694914
That's true, but then issues of insecurity and jealousy become a concern. There might be an exception that proves me wrong, but generally speaking, I just don't want to deal with guys with no friends.

>>16694921
>then issues of insecurity and jealousy become a concern
Those are potential issues even if the guy was a paragon of extroversion. It's more about the persons character, than how much they socialize.

>>16694661
No. I'm a black guy and I've got a pencil dick. I got robbed.

>>16694921
>From what you're saying, the relationship would stagnate very quickly. Why would I want to date a guy who I have no future with?
From what I am gathering from you posts you are chucking in everyone who is a loner who have no friends as social retarded austists who will latch onto you and squeeze every last drop of attention out of you.
Ill make the effort if you do, I make the same amount time to interact with you as you do with me.

I am a loner, I have friends but we rarely interact because I like to spend a lot of time alone, I enjoy my solitude but that does not make socially retarded. I can quite sociable in a matter of seconds like a switch and often complimented on how well I interact with people.
Not everyones lives does or has to revolve around other people constantly.

Though the gfs I have had in the past were similar to me and when we would meet up it would be like we just had seen each other yesterday and it could have been days but I have had other gfs I seen everyday. Both work.

Random (stupid one) question, but it deals with sex in a way.

>If a trans male and trans female fuck, is that straight sex?

Couldn't find it the google searches / most being "help sites" (meant for guiding sexual orentation)

>>16694970
sex isn't gendered shitlord

>>16694970
Depends on how you view the whole gender spectrum goobly gook. I would consider it extremely so due to their attempts to warp gender, but others would consider it straight because they consider a trans male a real male.

>>16694974
When did I imply I mixed either, fucktard? Anyway thanks asshole maybe you should do some "research" as to why your still alone.
Douchyness aside...
Google kept suggesting sites for sex guidence, and none of them had an open forums.

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>>16695078
im laughing so hard

I LOVE THIS BOARD

A bunch of things I love in my life were things I shared with an ex. Now with my current gf I try to enjoy those things and think of her due to association. How does that end?

>>16694977
Extremely...?

Right but it seems to me that if there's a female and a male that switched genders and got together they would be considered straight since essentially be attracted to the opposite sex and gender.

>>16695092
You do those things with your new girlfriend and make new associations and new memories

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>>16695102
>Right but it seems to me that if there's a female and a male that switched genders and got together they would be considered straight since essentially be attracted to the opposite sex and gender.
I see both of them as warped, at best an imitation of what they wanted. It isn't normal, and by extension isn't straight as far as I'm concerned.

>>16695078
I love how people will keep taking his shitposting at face value.

will girls ever make plans on their own?

i was suppose to hang with a girl i've been texting, but she canceled the day of because she "felt sick". i told her "np, just let me know when you're up to hanging" and then we texted as if nothing happened. it's been 2 weeks and she hasnt mentioned hanging ever again.i just find it odd since she was really into it at first, because she has a 4 hour gap between classes and said she would "be bored anyway"

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I see... Gg sticking to /vg/ kek.

>>16694640
Yes it's a second chance, go get 'er

>>16694691
Not unless he wants to be kicked in the face

>>16694776
Nope doesn't matter at all, I'm not sure why it would. If I'm interested in you then the other people are a backdrop anyway

>>16695216

Atleast in high schools, girls used to get attracted to the popular guys.

It also happens in the celebrity world. The popular ones are those who girls find attractive.

So I reasoned that being social and having lots of friends would make a guy more attractive to girls.

>>16694776
Yes

I find myself most attracted to guys while they're interacting with other people. Confident guys that can command social situations are extremely attractive.

I met my current boyfriend at work, and he was basically constantly talking to everyone. I would listen to the conversations and got charmed even though it wasn't talking to me at the time.

>>16695248

So it seems it's a matter of confidence and carisma I guess.

Talking alot could also make someone unnatractive though. There's a guy who talks alot where I work and he likes to connect everyone.

But everyone who knows him agrees that he is kind of annoying, not in a jealous way.

I really love this girl and we're in a friends with benefits thing. She's gone to a different city for a month and she's being very distant and won't even answer texts and occasionally calls and texts when I initiate it. She means a lot to me and I honestly find our relationship much more beautiful than real ones. But she's acting strange, what do I Do?
I know she'll deny it if I confront her about it.
I love her /adv/, more than anyone I've ever loved before. Anyone can answer regardless of what you have in your underwear.

Guys, if it were more socially acceptable for you to wear makeup, would you?

>>16695276
Nah. I'm pretty low maintenance in general. That requires too much investment for me to ever think about it, even if I'd like how I'd look.

>>16695276

i wouldn't

looks like it's too much work putting makeup everyday imho

also some girls look better without makeup, so I think the same could apply to myself

>>16695276
Maybe only to hide acne or something, not as a regular thing.

Its ok having female friendships right?
i got outta the loop for a good 2 years and i literally only have these 2 girls to talk to/do stuff.

>>16695276
Yep. Looking good already has a tremendous positive impact on my life. I can only imagine how that would increase by looking better.

>>16695246
I get your point, I meant that I'm not sure why that stuff matters to other girls in the first place. For at least some of us, popularity isn't the be-all and end-all of human existence... a few of the sexiest guys I know are loners

Is it weird to respond to texts quickly? The person I'm texting sometimes does and sometimes doesn't, but I almost always do.

I assume I'm the more interested of the two of us, but I guess what I'm asking is:

Would it weird you out if someone responded to your messages very quickly most of the time?

>>16695366
Nope, its better that way.

>>16695260
You are very serious about her. You seem to be aware she isn't so serious about you.
Tell her that, see what she says.

recently asked a girl out who i sit next to in class. things have been really awkward between us ever since and we were at a party (didn't come together) the other night. i was stoned/drunk and so was she but some other guy came over and got her a taxi and put his arm around her and shit, he didn't know we even knew each other. i was just standing there almost sleep walking and getting cucKed the fuck out. it's like watching a train wreck in slo mo
how fucked/pathetic am i?

>>16695387
get over it, and stop with the cuck meme, it will do harm on the long run.

>>16695401
should i text her or should i just cut my losses and carry on like i never asked her out?

>>16695410
Text her only once, if the reaction is good, keep going, if not, carry on like nothing went down.

>>16695387
>i was just standing there almost sleep walking and getting cucKed the fuck out
I really like how this website will latch onto a word and rape it past recognition.

>>16695423
i'm glad edgy faded out, that shit was the worst

Girls

I'm 25m, and I've been talking to a amazing girl for the past 3 months. She's sooo cute, funny, and very caring to me. I like her a lot. Well, I'm just confused though. This is the first time I've ever had feelings for anyone before. And I guess I just feel overwhelmed. I'm not use to having emotional attraction to someone, and especially not used to someone being affectionate toward me. It just confuses me, and I doubt myself a lot. And when that happens, I start worrying I will mess up. Even though it's clear this girl really likes me.

Will this just go away? I don't want to tell her this because I don't want her to think it's her fault or anything. But I just feel so confused. What do I do?

>>16695558
>I don't want to tell her because I don't want to think it's her fault

Why don't you tell her you like her and ask her on a date, dude?
Speaking from experience, the feeling won't go away unless you do something. I spent three years waffling because I couldn't say it straight up.

>>16695431
I remember people started even calling classic poems edgy for a while. I flip flopped between amused and irritated.

