Is it a bad idea to let a girl (or anyone in general) know that you're a virgin at 20? And if I'm asked, how do I avoid the question?
I don't mean to say I go around offering this information, and the only people I've told this to are my close buddies.
But I just got back from a Vacation in Europe. And I swear just about every person (male) I've talked to has asked me how many European girls i had sex with. When I say 0 they just look stunned and say "well why the hell not??"
Not at all.
I think at age like 25-26 is when it gets a little wierd.
I am a 20 year old girl and I actually love virgins. It's amazing to see boys lose their minds in bed for the first time
Bad idea, usually. Some girls like it, a lot will look at you different. Lie. Read stories about other people's escapades and piece together your own, until you have some of your own. Good luck.
Before I lost mine, as long as I was confident in telling people I was a virgin, they really didn't judge. I'd explain I am very selective of partners, so I had no problem waiting. And sex after marriage is total bullshit, sexuality is a huge part of who someone is. How can you marry someone without knowing that much about them?
There is no way to avoid the question without lying really. And most people just brush it off. What I really worry about is the people who ask after that if I've ever had a gf, those situations fucking suck :( it derails the whole conversation, "omg why? have you ever kissed a girl? omg that makes me sad anon" :(
For one thing, you can find out a lot about someone from their preferences in bed. A lot of people are masochistic or sadistic. Some of the most fierce and badass girls you will ever meet secretly love being spanked, bitten, maybe even choked lightly. People can't get rid of their fetishes. Freud thought those things basically determine one's personality.
No matter what fronts a person puts on in the world, one way to really find out who they are, is to see them when vulnerable. Sex usually involves some degree of vulnerability.
I don't know why, but that just doesn't make sense to me. I mean, you could look like a 10/10 alpha male. Be extremely successful in life. Own a bunch of property, have a great career, and be doing something to positively impact society. But at the same time be total shit in bed. Like absolute lousy, horrible, boring sex. But that wouldn't make you a shitty person.
This is mostly false. If you're confident about it and tell them you're very selective with who you are intimate with they'll usually brush it off. My girlfriend is into it because she's literally told me "boy am I gonna blow your mind!" Not sure if pun was intended or not.
Sorry, but you were a virgin until you've met your girlfriend, whom I'm assuming has been your only sexual partner, or maybe 1 out of like 2 or 3, if you've been naughty.
You probably don't understand how most people or women think today. Most see it as a negative. A few see it as a fetish, but the majority don't.
I never said it made you a shitty person, but a person's sexual turnons and turnoffs tell you a lot about them.
Also, people who don't enjoy sex do tend to be shitty people. They tend to be miserable, and people who are usually miserable often want others to be miserable. I know this because I used to be miserable.
^ to clarify the above post, a person's turnons and turnoffs tell you a lot about their personality. It doesn't really tell you that much about who they are morally, just their predisposition to other things, that aren't sex related.
Bruh I actually understand the mindset that you're in very well. You're a late bloomer, you finally meet somebody who's attracted to you, and you feel like you've reached some level of guru status when it comes to women. One healthy relationship and some sex doesn't mean that you've found the answer. How you respond to the shitshows that may or may not come later is where the real knowledge sets in.
Congrats on being who you want to be, but it goes deeper. Not trying to make you jaded or anything, but when I thought I had a lot of things figured out, I was wrong.
I've never really been ashamed of it, and would tell people if they asked. I also used to be a youth counselor, so I got a lot of advice from a former psychologist as well as other counsellors in regards to a lot of these things. Again, I'm not saying you're wrong, but there are a lot of things I'm aware of. Plus being a virgin at 19 is far less embarrassing than being a virgin at 25, and will have severely different outcomes.
So far, yeah I think we do. We haven't been dating for a crazy amount of time (but were best friends prior) and she's told me I'm the first partner she's had where actually having sex was something that crossed her mind.
knew a guy who was "saving it till marriage", didnt actually but married the girl he was banging. BE confidant and play it as a trump card. Girls get wet for that shit. They want most what they cant have!
No. You are what they are. They can't use it against you, not really. I mean, if you're a virgin you shouldn't be trying to be a leader of men quite yet. Women will want to know your sexual history and lying about it is stupid.
The only time virginity is a problem is when you're a woman and no longer have it, and then in certain cultures they behead you.