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Looking for a bit of /adv/ice here please, I don't come on this board often so I don't really know if I will get good advice.

I live in dormitories at college with 10 rooms and we all share a kitchen. We do stuff together, we see each other and everything. One of the girls is really cute and I want to ask her out but this is difficult because I will live with her for the rest of the year, and because I have never asked a girl out before.

I see her in the kitchen, I talk to her and often she will be alone. I was thinking that the best thing to do would be to nonchalantly ask her on a date but I am not sure if this will backfire.

I was reading online about "building attraction", is there any truth to this?

I am fairly good looking I think.

How should I go about asking her out? Thanks in advance :)
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>college
>living with girls
If you haven't gotten together drunk and yet then it's never going to happen.
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>>16688203

This.

Also, if you see her alone so much, just ask her if she wants to hang out. She's obviously free. If she says no, then oh well- she's just a loner.
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Nobody in my flat drinks too much. It's a bit strange.

I want to ask her out to do something. Should I invite her out directly and do dinner, or try and invite her to something subtle that is sort of a date.
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>>16688371
You should make it clear you want to do something with just her and yourself. That should make it clear that it's a date you're asking her on. And if she asks if it's a date, tell her it's a date.
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>>16688407

I was planning on doing that, is there any more advice about how to handle this properly without upset or anything?
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>>16689004
Tell us more about her first
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>>16689127

Well she seems a bit dorky, she doesn't seem to do much apart from revise and I'm not sure if she goes out too much. I don't think she has many interests that I know about but I'm sure I will find out. I do not think she would be resistant to me straight-up asking her out like some people would as she is on a similar level of attractiveness and I doubt she would let somebody down.
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>>16688182
Beta man you are beta as fucked already passed friendzoned, it wont help you will just make it akward, you are also a massive faggot she most likely thinks you are a gay, dont cry when shes getting her cunt pounded m8, OR be a beta fag anyway and ask her either way my sides
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>>16688203
This first anon has it right, living with a girl and in college and havent fucked yet? op best advice find a new girl and man the fuck up pleb
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Try to not commit to much. Try to not overthink what you doing (did she like that? Did she find that strange? Blablabla). In resume, don't worry to much.
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>>16689331
Sounds like you guys are friends and nothing more
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Also, don't listen to this guys
>>16689343
>>16688203
Not everyone are like this.
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>>16688182
Nigga you are on 4chan looking for advice and reading some bs about "building attraction" christ make some friends and get out and socialise with people this is fucking pathetic
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>>16688182
Just do it, faggot. If she says no, just roll with the punches and move on.
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>>16689350
It sounds more like op does't really know her that much, which is actually good so he can get to know her but also making clear that he is interested in her in a "more than friends" kind of way.
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>>16689358
If she says no OP will be on /b/ in roll quads I an hero, or fucking feels thread either way OP should just do it
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>>16689365
That is a plus as long as he is not being a creep and spaghetti everywhere
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OP here,

I don't think I am in the 'friendzone', I haven't even become her friend yet. I have just lived with her, saw her around but never actually spoken to her much. I'm not sure how I can change that - even to a friendship. I think that I would do well to speak to her more before directly asking her out, but I have never asked anybody out before - I don't think the advice of "just do it faget" is good because I have no way to see how she would react.

I suppose what I am asking is how can I make her like me to the point that I can ask her out, if that is even possible.
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Please don't bully, just want to know the sort of things I should do or anything that you can link me to help me out with this situation.
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OP here again,

Is there any recommendations about asking her out beyond simply doing it, I am committed that I will do it - I just want it to be successful.
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>>16689715

The more you think about this and are consumed by thoughts of "wanting to to be successful", the more likely you are to be too nervous to be yourself, do jack shit all, and fuck it all up.

Best advice, stop thinking about it, stop hoping anything of it, stop building any kind of expectations whatsoever.

Just go out to have fun.

If she incidentally also happens to have fun, awesome. Then you know you might have something.
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