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alright famiglia, boys and girls on this one please

met a girl at a party, seemed really into me, signalled me she wanted to be alone with me, went outside to take a long walk together, decent amount of body contact, but conversation was a tad bit stale, asked her out anyways, got her number.

suddenly she talks about being busy for three (3) whole fucking weeks because of work, university, etc.

now of course this seemed like a clear no (or at least as clear as it gets with girls), but on the other hand she told me an exact date when she'll be free again and told me she'll definitely get back to me if anything works out sooner.

i'm really split on whether i should bother again with her. nobody is honestly busy for weeks if they're interested, but why would she give me an exact date and bullshit about getting back to me? i know girls are always trying to be "polite" about turning people down but this seems a bit over the top to me.

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Guys, or girls, whoever has any insight

I know this guy who's 22 and he's never had a girlfriend, and he has no social awkwards or problems whatsoever. Not a virgin, some girls are into him (as far as I know, in the very least they're into fucking him), well liked, not redpill mgtow misogynist... what gives?

>>16695824
He sounds like he just carries a general apathy towards relationships to me. If only all of us could be this lucky.

>>16695823
Why so paranoid? Why not see if she follows trough in 3 weeks?
And yes, people can be busy for 3 weeks. Surprise!

>>16695276
I wear corpse paint at black metal concerts. Does that count? Normally i qouldn't bother, i think

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>>16695879
>corpse paint

>>16695824
Sounds like he's a 10 year younger me. To me it was mostly down to the fact that the entire ordeal of courting never "felt right". I wasn't awkward around girls, but if it came to flirting or the like, i felt that i was putting on an awkward and silly act that wasn't me

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>>16695885

>>16695843
Is what I think too as he neither seeks them out nor says bad thing about them. But this sounds too simple, and I have found he's very private with his shit so there's little way to know, so I'm trying to guess...

>>16695904
how do you fuck people without flirting?

>>16695904
Me

>>16695843
>>16695911
A little bit of this too.

>>16695926
I never found out. I eventually got comfortable with flirting during my mid 20's. Bedore that the only sex i got was when the girl took the initiative in a very forward manner.

>>16694410
Girls

Do you prefer handsome/hot or cute/adorable guys?

How do you get over someone you never had closure from? I need to know it's completely over for me to move on, but with this guy and I there was no closure and he just left so I can't get over him, and I have no way to contact him.

How do you tell a guy you don't like him any more? Used to have a massive crush on a guy, and now he does too but I moved on some time ago.

>>16695995
Just tell him. He took too long. He blew it.

For both genders:

I'm 20 (f) and never had a bf, because I never really bothered when I was younger and I was too busy from about 18-20.

Is it a turn off? Am I a weirdo?

>>16696023
Don't worry about it. If you want one start putting yourself out there.

>>16695983
Cute/adorable
Feel like they're more approachable

>>16695995
Tell him as soon as possible. Just be honest and direct about it, like "sorry, I'm not interested any more".

This happened to me because I'm completely socially inept. He will be really hurt but make sure there is no ambiguity so that he doesn't think you're fucking with his head.

>>16696023
I'd say that anyone who loses their virginity before 20 and isn't in a relationship is most likely a slut

>>16695992
You don't, you live with the consequences of leaving perfectly good men for petty reasons. It's really common for your sex, if that makes you feel any better.

>>16696083
Nobody said anything about sex, you disgusting robot.

>>16696097
>waah men have standards that's my prerogative

Girls

What would have to be wrong with a guy for you to really like him but not in any romantic way at all. I've never not been rejected (asking out, going in for a kiss, anything etc) and I have no idea what it is about me that makes me undateable/unkissable. Lots of girls have said I'm attractive, I'm very social and high up in my large group of friends, I'm 19 and have my own place and a very nice car and good job, great at having conversations with girls and they really like me and everything and really confident. Problem is no matter how well it seems to be going and how interested I assume they are they always reject me, like I invited this girl that id been chatting to a lot to stay round mine because we seemed to be really hitting it off and we'd have some drinks and have a good night and she said yeah, so FF the night we had a really good time, talked loads etc. and we were getting ready to go to bed, both sleeping in my bed but when I went to kiss her she moved out the way and said she just wanted to go to sleep. This has happened a couple of times now, she knows I'm interested and she seems really interested and will come round and sleep in my bed and stuff but always rejects my advances. This has happens with every girl and I just need to know why. It confuses the fuck out of all my friends who are constantly getting laid because literally everyone assumes I just get laid every weekend.

>>16696086
Wasn't me that left him, but jumping to conclusions is really common for your sex if it makes you feel any better.

>>16696110
It doesn't take a girl to see that you're moving slow enough to get friendzoned first.

Femanons: is it a good sign if the girl I'm dating blushes
when talking about certain things? Things such as the fact
that I told our mutual friends that one night we were out
for dinner together, or when we talked about the "butterfly
in the stomach" effect and why that happens.

>>16696110
Welcome to my life.

>>16696139
Friend zone is a lie . There is absolutely no reason why personally knowing some one should keep you from pursuing a more intimate relation ship using that logic the only people who you could date would be complete fucking strangers

How do I meet an handsome guy who is a dominant animalistic demon beast in the sheets and a loyal devoted dashing knight in the streets?

>>16696206
Find a handsome guy and suggest to him the kind of behavior you prefer while trying to remain modest and sweet.

>>16696223
You can't suggest sexual behavior and remain modest and sweet. Suggesting sexual behavior is instant slut trash label to the eyes of men, even if you're a virgin.

>>16695983
I'm not sure because I think my boyfriend is all of these things.

I guess I thought he was hot first, but the reason I stayed was because he was also cute and adorable. Also, not everyone thought my bf was cute or hot. They thought he was kinda weird looking. So I mean, I'm not dating someone objectively hot. But to me, he is.

>>16694410
men, if a very close friend of yours hits on your girlfriend, would you want her to tell you?

If I don't tell a guy what I want from him, I'll live a life of dissatisfaction and regret.
If I do tell a guy what I want from him, he'll think me a slut and not take me seriously as a partner to love and respect, he'll just pump and dump me, and that's a life of dissatisfaction and regret too.
The only way I can have a stable, fulfilling, sexually satisfying relationship for life with someone loyal and devoted to me and who loves me is with my fingers. I can see now why so women end up old virgin cat ladies. I'm getting closer and closer to my 30s and I'm still a virgin and all the people who tell me to get on Tinder or go to a club don't understand I don't just want some one night stand crap, that shit's just sad, I want lust but I want pure love too. I want raw lust and pure love both all in the same person and at the same moment. Life sucks.

>>16695823
another opinion on this one?

>>16695823
I agree with other anon

>>16696249
What do you want from him?

>>16696249
this isn't the "get it off your chest"-thread.
what advice do you want?

>>16695823
> nobody is honestly busy for weeks if they're interested
They definitely can be. I'm extremely busy myself, go to college hours away, have a ton of studies to do at home, etc. I can see how it'd be hard to fit dates in my busy schedule while still getting adequate sleep + study time.
Occasionally I get periods of calm where I'm not so busy, and I usually know when those are coming and can tell the guy.

Yes a lot of girls use the "I'm busy" excuse to avoid hanging out with you, but if she suggests a time she'll be free that means she is actually busy, but still wants to see you. She's not lying. She'd have kept it ambiguous is she were.

Wait the 3 weeks then see what happens.

>>16696206
by finding a modest, sweet and handsome dude.
then you start to warm him up. no sane guy will keep it vanilla and boring with a girl that can be a saint for the world and a nympho in the bedroom.

i'm working on that right now. my bf's every mother in law's dream.
he's very dedicated, attentive and selfless in bed. he got stamina like a bull and is very athletic.
i'm now slowly introducing new stuff and so far his reactions are 100% positive. just be sensible, considerate and patient about it.

