I have a friend who magically seems to bring out the super bitchy sorority girl in me when he doesnt deserve it. I apologize when i catch myself and he appreciates it but it seems to be happening more often .
and i think he's tired and i'm tired of him getting on my nerves( because he's young/immature, not his fault i know).. Should i let the friendship go, how do i fix it?
Today i think was pretty bad even for me.
should i text him and tell him that 'you're my friend and i care about you but i think we piss each other off when we hang out too long, so we should take a bit of a breather'?
I dont want to sleep with him. I am not attracted to him and he knows this. Also he has a problem with relationships he's had 11 exes and he's 19, which is sorta a thing that pisses me off, because its stupid
Actually i guess. I just find his face sort of hideous and i dont like his smell. He showers i just dont like his smell.
Whih im still wondering, since i dont want to fuck him what do i do. Should i send him that text?
How can you have 11 exes at 19? It generally takes a long time before a partner is acknowledged as a serious boyfriend or girlfriend. Maybe he wanted to say that he dated 11 people? That would be a lot more realistic.
I...dont know. He's way dramatic over stupid crap and was talking about how his last ex was 'the one' and he would be with her in a heartbeat. Even while its clear to me that she thinks hes pathetic and treats him so. It does sound to me like they were all just dating but somewhat srs, but whatever
I did let him know straight out i was not attracted to him and only felt platonic friendship towards him. I offered to five him space from the friendship no hard feelings, he denied he felt like that and likes another girl. But im sure he still wants me.
I suppose if i were fucking him it would be a relationship. But that would be true of a lot of my other friends
If you don't benefit from this relationship then I think you should let it go. Try having a specific goal in mind when you spend time with him. If you want to relax then try to relax with him, if you want to talk then talk with him, if you want to have fun then have fun with him. Eliminate activities that you don't mutually benefit with him. If he gets on your nerve then don't relax together, if you don't like talking with him then prioritize talking with other people, if he's not fun to be with then have fun elsewhere. If there are no activities left that have mutual benefits then you will rarely see each other and you will naturally drift apart. It doesn't matter if he's not a bad person and doesn't do anything irritating on purpose, you shouldn't force yourself to spend time with people out of pity. Focus on things you mutually enjoy.
You are right. We had a lot of fun when we first met but now...yeah. i find myself spending time with him more because i'm lonely and less because i enjoy his company. We both started seeing the flaws in each other
You are right, there is only 1 thing we both mutually benefit from, and i will try limiting our hang outs to that hobby and see how that works