Looking for a bit of /adv/ice here please, I don't come on this board often so I don't really know if I will get good advice.
I live in dormitories at college with 10 rooms and we all share a kitchen. We do stuff together, we see each other and everything. One of the girls is really cute and I want to ask her out but this is difficult because I will live with her for the rest of the year, and because I have never asked a girl out before.
I see her in the kitchen, I talk to her and often she will be alone. I was thinking that the best thing to do would be to nonchalantly ask her on a date but I am not sure if this will backfire.
I was reading online about "building attraction", is there any truth to this?
I am fairly good looking I think.
How should I go about asking her out? Thanks in advance :)
Nobody in my flat drinks too much. It's a bit strange.
I want to ask her out to do something. Should I invite her out directly and do dinner, or try and invite her to something subtle that is sort of a date.
You should make it clear you want to do something with just her and yourself. That should make it clear that it's a date you're asking her on. And if she asks if it's a date, tell her it's a date.
Well she seems a bit dorky, she doesn't seem to do much apart from revise and I'm not sure if she goes out too much. I don't think she has many interests that I know about but I'm sure I will find out. I do not think she would be resistant to me straight-up asking her out like some people would as she is on a similar level of attractiveness and I doubt she would let somebody down.
Beta man you are beta as fucked already passed friendzoned, it wont help you will just make it akward, you are also a massive faggot she most likely thinks you are a gay, dont cry when shes getting her cunt pounded m8, OR be a beta fag anyway and ask her either way my sides
Just do it, faggot. If she says no, just roll with the punches and move on.
It sounds more like op does't really know her that much, which is actually good so he can get to know her but also making clear that he is interested in her in a "more than friends" kind of way.
I don't think I am in the 'friendzone', I haven't even become her friend yet. I have just lived with her, saw her around but never actually spoken to her much. I'm not sure how I can change that - even to a friendship. I think that I would do well to speak to her more before directly asking her out, but I have never asked anybody out before - I don't think the advice of "just do it faget" is good because I have no way to see how she would react.
I suppose what I am asking is how can I make her like me to the point that I can ask her out, if that is even possible.
The more you think about this and are consumed by thoughts of "wanting to to be successful", the more likely you are to be too nervous to be yourself, do jack shit all, and fuck it all up.
Best advice, stop thinking about it, stop hoping anything of it, stop building any kind of expectations whatsoever.
Just go out to have fun.
If she incidentally also happens to have fun, awesome. Then you know you might have something.