So I was coming back from my college's gym a month or two ago and struck up a conversation with a girl who lives nearby and goes here as well. At the end, she asked for my phone number, and we exchanged.
For some reason, she doesn't seemed to have replied to my texts. I'm 95% sure she actually didn't get them (since when I saw her again to ask why she didn't get them, her phone didn't show any texts from me).
I know she still goes here, but since I don't have any other means of contact aside from texting, I'm stuck between waiting if I see her again, or calling her.
TL;DR: Is it appropriate to call a girl who I think is interested in me, as texting isn't working?
My texts were as such
>Hey (Girl), its Anon. You seem like a fun chick, we should hang out sometime. Think you'll be busy Thursday evening?
The next day, I sent
>This is (Girl), right?
The day after
>Test message, lemme know if you got this
I don't see the creep factor, but I can see how it was needy like what >>16680755 suggested. Yeah I guess I should move on.
What should I do if I see her again? Ignore her, or just be friendly to her but not try again?
She may have gotten turned off by the wording of your first message. Next time try being a bit more casual but concrete. "I'm planning on going to (place) on (day). Want to come?"
Also don't sweat it when even that approach doesn't work. that's life. The follow-up messages were completely unnecessary.
Chop your balls off.
She is ignoring you, and pretends she does not receive your texts. She obviously regrets asking for your number, as maybe she believed it was platonic.
Ignore her. She is only nice in person as you both use the gym.
You could call her, or even try asking her out in person. I mean, what have you got to lose? She hasn't said "no," so it wouldn't be creepy or needy to keep trying. Don't listen to the other posters in this thread, you're getting advice from losers who are terrified of rejection and give up at the first sign of difficulty.
There's a good chance she did ignore your texts, but it's still worth a try. If she doesn't pick up and doesn't call back, or if she gives you an excuse and turns down the date, then you should take the hint and move on. But at this stage of the game, I think you should still give it another shot. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
...you probably shouldn't call her a "fun chick" again, though
She's the one who asked for his number in the first place, he's not off-base by trying. And believe it or not, it doesn't really have to be "uncomfortable" if you ask someone out and they say no. They probably won't be best buds at the gym, but it's fine, this is a completely normal part of adult life.
What are you so afraid of? What's the worst that could happen if he calls her up, or sees her at the gym and says "hey want to get a bite to eat later?"
She doesn't work out. I wasn't at the gym when I met her, I actually met her while she was looking at an art wall. She's in a totally different stream than me, in a year above me and we shares no friends that I know of.
I've seen her around like 3 times TOTAL in the 5 months I've been here. If I fuck up, there isn't much in the way of repercussions.
What should I say when I call her? Should I just be like "Hey, I haven't seen you in a while, do you wanna get coffee?" or "Hey I'm doing a thing and was wondering if you wanted to join me?"?
I don't think acknowledging that she hasn't responded to my texts is a good idea.
Fuck these guys in this thread.
>you seem like a fun chick
This isn't even bad. There's no way saying this made her ignore you... What I would do is ask her out in person. Maybe you accidentally put down the wrong number
This is the equivalent of when some massively fat whore asked for my phone number, and I gave her the number for the local funeral home. I told her to call me the next day, a couple hours after they open. Entertaining, to me at least.
Just ask her out in person dammit. Women don't have this psychic ability to sense betaness/'can't smell your weakness' and all that other bullshit everyone else is spewing in this thread. What you've done is reasonable.The onus is on her and you've done more than enough already. Just ask her out/talk to her in person and if she's avoiding you she's a lying bitch that leads guys on, next her and get a better one. If she really missed your messages and doesn't have anything from you on her phone then be calm talk with her, see if she's still open to going out with you and go for it.
Okay, well by sheer luck I saw here again today, and she didn't seem as into me. I asked for a way of contacting her, but she wasn't sure (even though she has a twitter account).
I guess she's just not that into me. Whatever. I have other girls that I'm gonna ask out soon enough, she's someone I have no connection to.
Thanks to everyone in this thread for the help.
god i dont think you know what appropriate means.
even if its not whats the worst that would fucking happen? shes not going to screencap her call history, add all your friends on facebook and be like 'LOL I CANT BELIEVE ANON ACTUALLY DIALED MY NUMBER WHAT A FUCKING LOSER HOW INNAPROPRIATE LOLOL'
think for a minute. its a fucking phone call. she might find it a bit odd but considering she doesnt get your text she wont think its that weird. if she is in fact interested in you at all it wont matter anyway. call her up at an appropriate evening hour and ask her to hang out somewhere specific.