My girlfriend of 3 years just asked for an open relationship two days ago.
We are in a long distance relationship in graduate school (she's in a PhD program, I'm in med school) and we see each other maybe once a month during the school year.
We haven't had sex since August and even before then it was on average less than once a month even when we lived together during the summer. I would bring it up and she would start crying and just saying she didn't feel like it. I just assumed our libidos didn't match up and tried my best to kill the part of myself that was sexual. Outside of the lack of sex, I am very happy with every other part of the relationship.
Well turns out she says she is stressed from school then gets stressed out about us not having sex and then can't "preform" so she wants to open the relationship for both of us so we can become more sexual.
1) Use protection
2) No mutual friends
I was pretty upset about this yesterday, but I'm just going to try and make the best of it now and enjoy it instead of feeling sorry for myself while she is off banging dudes.
I told her this might work or it could blow up completely.
How fucked am I?
Just start dating. You are a future doctor, if you can't find a better chick then nobody can.
>We are in a long distance relationship in graduate school (she's in a PhD program, I'm in med school) and we see each other maybe once a month during the school year.
You don't have to throw in additional lies to make this topic more compelling.
A shameful faggot, that deludes himself into thinking he'll not be a cuck
I would think that a med student would know that med school isn't graduate school.
The only thing worse than not being able to fix relationship problems on your own is fucking lying about them on 4chan.
except you are investing on her while she goes and fucks other guys. also you are asking to be a victim of paternity fraud she is going to expect you to raise it because you are beta enough to accept an open relationship. Do you really think those assholes who are using her for sex are going to be responsible enough to become parents? NO, she is going to come running to you and pretend is your child.
This is your only relevant answer, OP.
Make sure you absolutely put your banana in as many female vaginas as possibly, end both of you never ask about the other person's success rate. Just assume she fucks around and/or got someone else steady. Speaking from experience. Going on two years polyamorous. (We're not officially gf/bf any longer, but I fucked her three days ago. She doesn't bother me when I need my time for myself, and we have a great time when we're together. I fucked two other girls the past two weeks, and she hasn't fucked anyone else since September)
I've heard girls talking about open relationships as if it's progressive. Most of the ones I've seen breed jealousy, and usually it's one partner getting way more than the other. If my girlfriend asked for an open relationship it would be over. I'd honestly rather be alone.
>and usually it's the female getting way more than the male
FIFY. The male would have to be much better looking comparatively to even have a chance at getting an equal deal out of that.
See this is what I don't understand.
You would rather not be fucking your gf, than fucking her, when both options still mean you can fuck other girls?
My ex and I have the most mindblowing sex, so I'd rather continue to fuck her even though I'm not going to be the only one, and at the same time I'll have to do none of the bullshit that comes with an exclusive relationship, only the good parts.
People yelling cuckadoodledoo are insecure beta faggots. Grow up, guys.
I wanted to stay neutral, but yeah, in all the cases I've seen it's always been the girl sleeping around with a ton of dudes and the guy getting close to nothing.
It's not just about sex. If I want to fuck someone I'll fuck them, but if I'm going to be in a committed relationship, then I don't want my partner to be sleeping around with other people. The whole point of a relationship (at least for me) is that I have a single partner who I love and really enjoy being with. I'm not going to put up with polyamory.