So a coworker I like is ending an engagement because her fiancé wanted to move back to his family.
I asked her if she wanted to start going out some time and she said to give her some time to adjust.
How long should I wait?
It didn't occur to me until I did some research that I should take things slowly, for this, while the whole time I was thinking about sex. I can adapt.
It doesn't matter if this is going to be a rebound relationship or if she ends up wanting to be with me for a year or so or forever. I want to make her happy and comfortable around me.
my engagement ended poorly about 6 months ago. i've heard that people take 3 months to mostly adjust back to their normal life. if i were you, i wouldnt attempt any sooner. for me, i just started to pick myself up and get back to dating after 6 months. at the same time, you wait 6 months, she's better in 3, thats 3 months time she might be seeing someone. this is where you have to use your head and not just rely on a number
Doesn't surprise me at all. Guys usually tend to take longer to adjust anyway.
Women aren't shitty people just because they move on faster. Often times it's because they are either more mentally healthy and have come to terms with the fact that it isn't working and its time to move on, or they knew for quite some time that it was ending and distanced themselves emotionally already.
After me and my ex broke up in highschool, she waited two months before messing around with anyone (which is a long time for a horny teen). I saw her about a year after that and we had a talk, and when I brought it up she said she waited out of respect for me. She knew it was harder on me than her, and she didn't want me to feel like she hated me or disrespected me.
So just because women don't wait as long doesn't mean there shit people automatically.
What does "you" have to do with "women in general"?
I don't have anything against bitches. They be sexy n shit.
that person wasn't necessarily saying anything on gender related terms. and me, being the person who took 6 months to move on, doesn't judge by gender. not that it's what you were getting at as you weren't replying to me about it, but i was just curious based on that anon's personal experiences. cause i've experienced more women moving on faster