What if not having a gf IS the problem?
I’m successful by any measure and try to do all the right things. I have a good job, good prospects. I save and invest my money. I’m fit, not ugly, get along great at work and with my family. I have friends literally all over the world, thanks to connections and travels. I can speak German conversationally. I like to read, hike, hunt, shoot, travel, golf and do normal things like tv. I’ve gone to church my whole life; the player/club lifestyle has NEVER appealed to me. I’m not the man that’s dropped out of society that entitled women and the media love to harp about.
I just want to find a girl that I can marry and have a family with. Someone that I love and want to spoil and support in life, and someone that loves me. It’s not false to say that is the one major problem I believe I face right now. And why wouldn’t it be? I figure I have about 10-15 years to get married and start a family. The struggle to continue my genetic line and fulfill my goals has a deadline. If that’s not an important issue I don’t know what is. This isn’t just “I’m lonely on the weekend”. This is “I’m afraid of dying alone”; “I don’t want my genetic line to go extinct”, “I don’t want to disappoint my parents”.
I would never discuss these things with my friends or family for obvious reasons. The shame it would bring to bring up this problem and the sign of weakness is something I could never live with. Yet it seems like day by day it gets harder and harder. More of my classmates marry and are in LTR’s. I feel locked out of the world of love and relationships, like an outsider with no idea how to get in I know something has to change, but I don’t know what. The frustration I feel at every day seemingly slipping by, getting harder and harder to solve this problem, is almost unbearable sometimes. I want to yell at the top of my lungs and give expression to the rage and frustration I feel. It gets even worse when I think about the girls I’ve met abroad, and had NO trouble connecting to them at all. All the girls that I’ve ever had crushes on, it seems like an eternal taunt from Hell- “here is someone you could be happy in a relationship with, but you never will have the chance to begin one. You won’t even ever talk to her”. I don’t believe in the idea of one true love; I think there are multiple people that would be good for each person. So then, imagine my frustration when I consider these points, that should make things easier, and realize that I STILL can’t find anyone? I pray night after night, and nothing changes. Why would God want me to be alone for almost 10 YEARS of my life?! Every one, it seems, has a gf except me. Overachievers and underachievers, rapists and murderers, hippies and workaholics, fat people and fit people.
Maybe I should have been more involved in church when I was younger. The desire to find a wife (not necessarily marry immediately but find someone I can see myself marrying) stands front and center in my preoccupations. It’s the last big objective I have to cross off my list.
Judging by your Pepe and 'wah I need a gf to have my life complete' I assume you have a mentality of a manchild and girls must sense that too. Or you are jyst boring. Some people don't find their second half, it's a truth you have to embrace
I know right? What a fucking loser. Why would you want to have kids and get married? It's 2016 come on!
>implying parents don't secretly resent vanity kids after they stop being cute
Between that and OP thinking of some generic woman-shaped thing to patch up his life and do the actual hard part of reproducing, I forsee a bitter divorce and kid(s) with massive complexes in a decade or two.