I'll make a long story short, I am a straight male, my best friend since freshman year is gay, and some of his friends are as well. That's fine, whatever, but they keep attempting to make me do gay shit like go back with them alone, its making me uncomfortable and I've stopped hanging out with them. Unfortunately its gotten to the point where both his friends and their friends are messaging me with the goal of "converting me".
Its legitimately creeping me out and they are starting to spread rumors that I'm closeted, I really don't want this shit to spread especially since its false. Just in general, what should I do, being open-minded in today's society is literally ruining any sense of peace I want since I feel like I'm being harassed, please help.
I fucking hate queens like this, I apologize on behalf of the sexuality OP.
Its common for gay men to fall in love with good friends but its usually really about them accepting their sexuality, what these guys are doing is harassment and they should get over their fucking straight guy fetish.
The best way to approach is to just laugh about it I think, don't operate from a place of fear. Cut them out of your life and just laugh about it if they keep harassing you like this or spread rumors about you.
If they do this in a school or work situation I would report it as sexual harassment.
He's part of it, its why I cut him out. If I was a chick and they were straight dudes they'd probably get prison sentences. I'm not pulling some "rape culture: shit, nor am I calling you a hypocrite, its just observation.
Messages on facebook are a bit more than that
I tried laughing, the problem is, yes its school, but most of the friend's friends are townies, not students. I just block them, but shit like this spreads, and I know for a fact that somehow this will hit me later in life when I just want to be a fucking middle-aged peaceful schlub.
But did your friend KNOW you legit did not find it funny before you cut him out? Obviously you're not in the wrong in any way, they're harassing you over your sexuality. But the only way I see you can make it stop is by making it clear that their behavior is seriously making you uneasy. Unless they are doing it out of malicious intent.... Then you're fucked.
You're still gonna live in the same town for half your life?
travel, you assjack. Don't limit yourself to your shitty town, you might actually like another town called Springfield or a city like Philadelphia, if you live in the US
You need punch your friend in nose hard enough that it'll cave in to save yourself of any gay rumors. That is seriously disrespectful to your privacy, which they obviously don't give a fuck about
>I am a straight male, my best friend since freshman year is gay
You no how they say men and women cant be best friends. Hate to break it to you but gay men also apply.
You hung out with the gay crowd. Of course youre going to start being considered gay. You chose this life.
Its not. feelings develop because they are supposed to. Go look at how many angry betas are on /r9k/ because their friend wont date them.
Enjoy becoming gay. Doesnt effect me
Theres being friends and then theres best friends.
my best friend is gay.
he got really drunk and propositioned me once but we brushed it off.
you really just need to tell your friend that what he's doing isn't cool. Simple as that. He may HONESTLY believe that you are gay and in his own warped way, he may think he's 'helping' you.
I never explicitly brought it up, but it should've been obvious from my withdrawal from conversations almost immediately after it would occur.
You can be good friends with women of which you have no intention to sleep with them, I've done it, usually occurs when they are visibly well out of my league or vice versa. Those betas mostly become "friends" after failing to pick them up and clinging onto them.
>A blatant hate crime occurred in which a bigoted cis, white, male assaulted a homosexual man for making a pass at him.
I think violence is probably the worst thing a human being can do in this situation senpai.