>>16694410
Guys, when you're in one of those kind of "quiet bad moods" what's the best thing to do?

>>16696172
We can't know. Stop over thinking and stop throwing weird linebreaks into your posts.

>>16696110
There doesn't have to be something undeniably "wrong" with a guy for her to decide you're incompatible.

>>16695992
You're sabotaging yourself by continuing to tell yourself "I will never be able to move on without closure. It is impossible." Find closure within yourself. It's not his responsibility, it's yours.

>>16695319
Yes

>>16695150
Quit testing her and just ask her out if you want to go out with her

>>16696243
yes. definitely. this is some next level asshole behaviour

>>16696336
Okay. I already did tell my bf, but I can't help but feel like the repercussions that followed were my fault.

I know my bf is really hurt by it. I felt like there could have been some other way around it. But his friend was kinda being a dick. He made implied facebook statuses about me. Made up stories that my bf treats me horribly. But just posted it as "I know a guy" or "One of my friends"

He sent me messages that crossed the line. Weird stuff like "You're so beautiful" too. So I screen capped it and sent my bf the image saying that it's really weird.

He was my bf's friend for like 15 years. Bf and I occasionally run into him. It's really awkward. He wants to kill him.

I rerun the situation 1000 times in my head. If I came off as flirting or something. I was never alone with him. When we all hung out, it was my bf, me, him, and like 4 other friends. We all just chatted and laughed. I didn't treat him differently than anyone else. For some reason he took it as a green light to go for me? I can't stop internalizing it.

>>16696362
not your fault. your bf should be happy to get rid of such a sneaky bastard.
that's not a friend. at all.

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>>16696297
>>16696306
let's say you're right (and i really hope you are), how would you handle this thing the next weeks?
normally i'd wait for her to text me, but my last reply was rather short and i fear it came across as too dismissive. i'm also worried that any sort of attraction that was going on will be gone if we don't exchange a word until february.
i'm overthinking this so much, but maybe she is too and i'm right to overthink.
fml i hate texting

>>16696367
oh god. somehow i got a gutt feeling that you are one of those idiots that careabout "who texts first".
stop playing games! you are the manipulative one here and that's why you think evrybody else is too.

just keep texting like you would with somebody you REALLY are interested in getting to know. (y'know, her personality, and all...?)

maybe skype after a while.

then see how it goes

Gonna be meeting up with a cute girl from OKCupid for the first time. Everything in her profile lays her out as DTF, but how do I get the date to get to that point?

>>16696367
You might want to suggest meeting up with her while she's going to wherever she's going. For example, accompany her on the bus or walk to work/school. It might be just a few minutes but it'll keep the spark going and if she actually likes you she'll appreciate the effort.

>>16696383
how should we know? we don't know what she's looking for and if you fit her bill.

>>16696243
100% yes, if you don't and he finds out he will lose some trust in you.

>>16695276
Would be feminine. A bare face with scars, "dirt" certainly looks more masculine. Once I heard a girl talking about it and she said that guys have it really easy, because they look great no matter what, while girls have to rely on makeup.

>>16696371
>stop playing games

i really don't, i just try my hardest not to make an ass out of myself
i don't want to be that guy who can't catch a hint and i don't want to bother her with texting too much

>>16696384
hm, that sounds good
she works at a small, rather unpopular cinema close to me and has a lot of time on her hands between shows, i'll ask her if she'd mind if i drop by

>>16696409
that's exactly what playing games is about. you are insecure so you think you have to "controle your actions" instead of doing what you feel like doing. that's not going to work out. stop it now. if you feel like texting her, text her. if you feel like dropping by the cinema, go. don't make life so fucking complicated.

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why do people do this?

Girl says she wants to hang out with me or I ask girl to hang out and they are enthusiastic about the idea and say yes, but after that you never hear from them even if you ask them what's up?

Is it a lack of interest, anxiety, or just saying yes and then ignoring because that's easier than saying no/

>>16696449
>because that's easier than saying no
pretty much this. sorry anon

>slept with girl few days ago
>find out she's on my course
>see her in a couple of classes
>both try to ignore each other
>smirk on eye contact
>haven't text her since sleeping together
>feel like seeing her again

Would it be a bad idea to text her 'Hey, want to meet up?'

Would you find it awkward with a guy, femanon?

>>16696444
i've just got way too much time on my hands and get stupid ideas. if i let myself "run loose", i'd bother everyone including my closest friends out of their minds.

but of course i'm not doing gamey bullshit like "she texted me back after 2 hours so i'll wait at least twice as long to get back to her"

and yes i'm insecure as fuck

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>>16696452
ah. that's depressing

>>16696465
then maybe it's time for some new friends.
are you sure bout that? cause it sound a lot like you are doing exactly that

>>16695983
I've dated all of these, and honestly looks never really enter the equation past the initial interest. It's all about personality/chemistry

I want fuck a friend i don't know why but she became an obsession for me in this period, but i don't know how move.

To both,
Do you recommend flirting with a girl first, before asking her out? Honestly flirting feels even harder to do than just asking her out for dinner or whatever

>>16696206
I don't know, but this perfectly describes my current bf and it's fucking amazing

I think what helps is we are both very honest and upfront with how we feel and with our preferences. Also, we are both somewhat older and experienced, and adept at pushing past insecurities

>>16696458
What kind of relationship are you looking for?

>>16694410
For both genders: Why people care so much about being a virgin?
No one gives a shit where I live. It happens when it happens and that's it.
Is it more an american thing? Giving value to something that virtually has none?

It is strange for me reading that people think a virgin is different from a non-virgin, like if sticking and rubbing the penis inside a vagina will change them as a person.

>>16696497

fwb/get to know her so it doesn't seem awkward in class.

I feel texting her would just make things bad.

Is it normal for after the first 3 or 4 weeks of a relationship for us to stop being so "lovey-dovey" over text/snapchat/phone calls/etc.? When we see each other we are always romantically involved with each other, so it doesn't feel like we've fallen off or anything. I don't feel as if she doesn't like me, and I sure as hell still like her.

But as of recently our non-"in person" conversations are more to the point and not so "lovey-dovey" I guess. Does this just usually happen over time?

>>16696487
Yes, at least subtly. You need to establish some sort of level of attraction and tension between you two.

>>16696503
Go out for some light activity, followed by drinks, followed by back to your place

Shows her you still find her interesting, gives her opportunities to set the pace, gives you a natural progression to follow if she's acting unsure, ends with the option to fuggg

Girls:

Why do you have to be so difficult?

>>16696541
It weeds out inferior men who lack critical thinking and problem solving skills.

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>>16696550
>women
>critical thinking skills

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>>16696550
That is some serious lack of critical thinking.

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Girls, what do you generally do or expect after a first date?

I went on a first date with a girl I met online (POF) yesterday, it went well except for a slight hiccup in finding the place at the beginning, and she had to leave just before midnight to get the last train home (so did I but I just hadn't planned that far ahead, so it was lucky I did).

Today I don't know what to do. I haven't been on a date for 6 years. She looked at my profile on the website today but didn't say anything. I think we got on reasonably well but obviously can't read her mind, so I'd like to see her again. What is expected to happen now?

Thanks in advance.

>>16696622
I expect a man to prep my bull Jamal by sucking his big black cock while his useless small white dick is caged

>>16696622
Generally I leave it up to the guy to follow up. I'm also super insecure after a date, and if a guy doesn't text or call me within a day of the date, I assume he doesn't like me/I wasn't what he was expecting.

I'm positive I'm not the only girl with those fears/assumptions. If I were you, I'd reach out to her today to let her know you had fun and want to meet again.

