Am I wrong for thinking that new roomate is something your bf/gf should say about?
>bf lives in flat with two other of my friends
>dont meet for a while due to christmas break
>go to him today
>turns out gf of one of guys is now living there
I know it is nothing big but I alsk him at least once a week how things are going in his flat and he never said anything, which made me feel weird and insignificant.
He doesnt agree that information like this is any important.
Who is right?
why don't you stop being a passive-aggressive bitch and just ask whether he wants to fuck her? that's what you're really worried about, isn't it?
what other fucking information are you fucking trying to fish for then?
Sure, but it's nothing to be this upset over. If my boyfriend didn't tell me, I'd be like "huh, you didn't mention that" and then move on. I wouldn't dwell or ruminate on it and be pissed like you are.
why would it be important? if ur worried about them fucking, then sure its something you'd want to know, but if not, who cares. it probably was no big deal, he already has two roommates and ones gf (who was practically living there before) is now officially living there. literally nothing changed except for maybe his rent got slightly reduced.
>Is new roomate something you tell your significant other?
Yes, it is. Generally in most healthy relationships you tell your partner about whatever shit is going on in your life, even seemingly insignificant shit. He probably isn't very much invested in this relationship and doesn't give two shits about you which is why he doesn't share. Normally for most people it's a pleasure to share stuff with their SO; he doesn't seem to overly excited with perspective of sharing with so...
I just thought it is one of those things that people say to each other since to me it seems like a quite a big change
I dont think it is a big deal but still its something people say. Also it feels like you arent considered significant enought to be told stuff like this or what is happening in his life in general.
Yeah as i said above, it kind of feels like he isnt really keen on talking to me, since i asked about his flat (was interested how his roomates are doing) recently. It just seems strange
>did she practically already live there beforehand (LIKE MOST COUPLES DO BEFORE THEY ACTUALLY MOVE IN)
>did he tell you about everything else in his life?
>does he normally 'overshare' every detail and this is first offense
it seems to me you are trying to sabotage yourself here. you are focusing on this one tiny insignificant detail that he might have forgotten to tell you becuase really all that changed was a small clerical part of his life.
if he generally tells you EVERYTHING but not this oen thing, then why would he hide this one thing other than simply forgetting for the reason above?
if he doesnt normally share everything, then why are you harping on this one detail and not realizing hes just not a talkative person?
>why are you harping on this one detail and not realizing hes just not a talkative person?
I guess becuase it made me really uncomfortable, he is not talkative but I always assumed that he at least answers when I ask him and tells when there is some big change
And no, she wasn't spending much time there before or anything, so it was surprising,
sounds a lot like this OP^
the question is WHY IS THIS A BIG DEAL? why? whats so big about it? i guess if ur being honest then it is a bit of a change, but how much has it really affected him? I've had times where I've totally glitched on this kind of information i dont understand why its a big deal. i dont know any women who get this upset either.
I would also find it strange. How long has she been living there, like a month now? Why wouldn't he even mention it in passing? It's just weird of him yeah but I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, I'd just call him weird for not telling me about it and leave it at that
Well it is a longer thing but we basically started as fwb (when it is accepted you dont tell other person much and just hang out) but decided to take it on the next level a longer time ago. I guess it simply still feels like nothing really changed, or he isnt able to actually act in a different way
the reason you guys probably transitioned into dating was because you already were without the significance of the title. so now you have the title but you WERE ALREADY DATING so literally nothing has to change.
if you are really this uncomfortable please break up with him cuz it sounds like you're going to be quite the bitch to anon whenever something randomly makes you uncomfortable because your vagina tingles uncomfortably
fucking finally. Go start another thread asking whether /adv/ thinks that this dude not sharing things with you means you're still stuck in the FWB zone, instead of this moronic shitshow (for the record, my opinion is probably has nothing to do with it and you're overreacting)
btw you have the emotional intelligence of a fucking autistic neckbeard. People always think girls are better at this shit, but you're proof it ain't true.
>this passive-aggressive beat-around-the-bush thread
>this girl's approach to relationships
So you really are looking for the way out, like >>16685383 said or at least a fight to demand he "changes".
Mad bitches are mad. Dump that poor boy and spare him your mind games and manipulative attitude.