whenever I my girlfriend goes out to parties (without me) she always texts me being all lovey-dovey, saying how much she loves me, saying shit like she wants to marry me, wants to be with me forever, etc etc.
Alcohol is usually involved, to more of an extent than other times.
What is this about?
>What is this about?
I've got some bad news for you, OP...
I don't know if you understood, the horn is an expression for being a cuckold in some countries of Europe. I'm not sure whether Americans use it or not. Well that's not my point.
This is not always the case; but I think this happens when she has second thoughts about you. In other words, at those parties where she gets constantly hit on, where she probably gets tons of guys complimenting at and finally where she realizes she can get with better looking or complete alpha guys than you, she is thinking about cheating you. She realizes how it could be easy to cheat on you with a drop of a hat. That's why she writes those texts, something is holding her back. It can be love, it can be self-respect, it can be peer pressure, I don't know. Saying all that stuff sort of makes her feel better, because it kind of neutralizes the "bad" thoughts she had. This kind of stuff happened to a friend of mine, whose girlfriend went abroad to study. She used to pull that shit, then we found out that (we had another friend of ours in that university) she got a lot of attraction at parties etc. Eventually these texts became rare, and got replaced with statements saying "people are so nice here", "i went to movies with Claus he's so cool", "people treat me nice here". Then she cheated. Again, this is not always the case, but it reminded me of this certain situation that I have witnessed couple of times in my life.
Well I'm a grill and I don't think it's necessarily a red flag. Not everyone is a rampant whore, despite what this site thinks. She might get a little tipsy and start thinking about how much she loves you or she might feel guilty about being hit on or maybe she's trying to assure you that she isn't fucking around. Don't listen to the guys on here. You know her better.
no, she's going out to the parties to meet Canadian men. OP needs to confront her about this
This. I always used to be super sweet and loving to my ex directly AFTER I cheated on her.
Maybe, 5, -10 minutes after I'd blow up her phone with how beautiful and perfect she was and how I would always love her and take care of her, how she would always be my little girl
Mine does the same but according to her it's because she gets a bit bored and feels a bit guilty at being at a party without me so she tries to be extra nice. And it's usually me not being able to go because work or me just not wanting to go to specific ones, but she always wants me to come.
Could be any number of reasons really. To say that means she's cheating on you is overreaching a bit, but if you're nervous about it then go to more parties with her and so on.
Now, if she doesn't WANT you to come with her, then that'd be a problem right there.
Ah, anon, I'm just asking you to be suspicious ok?
I used to get lovey dovey fucking pages sent to me, paragraphs about how awesome (and loved ) I was from my gf, right after she finished cheating on me.
It's a red flag anon, if they're so affectionate, why aren't they affectionate when they're at home?
She's just as affectionate or more at home though, it's not like she treats me like shit until she's at a party. And it's not like the messages come out of nowhere, we usually keep talking while she's at a party and eventually says that.
And don't worry, I'm paranoid and suspicious as fuck about everything enough.
Ok, this got pretty real pretty fast.
If I hurt them right at the start, when we don't have strong feelings for each other, then 2 years down the line when I figure out she's cheating on me, in the ensuing shouting match I can drop a 'yeah you remember sally, your friend? Sally remembers me. She remembers me from AFTER we started dating'
I feel bad about it for those 2 years though, but it makes the whole getting cheated on thing sting less.
Whu even start a relationship if this is how you see it ending up? Just have fuckbuddies. I hope to god your gf is a cheating whore and not some innocent girl you're fucking over.
It's not- that's why OP's GF sends him so many texts. Now this anon's gf has a problem- a dick in her mouth, 2 in her hands?
How can she text him? With her feet? There are dicks in those too
>why even start a relationship
Nigga, you wanna cook for me, clean up after me, and suck my dick for free?
Fine, you got the job.
Relationships are the only way to get that done chief
I'm not such a bad guy anon- the first 2 girlfriends, and the first wife, never cheated on any of them.
Then I learned how women operate, and the rules of the game, and now I know better
But why are you asking him to make himself suffer just to make someone you don't even know mildly more content.
If someone has to suffer anyways might as well be someone else instead.
Hey OP, hope you're doing well.
Some girls, like my girlfriend, like to remind me how much they love me if I'm about to trust them somewhere and I won't be there. If my girl goes off to a party she will tell me she loves me before she goes and gives me periodic updates while shes there.
Your situation is a bit disturbing and might be cause for an additional investigation. If it's unlike her to behave that way then something has happened to change her behavior, simple as that. It could be that she's flirting or possibly worse at these parties, and falls back on you afterwards, showering you with love to lessen the burden on her conscious.
To be honest, I'm not sure what you should do. If you know anyone that would go to a party she's at, someone you trust, maybe you could ask to keep an eye on her. I'm not sure. Either way, good luck OP.