i'm about 20 pounds overweight while hes borderline obese
scale of 1-10 how upset should i (or you guys) be over this??
You shouldn't be upset. If anything it should piss you off that fucking snorlax is saying you should lose weight. If he want you to have a hot body tell his lard ass the same thing!
I'd be pretty upset if I were you. Idk where he thinks he gets the authority to talk about who should be losing weight.
Maybe you can spin it positively and lost weight together.
If he's a total dick I'd say drop him.
Depends on how he brought it up. If he brought it up respectfully I think being offended is silly, but you don't need to go through with it either.
>Idk where he thinks he gets the authority to talk about who should be losing weight.
Nothing should be off limits in a relationship. If you can't handle a talk about losing attraction you're going to hit a lot of dead ends.
>If I'm going to slim down, so are you.
For the savage,
>Otherwise I'm just going to be sexy as fuck while you're still fat.
if youre overweight you SHOULD lose weight, so no need to be upset, just make sure to tell him to lose it too. prep meals and exercise together to keep each other motivated. its really not hard to lose weight, just dont eat like pigs.
if he doesnt agree to it, dump him, lose the weight and give me your contact info.
Tell HIM what you think about it
What does him being borderline obese have to do with anything?
Also, how did you let yourself get fat? Did those pounds sneak up on you over night?
It sounds like you're trying to make an excuse for being fat.
Say, "I'll lose weight if you lose weight, too." Only go to the gym when he goes to the gym with you. Work out with him. Take turns cooking healthy meals.
If he refuses, then you can take your anger to 10 and dump his fat ass. But still, you should lose weight.
Her boyfriend is fat and he should lose weight firstly before he judges her. He expects her to lose weight when he is fat himself and wants her to look attractive while he looks like a bag of potatoes. How is that not hypocritical ?
lose weight together and motivate each other.
if he refuses to do so now that he's spoken those words, i'd take it as an insult.
well true is OP didn't mention if she considers his obesity bad thing - maybe she finds it hot and it's the reason why she started dating him. But unless he means to get thinner as well, he CLEARLY has different meter for himself than for other people. and that is hypocrisy.
>Her boyfriend is fat and he should lose weight firstly before he judges her.
No. Theres nothing hypocritical about stating facts. He could very easily think hes fat and should lose weight. Theres nothing hypocritical about stating facts.
Didnt say she should stay. But dont think that just because you are both in the wrong you cant recognize and be called out for it. She is fat. She should lose weight. True statements.
>OP didn't mention if she considers his obesity bad thing
That doesnt mean its not true. Shes is fat. He is fat. She should lose weight. He should lose weight. But if she gives him an incentive to not lose weight like finding it hot then its her fault hes obese. Doesnt change the fact that shes fat and should lose weight. Nothing will.
>bf thinks i need to lose weight
Its not a fact. He THINKS she should lose weight. Maybe others wouldn't think that. Maybe she feels good in her skin and doesn't feel the need to lose weight.
>That doesnt mean its not true. Shes is fat. He is fat. She should lose weight. He should lose weight. But if she gives him an incentive to not lose weight like finding it hot then its her fault hes obese. Doesnt change the fact that shes fat and should lose weight. Nothing will.
Not defending OP for being fat in that part, just appealing the posts that deny the fact, that OPs bf is likely to be a hypocrite ...
anyway i stopped caring half-way through the post -> Message is clear: OP get thinner.
OP bf could very well be a hypocrite. But she seems to be under the impression that a fat person cant call another fat person out on being fat because they are both fat. Im just grinding it in that theres nothing hypocritical about states facts. He does not have to tell you he also feels the same way about himself for it to not be hypocritical.
If she was so butthurt she should have said that hes fat and should lose weight and maybe, just maybe... they could lose weight and both stop being fat.
She obviously wants to complain because she doesnt like being called fat and that she should lose weight.
>i'm about 20 pounds overweight while hes borderline obese
>scale of 1-10 how upset should i (or you guys) be over this??
Both of you can lose weight and start exercising together.
this is really simple
tell him to lose weight with you, make it a team effort, you'll have someone to be accountable to and so will he
if he slacks off, dump him, you'll be in a nice new shape to find someone else anyway, probably someone better than he is so it's win/win!
and since it's only 20 lbs. it's best to fix it now, there's research that shows once you're actually obese for a long time, it won't come off
so if you keep it on now for a while, then gain more along the road, and keep up that pattern, you'll soon find yourself at a place where it's damn near impossible to lose weight on your own so it's best to take care of business while your metabolism is still intact
>She obviously wants to complain because she doesnt like being called fat and that she should lose weight.
Guess you do have a point. It might as well be the reason, why she didn't bring it up to his face. Instead she asks for how upset are WE over this. The real motivation here might not be to get an advice...
You have no right to be upset at all, fattie.
The fact that he's also a fattie doesn't mean he's wrong. Fat people aren't magically attractive to other fat people. You're still fat.
lose weight (you'll get there faster than you think), then dump him. refuse sex until he loses weight. if he starts getting jelly that you're healthier, happier, and all around more productive, then dump him and proceed getting down to your goal.
honestly, it sounds like he's shitting on you bc he's feeling insecure and that's not someone you'd wanna be with long-term anywhoo.