It really bothers me that my first date was at the age of 24 with some guy from online when most girls have their first date as teenagers with guys from real life who approached them
I just feel inferior to them. It's just so sad and pathetic.
How do I feel less bad about being less than them?
Because I couldn't date as a teenager, because I'm subhuman and leftovers
Only guys from online want to date me, not in real life. Most women have guys in real life who want to date them, and guys were interested in them when they were teenagers
>How do I feel less bad about being less than them?
Stop treating dating like a status symbol that defines your value in society. Question why you care more about the opinion of others who you'll have no interaction with rather than the one person whose opinion you should be interested in - the person you're dating.
You're fucking retarded if you really believe that. You're inferior because you didn't start dating until you were 24? Say that out loud. Listen to how stupid that sounds. If you can't hear it, it's because you have no perspective on what matters in life. If all that matters to you is having a man validate your existence, then think about it like this. You've got another 6 years before you need to even start thinking seriously about getting married, another 10 before you risk pushing out a kid with down syndrome. If the end game is kids, then you've got 16 years to find someone. Honeymoon period takes about 2-3 years, which means you've got 4-5 relationships to work out the kinks. Bottom line is - you've got all the time in the world. Gain some perspective - you're not a 50 year old spinster with a barren womb. Make the most of the time you have.
It doesn't sound stupid to me
And it has absolutely nothing to do with time.
It's not "I'm inferior because I didn't start dating until I was 24", it's "I'm inferior because I COULDNT start dating until I was 24, while most other girls could, I'm just leftovers".
I'm inferior because I'm not even a proper woman, nobody wanted me in my prime physically, I don't get pursued by guys in real life, and now that they've lowered their standards I can get a date but only online. I don't even know if I'm a proper person my face looks all skewed and awkward and ugly and my body is not feminine at all.
>Only guys from online want to date me, not in real life. Most women have guys in real life who want to date them, and guys were interested in them when they were teenagers
Honestly I can understand them. If you are such a whiney needy and insecure bitch in real life as well, no wonder no one wants to hurt themselves by involving you in their private lives.
Wow. That's fucking sad. I thought I was sad, but that's fucking sad. Who gives a shit that you couldn't get some douche to awkwardly fingerbang you after taking you out to Olive Garden. Jesus fucking Christ.
You know who's "lesser" than you? Women who don't take care of their kids. Gold diggers who treat men like ATM's. Vapid cunts who care more about the color of their assholes than the people in their community. Not someone who can't get a date.
> ask for help about how to feel like less than subhuman scum
> give you genuine advice
> proceed to ignore that genuine advice
You have problems anon that I'm not even sure a psychologist could help with.
Kek. So true
OP, you definitely didn't miss out on shitty awkward high school dates. Having some ugly teenage dude try to feel my titties in the theater while Black Hawk Down was playing wasn't a highlight of my life.
you people baffle the shit out of me
stop feeling bad about not reaching a fairly shitty and artificially inflated in value ideal (lol fucking highschool dating) and realize that people would probably enjoy your company more if you weren't horribly depressed by this silliness.
you can make yourself whatever you want to be, so do it. you will be shit to yourself and act like you are as long as you think of yourself as shit. become something greater.
you think people don't notice you hate yourself? you're delusional. it seeps into everything you do.
you know what? i was a dateless girl too. no bf until i was in my 20's. and you know what i learned? all that bullshit is overrated and highly idealized by people who cannot access it. yeah, relationships can be deeply fulfilling, but they will suck your partner dry if you don't already know how to fulfill yourself. haven't you heard the phrase "you can't love someone until you know how to love yourself"? It's TRUE. shitty relationships come from shitty individuals. a relationship will be a bandaid for someone like you. unless you get an SO who will therapist you, it will end poorly.
sit down, make goals for who you want to be, then become that person.
there's nothing wrong with people feeling like they've missed out on an important stage in life
calling people used goods is definitely sorta dehumanizing bullshit, too
Dehumanizing or not, most people who date and fuck like bunnies statistically can't form stable relationships. I value that so I can't value them as long as my relationships are involved. I don't give a shit about people dating lives outside of this though. Different people have different value systems. Perhaps that was not good to be used as a means of comforting, I am sorry.