is it worth staying with someone who has slight temper issues? we also don't get on that well so he is constantly angry at me and so he ignores me a lot, but when he is normal i like him a lot. should i break up with him?
Depends how annoying it is, how often it happens. Idk, I feel like this is something you can put up with for the short term, but I don't see long term potential. Unless you have a deep love for him, one that can help you overlook any flaw, you'll probably reach your limit eventually.
I mean, really, if you even have to ask, you're probably halfway to breaking up with him already.
you two are right. long term i would just hate him more and more. I've already stopped caring and i've stopped saying sorry for whatever he was annoyed with me for.
maybe I'll just break up with him later, rather than now since I still like him a lot
or should I break up with him now?
The sooner you do it, the less painful it will be. Before you get too attached. It's sort of like you're leading him on at this point if you keep seeing him just planning to break up later.
It's better to break up while you still think there's some good in him, rather than wait to become super bitter about him down the road. At least this way you'll have some good memories that are untainted by anger. Also, it's less stressful for you in the long run. And like other anon said, you don't want to get too attached to him to the point where it becomes even harder to dump him.
It's not about whether you fight at all, it's about how you deal with the fight.
Maybe I was amiss in not asking you for further details, OP, so let me ask now: How exactly do the fights go? What happens? Do you two apologize after, or do you both pretend it never happened? Who apologizes? Is it just you? Does he apologize too? Do these previous fights ever come back again in a future fight? How do you two cope with anger?
The answers to these questions will help in assessing whether this is "normal" or even "acceptable."
MY father is like this. He is a fucking total dickhead asshole and I hope he dies everyday. Not emotional abuse or w/e u wanna call it, if someone is yelling and just being a dickhead everyday thats emotional abuse.
If he treats u that way hell treat yuor kids that way. Just think about that.
You and other OP are too quick in assuming this is abuse. We don't have enough info. For all we know, this could be a cranky guy who occasionally needs space to calm down.
To OP, Here are some more questions: In what way does he ignore you? What's the vibe? Do you get the sense that he's just trying to calm down, or does it feel like he's just being spiteful? Does he ever apologize for this/explain himself in any way?