I have 2 friends and they are in very wealthy family's.
My birthday was last month on the 28th. They ended up both giving me gifts around 200$-500$. Now i'm stuck with nothing to give them back because im not in a extremely wealthy family, mid class. I feel like a major dick for this.
I feel like im THAT friend who jut uses others for expensive shit.
Any ideas what to do?
but then why did i come to 4chan for this problem?
because i have no life what so ever on other sites.
Those were gifts, man. People don't give gifts because they're expecting an equal gift in return. They just gave you nice shit because they wanted you to have it, and because of their financial circumstance, the price tag doesn't mean the same thing to them as it does to you. I'm sure they meant it to make you feel good, not to make you all guilty and insecure because you can't afford to buy gifts like that.
You're definitely not THAT friend, you didn't ask them to spend money on you, they did it by choice. Try not to feel so bad about this stuff, if they treat you like an equal and they don't make a weird thing out of the difference in wealth, try not to do that to them either.
Spend what you can afford. They should understand that you can't afford to spend what they can, and if they get upset, they're not the sort of people you want to be friends with anyway
A present has two values. Its use to the recipient and the effort the giver invested in it. Since your friends are from rich families, they probably didn't invest much effort at all in blowing away hundreds of dollars. Much as you wouldn't in blowing away whatever an appropriate price for you is.
well anon I'm wealthy and I sometimes feel like I'm buying friends
the issue goes both ways, hence why I hate presents; such a jewish thing.
don't try to match them, you give relative to how much you have
as long as it's clear your gift was thoughtful it's unlikely anyone would think anything of it at all
i always get expensive gifts for my friends because i have a well of family. from personal experience i can say the bast thing to give in this situation is something home made or thoughtful. the price dosent matter