>>16696627
>within a day

Wow ok. I heard all sorts of things like the 3 day rule etc. I'm not really free to see her again until next weekend and in my experience keeping a girl waiting that long usually leads to them just stopping to bother answering my texts or going off me.

So I should text her something like "nice meeting you, want to meet up again next weekend?"

>>16696651
>the 3 day rule etc

That's complete BS. I don't play games and any guy who attempts to do the same to me is outta the picture. That's some serious Vogue magazine-tier garbage. It blows my mind that people still think there are some arbitrary rules to communicating with people you like. What actually happens is the other person starts to feel like crap because the person they really started to like is straight up ignoring them until a time "they" think is appropriate. That's crazy.

Like her? Want to see her again? Tell her. No games, no BS. If for some messed up reason she doesn't like that forwardness, fuck her. She would have been a pain in the ass to deal with.

Women whats the best way to ask how many sexual partners youve had when we are dating and how long should I wait until asking?
Dont want to sound offensive but its something that I need to know in order to be in a relationship thats going to last longer than a few months.

>>16696662
Alright thanks, I'll text her later tonight and see if it's a mutual feeling

>>16696550

>Women are literal walking talking breathing problems to be solved and the reward is sex and companionship

It all makes sense now

There's this girl i've dated twice, the first time we dated she invited me at her appartment for netflix and chill but i didn't make a move because i felt a little uncomfortable, we had a second date on tuesday and she asked me to give her some guitar lessons at her appartment when she gets a guitar by the end of the month.

is that some "booty call" ? she seemed very excited about it when she asked. Also she's got a lot of musician friends but she still asked me, not anyone else.

>>16694410
>GF goes out with friends and her brother
>Gets drunk, dances, dressed uo
>Goes out with me
>Doesn't want to drink or dance and just wears whatever
>Tells me we're just going out so no reason to dress up and doesn't like to drink a lot
This annoys me. Any explanation for this ladies?

I will never use any amount of physical force in self defense against people except running away.

I will use any and all means necessary to defend myself from an animal attack without any mercy or remorse even if it becomes a bloodbath.

If I am caught by an attacking person and I cannot run away, I will not attempt to defend myself with physical force.

>Why?

Too many different self defense laws all over the world, one country has practically made it illegal to harm your attackers.

So, yes I will literally become some fat slobs anal slave if its the only way to live in this world.

Is all of this a turnoff or a turnon?
No, I'm not baiting or trolling, this is absolutely serious.

At 35 I'm too old to ask a 24 years girl out?

>>16696889
No, but the chances it works out aren't very good. She'll need to be a pretty mature person. You're both at very different places in life in a lot of ways, whether you think so or not. It's just true. She's going to see life differently than you. She'll want to do things you're tired of doing at your age. She may be the rare mature woman who is over her "young" phase, sure. But realize it's not likely that you'll find that rare kind of woman. Still, it's worth a shot if you have no other prospects. The worst you can lose is time. Just be prepared for a lot of bullshit if she's not "grown up"

I asked a girl out, and she said yes. But she's asking about the date plans. I kind of wanted it to be a surprise so how can I reapond to this?

>>16696889
If I had a daughter at that age, I'd give you sement shoes.

Unless if you were a smoking hot cougar and I had a son, then I'd be jelly as a MoFo, proud, but jelly.

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>>16696911
>sement

>>16696911
>YT vid about full homo lesbians touching a full homo dudes dick
>interesting and fun to watch, also boner inducing since lesbian seduction fetish fantasies, etc
>YT vid of full homo dudes touching a woman's breasts for the first time
>doesn't touch fully naked bare breasts

Wow, Gender Equality sure is a fun thing, isn't it?

Oh yeah.

>>16696928
dude what the fuck are you talking about

>>16696908
By not doing a surprise, because she'll just end up pissed at not knowing what to where. Tell her the first bit of plan at least, and don't go overboard on date one Casanova.

>>16696928
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HsXypbRwEH0

This is a pretty dumb question, but that's why I'm here.

I want to take a girl on a (first) date to do something in the city. We live on the edge of the city, and the bus ride in takes about 25 minutes.

My question is: Should I arrange to meet her in the city, or at the nearest bus stop? If the latter, should I pay for her ticket?

>>16696978
Take the bus together, and yes, pay for her ticket. It's what-- a couple bucks? The ride will be a good way to break the ice, rather than the two of you taking separate rides and sitting alone in silence, trumping up your anxiety and shit.

>>16696895
>She'll want to do things you're tired of doing at your age
yeah that's the first thing I thougt, but the times I did real girlfriend things are pretty scarce, so on that I'm sure it won't be boring.
>>16696911
I'm probably going to end up with sement shoes, but sincerely I can't find a woman I like around my age. most of them are stuck up bitches, corpses or whores.
maybe its just me, but I also feel like if they have less personality getting older. if you talk to one, you've talked to all in most cases. there's nothing but a fuck in them

>>16696978
Bus stop. Pay for it if she doesn't go to pay for it herself

>>16696908
Don't make it a surprise, there's nothing worse than a surprise as a first date

>>16696889
The question is: why would you want to? She's at a vastly different place in her life than you, and chances are you'll think of her as imature

>>16696848
>Too many different self defense laws all over the world, one country has practically made it illegal to harm your attackers.
I feel like you're a retard who blindly accepts whatever Chinese whispers he hears. To answer your question: I wouldn't date you

>>16696751
She's comfortable around you and doesn't feel like she has to do the things her friends want her to do when she's with you

>>16696731
Sounds to me like you're not even dating at all

>>16696668
You don't.

>>16696505
Yes. There becomes a point where it stops being cute and becomes cringey

>>16696487
Yep

>>16696449
>why do people do this?
This is answered in the OP

>>16697064
>you'll think of her as imature
immaturity doesn't make me like her less

>>16697079
Be honest here. You're immature also, aren't you? 35, on 4chan, considering relationship with a girl 9 years younger. Do you really have your shit together at all? What's your situation like? Because I'm assuming that you're not exactly a prize catch.

Again, be honest about yourself. Are these assumptions true? Because if both of you are kind of "losers" in the maturity/life progress sense, then there's no problem with you pursuing her.

>>16697079
No, but you'll get sick of her for it. Her youthfulness might be something that attracts you now, but soon enough, it'll just become annoying

>>16697088
>if both of you are kind of "losers" in the maturity/life progress sense
Anon, she's 24. If the OP is immature for his age, it doesn't necessarily mean she is too. She's probably just a normal 24 year old.

>>16697064
>I wouldn't date you

OK then.

I'm actually not fucking around about that "illegal to harm your attacker" part, that shit's real.

>>16697115
No it's not. I've had this conversation with someone else before here, possibly you. You're misinterpreting the law.

>>16697120
>You're misinterpreting the law.

Then I am completely misinterpreting UK's self defense laws, because one guy got arrested in there for simply defending his property.

>>16697088
Don't put it like I'm trying to hide a shameful secret, I'm very immature on many things, but the vast majority of adults are and stay like that until elder age, so I don't really see a problem. maturity isn't really tied to age, and its not a absolute value
>>16697090
Probably, I have the bad tendency of getting bored very fast of things. I guess its worth a try though, I've not been so much in synch with a girl in a long time

>>16697134
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-defence_in_English_law
>Self-defence in English law is using reasonable force against an unjust threat
Reasonable means it's proportionate and the least possible needed to defend yourself. The cases you've been reading involve use of excessive force.

How do get over a fear of expressing myself sexually?

I tried to deconstruct it but it just seems to be totally irrational and thoroughly visceral.

