Has anybody actually gone out and tried to get help with their social/anxiety issue?
How's the effort been going?
I feel I should finally get help but I know SSRIs are brain killing drugs and the whole thing is feeling like you have a positive connection with somebody
I improved myself by spending months talking to random strangers on Omegle, forming a conversation voice, a way of talking to people, and then after a while real life situations became slightly easier.
Then maybe you don't want to make friends?
Unless you're depressed (you mentioned SSRIs). In that case, I recommend dealing with the depression simultaneously, and easing into it. You might feel more motivated then.
Don't worry about medicating yourself. There's nothing wrong with you, only your circumstances. You are in fact the sole force of righteousness within this universe. What I mean by that is you only have your feelings by way of navigating the place; and if your feeling is fear, it's so for a reason. Your fear is your best friend, since it's what keeps you alive. Dulling it with drugs or other mass delusions can only worsen the real problem.
Yes, I got a job in retail.
6 months later I started feeling ok, year later I'm confident, 2 years later fears all but go... Still get a odd day but that mush better than everyday.
Job in retail actually might help best, I was much the same, awkward and shit.
Got a job in sales and all that shit went away.
Didn't deal with my depression at all, stress was still pretty bad. But at least I could interact with people and not feel like shit about it.
>Don't they give you SSRI for anxiety?
They can, but there are whole other classes of medications out there, both for anxiety and for depression, that can also be tried.
SSRIs are brain-killing drugs for many people: you have to have exactly the right forms of depression for them to qork properly, and even then your dosage must not be too high (nor too low, or they just won't work, but that's a different problem). But when properly administered in the right kind of case, they're as close to the opposite of brain-killing as one gets. You just need the right match.
Yeah, me too. But if you want to join a new tribe, you're going to have to pull hard. Those charismatic people who make friends easily are pulling hard. That's life. Strangers are dangerous.
There is no easy fix.
God I have generalized anxiety disorder, and my social anxiety goes into full retard when I'm in a work setting. Whenever there is some expectation put on me, I'm freaking out inside because I know I won't be good enough. Why live...
Like the other anons in this thread, I got a job in retail which forces me to interact and socialize with people/strangers. I took it to challenge myself, like jumping into the deep end if the pool. I also initially walked myself into the local mental health centre for youths, and had a few sessions with their counselors and psychologists.
Another thing that may or may not have helped me were drugs. Acid, mdma, and ketamine seem beneficial when used properly. I only take them once every few (3-6) months. But I would strongly advise you not to take any of these while yon SSRIs. It can be dangerous.
Healthy alternatives are also:
I still struggle to do those 3 above, but I'm gradually getting there. Baby steps, my friend :)