I went out for coffee with a girl and she was breathing heavily and avoiding eye contact the whole time. I think her cheeks turned a little red as well. What does that mean? Is she allergic to coffee?
How do I break up with someone I've just met?
That seems like a plausible explanation. A little inconsiderate on her part though...
I dunno, it was pretty slow breathing but quite noticeable.
>I dunno, it was pretty slow breathing but quite noticeable
Yeah, like drawn out/slow but quiet breaths? It sounds like she was nervous. Probably not intimated by you or anything, but this is what people tend to do if they aren't used to meeting new people. She'll get over it if she spends more time.
Allergy sounds about right. I'm allergic to coffee and that's what it does to me. Causes mast cells to dump out histamine everywhere which not only results in systemic vasodilation, but it makes your blood vessels apt to leak. Hence her face flushing.
Also elevates your heart rate, histamine is a modulatory neurotransmitter so it affects your ability to think clearly, and it makes breathing difficult. Also, it makes blood apt to pool in your legs, doing your ability to think further favors.
That's my take on it. She could have eaten something she probably doesn't know she's allergic to. She could be sensitive to caffeine. She could be overheating. She could be on some (other) drug. She could have been panicking and nervous. She could be sick. Who knows.
The questionable thing is that I found it oddly soothing/alluring. Does that mean I'm a sadist for enjoying her discomfort?
If she was having one I'm sure it's over by now.
Very informative, thanks. She told me that she's not a big coffee drinker but didn't mention why, maybe she was too embarrassed to admit that she's caffeine sensitive.
It also takes her a long time to respond to my messages but her responses are usually pretty long and thought-out when she does. It's a bit strange, like she hates responding and avoids it for a long time and eventually types up an unnecessarily elaborate message to make up for the delay. Is there a way I can tell her to chill out?
Why would bad news excite her? Should I question her morality?
There's nothing much to like though. My presence certainly shouldn't warrant any excitement.
I guess I felt like it'd be unnecessary to make her feel self-conscious about breathing heavily. Besides, she looked happy so it didn't seem like something was wrong.
I guess she could be a veteran. Surely after that kind of ordeal drinking coffee with some guy shouldn't provoke a nervous reaction though. Perhaps it triggered some sort of PTSD attack, I guess soldiers must drink a lot of coffee in combat in order to stay awake for the long battles. That would also explain why she's mentioned not being a big coffee drinker without further elaboration. She wants to leave the horrors behind.