Whenever I'm with a girl I like I can talk to her and express my opinions and laugh joke etc. but whenever I think I have to make a move ofa sexual nature I just get this gut feeling of fear (probably from rejection plus a lot of other bullshit) and either walk away or just do nothing. I know I should probably get a therapist but I can't afford that right now so I'm wondering what steps I can take to push myself over and out of this bullshit.

>>16697144
>reasonable

That shit is complete fucking bullshit.

Fuck this. If some asshole ever attacks me I'd rather keep fighting until I die. Inside walls or not.

>>16697144
It's a retarded law though. If a bunch of sandniggers attempts to break into my house I should just wait for them to beat me to death or to a wheelchair/hospital bed for the rest of my life while they destroy everything I hold dear?

What do you girls think about long haired men?
And what do you guys think about short haired girls?

>>16697144
If a man attempts to rape me it's reasonable for me to kill him.

>>16697169
>>16697198
Just because you disagree with it's scope, doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

>>16697205
Just because it exists doesn't mean it can't be changed.

Especially with all the niggers and sandnigger apes pouring in. Either the law is changed or rapefugees are declared animals and not humans and therefore free to kill in case of assault. That's the only way the law would be just.

>>16697205
>doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

The actual problem is that it does exist. No sane organism in the universe could be this fucking retarded to make self defense this limited.

You might as well say to your citizens you're all slaves to you or some shit like that.

Regulating self preservation like that is absolutely insane.

>>16697224
Of course it doesn't. But the idea of reasonableness has been part of the self defence law for a very long time, and given how the law works in the UK, chances are it's not going to change.

>>16697235
Like I said, just because you disagree with it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. I do agree that it's unfair in some situations, like where women have been charged with murder for killing their abusive partners, but the law generally develops on a case-by-case basis where the legislature is unwilling or unable to make changes.

>>16697235
We have a similar law here in Italy too but it's being enforced less and less because too many shitskins committing crimes and getting away with it. Last time a man shot a shitskin dead the whole town lauded him, public opinion was with him and public authorities step up to represent him in court. Laws change according to the needs of the people and right now europeans need to defend themselves more than ever.

>>16697064
>Sounds to me like you're not even dating at all
Yeah i shouldn't have said "dated", i mean we saw eachother twice on a date for a drink. So yeah we're not dating

How do you know if you still love someone after the honeymoon phase?

I invited a lady friend to my place for our second date. I made a wonderful dinner. For appetizer, I had a general antipasto platter but added my own things to it. One thing I like to spread on bread is:

- 100g sundried tomatoes
- 15g roasted peanuts
- 2tbsp olive oil
- small knob of butter, not melted
- 1/4 crushed garlic
- 1 or 2 olives, depitted but whole
- salt and pepper
- blended so it's a chunky paste

She loved this in particular so I made her a jar to bring home for her family. A friend of mine says this is something a friend would do, not someone who is romantically interested in you. He said what I should have done is tease her and say she can have it next time she's over.

I don't get it, honestly. I was being nice.

>>16697336
Your friend is trying to sabotage you. You should stop talking to him about your romantic affairs. Of course your idea was good. It's a jar of a homemade spread which she enjoyed.

>>16696502
It's definitely an american thing. I live in Europe, but parents are originally from somewhere else. I couldn't care less about losing my virginity. I don't just wanna "smash" girls and have a gf for a few months. I look for wife material from the beginning. Why would I want to waste my time with another girl, when I know she's not going to be the one I will marry.

Personally I think those obsessed with losing their virginity are straight up retarded faggots who think they're cool.

So I'm at a concert. Let's say I see two girls talking about me from a distance, and they don't try to hide it even though I'm looking right at them. I'm on awkward terms with one of the girls.

Am I expected to go up and talk to them when this happens? I just walked away because I didn't want to deal with that crap at the time.

>>16697355
You're supposed to do whatever you want. If you didn't want their crap then walking away was the right decision.

Don't worry about everyone else's expectations. You don't get a special prize on your deathbed for having met them in place of your own preferences. You just die with regret.

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>>16697336
This shit tastes amazing dude holly fuck

>>16697313
So there's absolutely no reason why you should think she's booty calling you

>>16697336
First of all, thanks for the recipe. Secondly, it's a nice gesture, and not necessarily something someone who is 'just a friend' will do. There was nothing wrong with what you did, and your friend sounds like an asshat

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>>16697374

It's great. If you like sundried tomatos you'll enjoy this.

when people talk about the "pull out" method, are they implying that it's their ONLY form of birth control (aka, the girl isnt actually on birth control), or that they do both?

all my research into the subject says that it's extremely rare to get pregnant from precum, and with birth control its nearly 0%

>>16697333
You wait a least three years before making any long-term commitments

Why is it okay for women to live with their parents but not men? I don't care if a girl lives with her parents, I think it's smart. Why move out if you're unmarried and single? An apartment around here is like $1,200 a month. Minimum wage will get you $2,500 a month maybe.

I live on my own but I have my own company. I make $5,500 a month give or take. My apartment costs me $1,250 a month plus internet bill ($+70). My couch was $700, my kitchen table was $800, my bedroom set was $2,500. Shit's expensive.

The chances of a woman finding a partner while living with her parents is very high, but for a guy? Basically zero.

I'm 25 if it matters.

>>16697460
>Why is it okay for women to live with their parents but not men?
I don't know anyone who thinks this. I feel like you're taking your own opinion about it being okay for women to live with their parents and comparing it to other people's opinions about you living with yours. That's not an equal comparison at all

>>16697460
because girls have managed to position themselves as the "pursuee" in the relationship game.

guys will look past things like unemployment, living at home, etc. just to find a girl. girls on the otherhand have an easier time turning away guys that don't fit their preferred criteria because they simply get advanced on by more guys.

>>16697471
>because girls have managed to position themselves as the "pursuee" in the relationship game.
You make it sound like this was the doing of women, not men.

>>16697460
It's a stigma that's slowly fading, especially for college grads. Don't make a big deal about it and likely no one else will. I would personally love to move back with my parents, but can't because my mom is allergic to my dog.

>>16697460
>Why is it okay for women to live with their parents but not men?
Because its expected that the woman moves into the mans place.

But what do you do when your brain mistakes overcoming with suppression? I tend to suppress feelings instead of facing them.

>>16697497
See a therapist

>>16694410
Do most girls find flaccid penises unappealing?

I sometimes have difficulties getting erections without physical stimulation, but at the same time I fear that girls will get turned off if I'm not already erect.

My ex was fine with it, and really enjoyed making me grow by giving me oral from small and flaccid to fully grown and hard. I'm a grower, so depending on the situation I can be as short as little over 3 inches, and 7 inches when fully erect.

I'm well satisfied with my 7 inches, but if I'm with a new girl I can get quite embarrassed by my small size before I get aroused. That embarrassment has caused me to get nervous which spoil any chance of the girl getting impressed. It sucks, since I got all the potential to not be afraid, so I just need to know if girls think it's fine as long as I get a lot bigger after a short while.

I guess this isn't strictly for the opposite sex, but I don't think this warrants its own thread. I don't know how to be delicate about this, so I'm just going to say it plainly. I have a really small mouth and my boyfriend's cock is really thick. Like, my fingers don't wrap all the way around it thick. We were both virgins when we met, so neither of us are sexually experienced. I want to give him better head and I feel like there's something I'm missing. I really want to try and take him deeper, but he hits the back of my mouth before he's even like 1/3 of the way in. Does anyone have any blowjob advice for a woman with a small mouth who has a man that's bigger than average?

