my girlfriend told me she was raped before we met.I feel bad but i need to break up with her because i don't want to deal with the potential craziness. How do i break it to her in a way that wont devastate her?
There is no way to break up with her without showing how much of a fucking douche you are so just do it normally and tell her exactly why you're doing it so that she never goes back to your sorry ass.
What? Seriously? So what? 'Ve been with two women who'Ve been raped before, one being my fiancée, and there's nothing wrong with either of them.
Granted, some women get a bit nutty over it, but those women (I believe) have a hard time getting over ANY traumatic event in their lives. Some people can let things go easily, some, not so much.
Have you tried (here comes the shocker!) just talking to her about it and her mindset on her past ordeal?
My first gf claimed that too, only to realize it was to gain sympathy. Wait for a few weeks and then break up. Dont let her think it was because of the "rape"
I'd let her know that you want a relationship that involves intimacy and companionship. If there's no intimacy or being intimate is like pulling teeth then just let her know it's not working out.
I don't know what other problems you guys have together though.
OP, seriously, just follow >>16685967 's advice. That seems like the sanest thing to do, and she can't fault you for that.
Sending a friend to flirt with her is the most fucking retarded thing I've heard. Because she'll just accuse you of being irrational, and then you look like a douchebag anyway.
You are going to abandon your cute kouhai just because she was raped? Dark Sakura is going to devour you. You purity fags are so insecure.
>How do i break it to her in a way that wont devastate her?
Yiu can't. One-sided breakups are inherently devastating to the other side.
I do think you're doing the right thing. If you can't handle being in a relationship with someone who has been traumatized in this way, then she needs to be in a relationship with someone who can. Setting her free to find one is pretty much the kindest thing you can do. But I wonder: are you proud?