Okay so, here goes. I met my ex around March 2013. We've been on and off since October 2013. We have a daughter together who is an absolute angel and I love her with everything I have. He cheated on me on August 2013 with my best friend, he chose another girl over me in 2014 and now he's dating a girl who is basically the town's bycicle (every guy I know has had sex with her). He's trashed my apartment, threatened to hurt me and yelled at me in front of our daughter. He's come home drunk and lived with me rent free for a whole year while I payed for everything. I had a dream a couple of hours ago that him and his current girlfriend were in and I physically assaulted his girlfriend and he didn't stop me. What do I do? What does this mean? If he's such a piece of shit then why am I still hung up on everything?
Because you might be clinically retarded. Have some fucking self-respect. Who cares if he's the father of your child. He's a piece of shit and you need to cut him out of your life. How could you let him live with you and treat you like that? I'm honestly angry for all females right now.
Right now, we barely talk unless it's about our daughter which he basically does nothing for. He always asks to see her but doesn't contribute AT ALL. I don't want to cut him out because I know how shitty it is to grow up without a dad around (my dad spent thousands of dollars in court just to get visitation). I don't want her to miss out even though I know it'll end up in disappointment, you know?
First you need to accept that the relationship between you two isn't going to work. It didn't work before, he clearly has no interest in it unless he can get some other benefit from it. I'm sure he's come back to you promising it will be different but if it wasn't then, why would it be different another time?
You need to be more firm with him. Don't let him sponge off you any more. If he isn't contributing to the expenses of raising your daughter, then it's time to speak to a lawyer.
True, all very true. It's so fucking frustrating man. I have a lot of patience and sympathy and I've given him change after chance to be there and our daughters is going to be 2 this summer like, he works and all I ask is that he helps out with her but if I'm not constantly after him, he makes up these shit ass excuses. We're supposed to be Co parenting but he's a gigantic waste of human shit and in all honesty, if he died, our daughter would be better off because at least she'd get compensation from the government.