>gf doesn't want kids
I'm in love with her, but I know this has to end.
When should I end the relationship? We are pretty damn emotionally invested, and I am young and have no obvious alternatives.
Should I emotionally withdraw for a little while first, or maintain the passion until the end?
>When should I end the relationship?
If you're honestly looking for a wife. Then end it now; you need to be available to meet a person to marry that wants kids.
If you are still a few years off from getting married, then you can still stay with her as long as you're enjoying the relationship.
Protip: Most women in their young 20's say they don't want kids. Then at about 29 they're walking down a street, get hit by a mental lighting bolt, and all they can think about is how much they want a baby RIGHT NOW!
>Protip: Most women in their young 20's say they don't want kids. Then at about 29 they're walking down a street, get hit by a mental lighting bolt, and all they can think about is how much they want a baby RIGHT NOW!
FUCKING THIS. I've seen it happen twice. (not the lightning bolt, but the sudden change of opinion)
I think they must miss a period or something and it scares them.
Shit sucks, Im sorry for you two.
But your life plans just dont fit together and every day you are together is another day where you cant find your real partner, and quitting might become even harder.
I'm 21, she's 18. We're in college.
I'm pretty fucking far from marriage, and she's really fucking hot, so I'm enjoying it. I'm thinking I'll give it another semester. That gives one one more to meet someone else before I graduate.
>I'm 21, she's 18. We're in college.
Stay with it if you're enjoying it. An employed guy's marriage value goes up until he's at least 30. In other words, you at 30 will find a better 25 year old that wants to have a baby than you at 25 will find a 25 year old.
Holy shit dude why are you worried about kids when you can't even support one right now? Even when I was 18 I knew I wanted to have kids, but LATER. If I started dating some 21 year old guy with no way to provide for a family that was already hung up on muh family/muh legacy etc. I would have run screaming in the other direction, no breakup required.
>I want kids
>I'm pretty far from marriage
If you're so hung up on kids, why aren't you ready to get married? Marriage is actually *less* of a commitment than kids, marriage can be dissolved by divorce but kids are forever unless you're a shitty parent. Maybe your gf does want to have kids someday, but not with you.
She's still a kid. She doesn't know what she wants. My advice? Show her you are responsible enough to take care of a family, let her grow up a little, and she might just change her mind.