>>16697598
Use your ass

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Seems like most girls like getting spanked, does this have anything to do with your parents spanking you as a kid

Why the fuck would you act all interested in me and text me back for the most part and then not do it at all? I know I asked if you were a lesbian but fuck, come on, most people would get over it, especially in the middle of buttfuck nowhere
When there isn't alot of options

>>16697624
Was never spanked as a child. I enjoy spanking, but not to the point of having a sore ass. A few swats while being fucked from behind is sexy. Anything other than that hurts and I start to immediately lose interest in any sexy times.

>>16697624
Sfw board faggot, go back to r9k

>>16697630
Nice vent.

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Do women care how long you last in bed or they care more that they've got off?

The routine is generally:

>focus on her for 20-30min, she gets off
>fuck for 2 minutes and I get off
>cuddle a bit

>>16697706
Doesn't matter to me if he blows in 30 seconds or 30 minutes, so long as I orgasm.

>>16697706
Routine is going to make her bored so she cheats on you

I hope you like the aftertaste of black cock hombre

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For the ladies, what is the preferred method getting let down/denied for the following situation? I feel like my normal tactic of feigned ignorance just breeds confusion.

>Be me
>Go to a certain bar and certain store often
>Certain female cashier and female bartender know me by name
>Have started playing with their hair and touching me during conversations.
>I have next to no interest in these two females.

>>16697706
Routine sounds boring.

>>16697598
I'm in the exact same boat as you. I'm still learning, but I find that the angle that best helps me get it into my throat is 69, since his dick (and most I'm assuming) have a slight upward curve.

>>16697432
They could be talking about either. The pull-out method, or "withdrawal" as it's more officially know, is an actual birth control technique on it's own, albeit an unreliable and not-so effective one. I'd recommend you only use it to enhance another top-tier contraceptive, never by itself.

Here are some good sources:
http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/unintendedpregnancy/pdf/contraceptive_methods_508.pdf

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control

http://m.scarleteen.com/article/sexual_health/the_buddy_system_effectiveness_rates_for_backing_up_your_birth_control_with_a_

For the ladies:

How would you feel about your boyfriend making a living off drawing porn?

>>16698097
Uncomfortable

>>16698097
I'd ask him to draw me porn

Really specific shit like Kerrigan fucking a loli with her talons

>>16698097
I highly doubt he'd be able to make a livable salary off of it, so I wouldn't be supportive. I don't care what he draws. If he's not making a respectable wage, then it's not a good job.

>>16697203
I'm not into long hair in guys

>>16698129

It's making me a very livable salary to be honest.
I used to make 1200 € a month and now I make about 1800-2400 € a month.

I didn't intend to keep this job at first but eventually I started to like it and it's good money.

Problem is I don't feel comfortable dating anymore since work is one of the first topic's to bring up.
And starting out by lying about my job isnt going to help either.

>>16698124

Didn't expect this. I don't draw loli tho.

>>16696206
Be a beautiful girl who is a submissive animalistic nympho slave in the sheets and a loyal devoted elegant lady in the streets.

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ladies
Yesterday I kissed my friend. We were having a good time laying next to each other and she gave me this cute moderately enticing smile and I leaned in and just started making out with her and pretty much started touching her under her clothes.
Now neither of us really like each other in that way so I dont know what the fuck just happened. However Id like to be able to have the kind of confidence around another girl. I almost feel like I blindsided her and she just went with the flow.
How do I know when a girl wants me to go for the kiss. Usually I have to be told or she starts going for the kiss first. I never have initiated the first kiss before so I dont understand how I knew it was okay to go for it then.

>>16698097
Kind of depends on the porn. If it was gay stuff or a really weird fetish thing I'd be uncomfortable with it.

>>16698129
with some of those donation sites popular porn artists have made like 5k a month

please somebody fuck me

>>16694477
>good guys never finish.

I once did a similar thing (friend like girl, I took a class with him and met her, she started to like me, I liked her, decided to step off for him, he never went anywhere with her.

I blamed myself, not him, and the next time a similar thing happened with another friend, I just told him if he wasn't going to, I was going to make a move. He didn't mind, and I took my shot, and I regretted nothing.

That's all on you. Learn a lesson. Stop being a pansy.

>>16694484
> is it normal if my best friend gets jealous when i mention other guys?

Eh... Not really... My best friend is a girl, and I remember just once, once, there was this one time when I felt a pang of jealously, and immediately I called myself out on it and told myself I was being idiot. I think the same thing happened to her when I met my girlfriend. But we were friends with benefits for a while, and at one point, out of loneliness, flirted with the idea of being with one another (but we snapped out of it and went back to just platonic/non-sexual friends and became closer than ever for it).

I think maybe he feels more than he's letting on.

>>16694661
Yup. Sometimes I wish I was sliiiightly longer so I can use certain positions better, but I'm pretty creative and I have fun experimenting so it's not that big a bother.

>>16695276
>Guys, if it were more socially acceptable for you to wear makeup, would you?

Nah. Well maybe on special occasions I guess? But then I'm not sure what you could put on a guy that wouldn't look weird as hell. Just foundation and bronzer I guess? Eye liner would look as fuck... maybe mascara?

*shrug*

>>16695824
>I know a guy who's 22 and has never had a GF.

I was 26 before I had my first GF.

Combination of at first I just had other priorities, then I never met anyone who felt right, and when I did I would just have bad luck (they lose a job and have to move, or lose a family member, or whatever).

>>16695992
>How do you get over someone you never had closure from?

Closure is a myth. Just realize that and start dating and meeting new people. Eventually you get over them without ever realizing it.

>>16695995
>How do you tell a guy you don't like him any more?
Just tell him you're not interested. Be honest and direct.

>>16696023
>I'm 20 (f) and never had a bf, because I never really bothered when I was younger and I was too busy from about 18-20.

Nah, not at all weird.

>>16696319
>Guys, when you're in one of those kind of "quiet bad moods" what's the best thing to do?

Every guys different, but for the most part, just ask what's up once and if you can help (exactly once) and if they don't want to talk about it, just say "okay, I'm here if you change your mind"

Do not ask again.

Don't be hurt, sad, or upset. Some guys just need to work through things on their own (i'm definitely one of them sometimes).

>>16694661
No.
My penis size fluctuates too much anyways.
length wise is around 8-8.25 when Im having sex.
Its the girth though that annoys me. Im like 6 1/8 at the base but right beneath the head like 5.25. Fucking cone shape. Id say that as far as how much actually goes in, a woman does feel more than 5.75 girth before theres no more room. I want to be 6 all around

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This has plagued me all my life and affects my sex life
When I dont fap I get frogspawn. Some jelly like shit that comes out of my penis instead of sperm.
Im terrified that if I ejaculate a woman will see it and hate everything. Its so bad that I couldnt cum in front of my ex gf and she started crying thinking she wasnt a woman.
I have no idea why the frog spawn occurs or how to get rid of it. If I dont fap for long enough it will come out after I pee.
How should I let a woman know this could come out. I know right now if I ejaculated it would be after a few more weeks it stops coming out when I pee and I never know if I still have it.
Will she freak out.

Girls, what do you like to hear a man talk about? I got a girl says she likes the sound of my voice, but all my topics of monologue are designed to entertain my fat weeaboo friends.

>>16698171
>So Anon, what do you do for work?
>I'm an independent artist.
>Oh cool, what sort of stuff do you do?
>I take commissions, so really, anything that someone wants to pay me for.
Done. You're not lying, but you're not starting the conversation with "I DRAW NAKED CARTOON LADIES." I work on hentai translations in my free time and I waited for a while until I told my girlfriend about it so that by the time I told her, she knew enough about me to know that I wasn't a total creep and would believe me when I say that it's just a productive, creative outlet, since my day job is nothing like that.

