My boyfriend insinuates occasionally that I'm clingy even

>>16676502
He's bored with you and this relationship; possibly has a side bitch. Obviously he's not very involved so prepare yourself for getting dumped

>>16676507

I actually tried to break up with him over this a couple weeks ago and he begged me to stay, saying that he intended to marry me and shit.

He seems really shady and not that into it. I say move on.

>>16676510
Do you want to marry someone that unreasonable? He'd be the kind of guy who goes to the bar with his friends every chance he gets and then complains about the wife being a bitch.

>>16676515

I guess so. It's just hard to let go because in the first couple of years he was genuinely clingy, and then we had a bunch of fights, broke up several times - and now it's in this weird phase where I feel like he doesn't give a fuck about me because he doesn't make an effort to see me a lot, but whenever it seems like I'm seriously going to give up on the relationship, he texts and calls me like crazy and starts chasing me like how he did in the very beginning.

>>16676528
Maybe talk to him about it then? Be honest and say you're not interested in a phoned in relationship. If he wants to be with you he should put more effort in.

>>16676510
Obviously if he wants to keep you, it's for some pragmatic reason; free hole most likely. That way with a minimal effort he gets to have a lass to shag and still is free as a bird most of the time. Moreover he trains you so you get used to the fact that this whole relationship is based on minimal contact & interaction, and he knows you will feel guilty for being 'clingy' and won't pester him. Meanwhile he tips some sluts in a brothel and laughs with his bros how naive and easy you are.

>>16676502
Your relationship is in a weird phase because of all the breaking up and getting back together. If you do break up, he knows you two will get back together again eventually.
You've already talked to him about the issue and he cares for a small amount of time, but goes right back to doing what he wants.

Now you need to take the time to think about what direction you want to go. Are you willing to put in another 4 yrs with this person? Do you feel that you can talk to him without feeling judged or made to feel bad? If you move in together before marriage will he be rude to you more because he'll see you often? Do you find yourself comfortable with the idea of him not being around even when youre married? If you have kids together, are you prepared to take care of them while he's out with friends all the time?

If you do break up, don't get back together no matter what.

>>16676502
Obviously doesn't care about the relationship. Find a real boyfriend.

>>16676502
How the hell do you make it 4 years in a relationship like this. Seriously wtf.

Where has your life gone??

>>16676502
It doesn't matter what the typical relationship looks like. What matters is how much time together you need to be happy and how much time together he needs to be happy and then compromise.
It isn't cool that he's being so rude to you about wanting to see him.