My gf is very curious about me exes and sometimes asks me for details, even some very intimate ones, about how things were before. I'm her first boyfriend, I've had like two serious relationships before.
Should I really tell her or is it a trap?
Yeah, grills can be weird like that
I'm a dom in the bedroom so tried to introduce my current gf to various things within the bedroom. Initially she was reluctant, but asked what I'd done before with ex's
We were drunk one night and I just told her. Weirdly, it turned her on and now she's into it (and wants to push it further than what I've done before)... So it turned out fine
Conversely, I don't want any info on her past sex life whatsofuckingever
>Conversely, I don't want any info on her past sex life whatsofuckingever
FUCKING YES DUDE. Luckily my gf has no real past sex life, but whenever we come close to talking even about simple flings she once had I don't wanna hear it, I know from experience it'll do me no good and never leave my head.
So when this comes around to me I just tell her "honestly, you really don't even wanna hear it," but she keeps pressing on and on.
To be honest, the best thing you could probably say is "I've had sex, but nothing out of the ordinary. However, I've always thought XYZ would be fun... What do you think?"
It's not even just sexual stuff, but the emotional/routine side as well. She asked me about my first ex once because I mentioned she was a horrible person, and she seemed to feel good about how much better she was, and that was fine, but then she wanted to know about my second one and I repeatedly told her she really didn't, but she insisted. She then felt really bad because she thought the girl was "decent" and told me yesterday she doesn't even like to remember my second ex is breathing.
And I'm just like, dude, I fucking told you.
Always answer with the same thing to these questions: "she was nice - it just didn't work out because of circumstances at the time"
Don't elaborate anymore or it just gets messy
Never slag ex's off... It comes across as bitter. Even more so if you state every ex you've had was a bitch (even if it's true)
Be neutral, and her reaction will follow as such
I told her the first one was a bitch because that bitch really was crazy and tried to fake having cancer to me, but the second one I was honest. I said exactly what you wrote there. We just had some differences, it didn't work out, different lifestyles and such. So I guess the first one was kind of humorous to her like a cartoon villain and she felt insecure about the second one being an actual person.
I guess that's just for her to get over then... Which she will, eventually
I'm the other guy, but of course I accept girls have fucked other guys before me. I've fucked 16 girls, which is statistically more than what most girls I meet would have slept with, but I still don't want to hear the fucking details
Well, she asked, tell her if you want, it's not obligatory.
I'd recommend marrying every example/story of how an ex was great with one or more of why she wasn't and the relationship ultimately failed.
Relationships should be open and honest.
Warn her that details of past relationships might bother her. If she still wants to know, tell her.
If you can't be open with your relationship partner, then who can you be open with?