>>16685497 I made two threads about this already, so I'll make it brief on this one.
We hadn't seen each other for 18 days or so, I was getting anxious because I wanted to see her, we finally went out (with her parents), she was embarassed I think, didn't hold my hand, didn't kiss me, pretty much made no physical contact, and the entire time kept talking about how much she wanted to go home, after over half a month of us not meeting.
I got mad about this when I arrived home and we started arguing because she is generally cold and that's something I feel could change. By the end of it she said I was desperate for affection, thought I knew everything, was paranoid, this and that. I really felt like she hated me.
Now she says she wants to stay together but things are like this. I'm actually making an effort but it's pretty hard. She just told be she thought I was "arrogant and fucking snobby" when she first saw me.
arguments about "attitude" are always bullshit >muh feelings-fests; I'll be willing to bet the simple fact of your relationship is that she's not as interested in it (or; she's not putting as much effort into it) as you are.
Is she more valuable than you? Does she just *think* she is? Is she a spoiled brat cunt that doesn't know how to be in a relationship?
she's uncomfortable affection and you're not being respectful of that.
This is probably panacetic advice, but pull away from her a little bit. Either you'll achieve a more comfortable equilibrium for her, or she'll recognize that you're doing it and compensate to adjust.
People will probably tell you to dump her because that's /adv/s way, but I don't think that's necessary yet, unless you really cannot stand being in a relationship where that level of affection isn't immediately satisified. You gotta be careful with inexperienced girls, even if it doesn't work out. That being said, you have zero obligation to stay in a relationship that doesn't work for you (and I think the relationship you're describing would hardly work for anyone). But she may just have intimacy issue.
Crack the bitch open and get her to talk about it. and if that doesn't work, set her down gently and walk away.
>>16685551 yeah, that's pretty unhealthy. If you've attempted to talk, and you can't come to a conclusion about how to fix the situation, then maybe you do need to think about breaking off the "relationship". If you don't do it now, you risk getting stuck in a shitty relationship. Maybe she just isn't ready for a relationship yet.
In any case, have you figured out the underlying reason for her disaffection? Is it some home life situation? she think she's ugly/doesn't want to open up and be "judged"? what is the core emotional cause (in your opinion)?
>>16685614 Ohh then the phrase is that she's a "homebody," not "homely."
Anyway, semantics aside, >>16685581 is right in that if talking doesn't work, there's not much else you can do from here. If you already rarely see her, it's hard to fix the relationship, especially since verbal communication can only take you so far.
Do you feel sorry about any part of this? Or is it all pure anger against her right now? What's your current mindstate?
this isn't good, to say the least. the frigidity from her parents will be modeled in her, and her intense anxiety about the future will dominate her thoughts on you and your relationship. Honestly that kind of person will dump you the second they start feeling any doubts about the future and will do it in the most cold way possible too.
The only way for you to handle this now is to cut any contact. Don't talk to her. At all, for like a week. Then she'll have time to sort her shit out and MAYBE she'll want to work things out with you, but that shit she said earlier indicates a LOT of animosity and repressed emotion she was keeping from you.
tl;dr, she's a borderline personality disorder timebomb waiting to explode and you're going to be the first casualty
>>16685685 Nah, you're not a villain; it's just that you two don't see eye to eye on this issue.
Do you think the gap could ever be bridged? Or do you find it a lost cause?
Maybe send her a text/email explaining your side once you've calmed down a bit (it'd be better to explain how you feel w/o her interrupting/making you angry) and then explain what you don't understand about her side. Then keep an open mind for when she responds.
If she refuses to talk about it at all, then ehh, idk what to tell you, man. Communication needs to be both ways.
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