Hey /adv/,
I thank you in advance for gracing me with your knowledge.
My neutral face tends to be pretty serious and people have commented that I seem unapproachable/upset/arrogant.
Double that down with some shyness and I have a hard time meeting/interacting with girls.
>How can I improve on this?
>What's the best way to ask someone out?
I'm shod at reading social queues so "LOOK AT BODY LANGUAGE PLEB" isn't going to help.

Women

When is it appropriate to hit or beat your boyfriend, husband or partner? Cheating? An insulting comment? Him forgetting your birthday or hurting your feelings?

Girls

Is it normal to smile at your waiter when he comes over to your table? I don't usually smile at tables for what its worth, and from what I've noticed, girls don't smile at my coworkers with the same frequency they do for me.

gonna try on here.

so I met this girl, got her number chatted for a bit.
Never been in a relationship my whole life, tell myself fuck it, might as well try with her.

tell her im interested in being more than just friends.
She says she feels the same.

we've gone out twice, sex on second date (hurray for not being virgin anymore haha)

its been two weeks since we started seeing each other and now theres a lull. there wasnt a fight or anything like that but we're just not talking as much.

should i be worried? is this normal? i dont want to like annoy her with phone calls and texts and shit and blow the whole thing.

>>16697374
>>16697336

>not realizing this is the recipe for a toxic substance that can potentially kill you

You've fallen for one of the oldest /b/ and /ck/ death pranks in the book if this is how you die. Save your life and don't do it.

>>16698552

Never. The only reason I would sincerely hit my partner is if he hits me or attacks me first... it's called self-defense.

How would you react if you were dating someone you thought was smart and had their shit together but it turned out they were really stupid and incompetent at everything?

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>Men

Pick one from this chart and why?

>>16698578

1. It's sexy, confident, individualistic, and conveys both authority and playfulness without being tryhard or looking like a wig

4 is a close second favorite

>>16697560
Can girls ITT please respond to this. It's an easy question.

>do flaccid penises turn you off? Must a man already be fully erect for you to enjoy touching him, or do you like watching him grow even if he starts out less than half the size of what he'll end up as?

>>16698578
9-10 is best

Anything under 3 is shit tier, 3s and 4s can rarely be pulled off

>>16698578
Honestly anything tailbone length and up is fine, but it depends on the girl and what suits her.

But if you're forcing me to pick one, I have fetish for short haired girls, so 1.

>>16698572
Probably break up with them to be honest

>>16698562
Go out with her again

>>16698561
Yes? It's just polite, isn't it?

>>16698552
If you're play-fighting (don't know if that counts as hitting or beating though) or in self defence. Otherwise never.

>>16698517
Approach girls. Get used to talking to them

>>16698460
Anything he's passionate about, as long as it's not boring. I'd rather have a conversation than listen to someone talk though

>>16698578
6-12
Up to 14 if it doesn't get in the way, down to 4 if it suits that particular girl and is still feminine.
There really isn't much of a reason for this though, as this is just a question about personal taste.
I can only say that I am absolutely not attracted to girls with short hair, pixie cut being the worst, and hair gets troublesome once a certain length is reached. It requires more and more care (have had mid back length myself) and gets in the way.

>>16698588
>pixie cut
>individualistic
kek

>>16698578
God, I don't miss having 11, shit was a pain in the ass.

>>16698613
Not that anon, but I don't actually know of any girls other than celebrities and middle aged or older women who have pixie cuts

Either gender can chip in on this one. I've never been in this kind of situation before so I need as much help as I can get.

I met this girl on Tinder on New Years day, we'll call her Brit. Things were going well during our conversations. Got her on snapchat and we talked for several days. At one point I told her I write poetry, she said she was intrigued so I came up with a few stanzas about her golden hair and baking muffins for us (it's her favorite food.) She loved it and afterwards she wanted to know when we'd meet up. Had to drive 2.5 hrs to Saskatoon last Friday but I made the first date possible. I knew in advance she was gonna bring two other couples who were friends with her along (I suppose safety reasons, but I didn't object).

We hung out at this Scottish pub for awhile before I suggested we hit the clubs together. She said in advance how she'd make sure we had some alone time together so I seized the opportunity by taking her in my car.

This is where I start to wonder if I was being clingy or a genuine romantic in her eyes, but I had told her earlier that week that I was gonna write an actual poem for her on our first date. Well, I read it to her in my car and she said she was not expecting anything like that, and that I was an amazing writer. We make out in the front seat for a bit before joining her friends at the club. She clearly enjoyed dancing with me, but our night was cut short when her parents demanded she go home. (curfew for a 19 year old? What gives?)

She went home with her friends, and I forgot to give her the poem to keep cause we were rushed. I text her about it the next day and she said she was really sorry about forgetting it. The rest of the weekend her texts are spaced out and we don't get to see each other again, but I tell her I'm coming back up on the 23rd for a wrestling tournament.

Next time I snap chat Britt, it's her friend answering and being seemingly coy about whether or not I made a good impression. (Cont'd)

>>16698614

The longest I've ever had was, as a little girl, tailbone to classic length. It really is hard to take care of if you don't know what to do with it.

I think, honestly, girls with finer, straighter hair can pull off the super long look. I have wavy-curly hair, so I can't go too long.

Anyway, I'll stop talking, BYE.

>>16698620
The number of celebrities with pixie cuts is enough for me to not consider this individualistic but rather just another of those Hollywood things.
I personally don't know anyone with a pixie cut due to the kind of people I socialise with (they are all somewhat conservative), but I see plenty of them at university, usually majoring in social sciences.

Her friend jokes about cutting my balls off with the Venus fly trap from SAW. I play along, but the next day it's her with Britt's phone yet again. The day after things get ugly when one of her guy friends from the pub pretends to be Britt and baits me into texting something sexual before revealing himself and calling me a sick fuck for molesting Britt in my car.
That utterly ravaged me. At this point I thought Britt was gonna file a lawsuit against me and she was just using her friends to get rid of me, because she thought so lowly of me.

Yesterday I snap her a photo of the poem, saying that I'm so sorry if I made her feel unsafe. Then the truth comes out: the week leading up to our date, her ex had been harassing her through texts and she just decided to leave her phone with her friends while at school. She said they were being protective of her and apologized for what was said by them.

I told her I was absolutely ravaged by the accusation of molesting her, and that I felt like I was truly the scum of the earth afterwards. I said I would never force her to do anything against her will, and that I also didn't wish to hold grudges against her friends. I told her they cared about her deeply, and so did I.

She thanked me and said that I was still both a gentleman and a great guy in her eyes, but that our date had reminded her that she hasn't given herself enough time to recover from her recent 2 year breakup, thus she wasn't ready for dating just yet. She also said she was struggling to keep up with her university assignments. I asked if we could be friends in the meantime and she said that would be best.

How should I go about handling this situation? I really like this girl and I don't want to come off as needy by continuing to snapchat her each night, but at the same time I don't want her to forget about me. How often should I text her? How do I continue to build rapport so that when she does feel ready to date again, I'll be the first choice on her mind?

>>16698633
Mine IS fine and straight and it was still awful at that length. It got tangled super easily, the weight and texture of my hair meant it didn't hold a curl or style, and basically I couldn't do anything with it except have it tied up or braided. It's about a 6-7 now and I love it. I don't think I'd ever want long hair again, 8 or 9 is the longest I'd go

>>16698643

I wish my hair can be as long as yours. :( My partner insists that I keep my hair between 3 and 4 because he says that he loves having access to my neck when he kisses me, and being that my hair is not straight, it can be a bit too annoying when we can lay down together or have sex.

But I do miss having it a bit longer, but he won't hear of it. Is there a way to convince him? You don't have to answer, lol, but I do miss looking more feminine and I find feel like a little boy sometimes.

>>16698654
Just grow it out. In the end, it's your hair and if having longer hair makes you feel better, go for it. You can always tie it up for kisses and sex. I don't see why he'd make a huge deal about it if you did grow it longer, it'd be a pretty silly thing for him to get that upset over.

>>16698662

Some men are just kind of babies about the hair thing idk lol. Thank you for answering. <3

>>16698662
This.
If he "doesn't allow" you to, he is a controlling dick. Now I know you didn't say that it goes that far, just throwing it in for good measure.

>>16698097
If Corey Spazkid can get a gf then you can. Look up his stuff most of it is furry, sonic , trap and scat porn and listen to the podcast he like the most autistic lovable guy ever.

>>16698578
About 7 to 11, preferable 11. I love long hair on girls, it feels so sexy and cute.
Anything under five reminder me of my mom or other middle aged women, pixie cut is especially shit.
5 and 6 are little girl hair cuts.
12 is alright at a push.
Anything over that is too much.

>>16694410
why do guys get pissed at me when i ask them to whip out there dick. am i asking the wrong questions, or the right questions in the wrong way??

>>16698676

I just think its odd that he wants it on the shorter side... isn't longer hair supposed to be considered feminine and beautiful?

>>16698717
That's not something you say to strangers.

>>16698724
I like short hair on girls because it can accent other beautiful facial features, such as eyes, cheeks, and nose. That being said, if he doesn't like the long hair because he can't kiss the neck, it should be fairly simple to push the hair back.

>>16698724
Read the responses to your question. There are apparently enough guys out there with a thing for short hair on girls. I am just not one of them.
Additionally a pixie cut is probably a fairly good sign of a girl being incompatible to me due to views differing too much anyway.

May be that the vast majority of guys prefers long(er) hair, I don't have any data on that though.
Having a thing for short hair on girls does seem odd to me, but only because I really can't see the appeal, no matter how hard I try to understand it. A pixie cut just makes girls look like pubescent boys to me.
Doesn't mean it's strange or weird though to be into it really. You can't choose your preferences.
I also have a thing for quite a lot of stuff that would also cause me not to pursue a girl due to a high probably of views/personality differing too much at the same time.

>>16694661

Yeah. Mine is 6.5"-ish, which is supposedly on the big side of average. I've heard girls say it's big before. I'm pretty sure unless you're very small or very large how big a girl thinks your dick is is pretty much a function of how they feel about you. I've gone from having the biggest dick in the world to the smallest, except dicks don't work that way. Now I don't take what women say about my penis seriously. Totally happy with it.

>>16695276

I'm a degenerate. I'd go way farther than that if I had the space. Realistically, I wish it were okay for guys to wear base. It's pretty harmless and helps the skin a lot.

>>16696319

Ask once - and only once - if things are okay. Guys are in the shit position where society encourages them to not be emotionally fluent or open. Asking them too much puts them on the spot; asking them too little makes it sound like you're indifferent to their suffering. If it looks like it's getting bad, ask again but more firmly/compassionately. If it's an unhealthy kind of keeping things bottled in, you have to work with the guy. Try get them to shed some of that aversion to being communicative about their emotional state. You're there for them, after all.

>>16697203

Love short-haired girls of all heights. Short haired girls look beautiful since it accentuates their jaw line and shows off the graceful lines of their neck. Personally, I love tall short-haired girls. I want Gwendoline Christie to bridal carry me to a safe place and live happily ever after. I'm pretty sure this makes me a degenerate.

Ask more questions, ladies.

>>16698578
Anything 5-10, but 8-10 is the sweet spot. I don't like short hair on women, it makes them look like men or lesbians. Anything 11+ is just too long to be either fun or practical and it gets everywhere. I like women to have traditional look, and anything shorter than 5 looks too modern for my taste.

Buzzed from drinking. Feeling like I should break up with my long distance gf of 8ish months. Gave her 400 bucks to fly out to see me. What do I do? How do I know what is the right choice? Some days I love her more than anything and others she annoys me more than anything.

>>16698552
Like the other anons said: never, unless it's consensual roughhousing or in self-defense

>>16698678
I'm so glad I wasn't the only one who immediately thought of Spazkid when I read the question.

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I just found out the girl I'm going on a date with soon has fucked about 30 guys. She told me herself. Dating her would be a complete embarrassment, and making her a fwb would even be a health risk. She's a nice enough person, and I don't want to be cruel with rejecting her. What should I do?

>>16696449
>ignoring because that's easier than saying no
Yeah more or less. I wouldnt stress too much about it, and just find people who are more straight forward.

>>16696550
>It weeds out inferior men who lack critical thinking and problem solving skills.
t. basic bitch

>>16697144
Thank god for Castle Doctrine.

>>16698578
Anywhere between shoulder and hip. I like long hair, but too much of anything can work against you.

>>16698956

Nothing wrong with having sex, but it bothers you. Just say you're not feeling it and hope she finds someone who can make her happy. Problem solved.

>>16698956
Maybe just go on the one date and just say afterwards that you "had a really good time but think that you two want different things." Or "It was nice but I'm not really interested in going further"

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Girls:

When texting/messaging a guy, have you ever been intentionally aloof (e.g. no exclamation marks, no followup questions, a smiley face every once in a while)?

If so, were you romantically interested in the guy you were talking to? Playing hard to get or something like that?

The reason I'm curious is because a girl I asked out a couple weeks ago tends to send me 'aloof' messages, but sent a smiley in response to my first message and another smiley (and a yes) in response to me asking her if she wanted to hang out sometime.

>>16699048
I do that if I'm upset (whether it be with him or in general) or if I'm busy

>>16698517

Start exaggerating your facial and body expressions as much as possible. Start just being quirky and making noises because fuck it. Start putting yourself in situations that are uncomfortable.

/signed a former shy kid who looked way too fucking serious (and still sometimes does when I forget to wear my silly mask and am concentrating--but my girlfriend thinks its hot, so w/e)

>>16698578
>pick from the length chart

My girlfriend was 13. We were both pretty sad when the person cutting her hair put her down to like a 10 or 11 when she asked for just a small trim <.<. "It looks better this way."

If I were her I probably would have raged, so fucking hard.

13 because not too longh it's ridiculous and your stepping over it, but also very feminine.

Otherwise like 4 or 5 (because eating hair while making love can be pretty obnoxious sometimes).

But really, it also is hyper dependent on the girl.

Girls,

Why do you like to wear our hoodies so much?

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We were talking about curry last night

Her: I'm glad to hear you like curry.
Me: we could get curry sometime!
Her: good idea! Let's go sometime.

So do I just...like, hey,
If you are free Saturday night there's this good Indian/Sri Lankan place let's check it out?
Shame on me for being vague, I know

>>16699060
I'm so stiff though. People generally seem confused when I do anything that's out of the box they've placed me in.
It frustrates me since I'm not sure if to stay in the box or have them amused?mocking? by bursting out.

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Question for girls:

So, I've finally found a girl and we've officially become a thing as of last friday night. But we've been talking since last year, roughly around november/december. Her birthday is 10 days and I'm thinking it's too early to get her anything of real substance, but then again I see myself dating her months from now and would like that to happen. Maybe something small like flowers or chocolate? Would appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance.