How do you talk to a therapist about something really embarassing, shameful and humiliating ? It is soo much so that it prevents you from telling them about it .
You aren't in therapy to earn their respect and make them like you. This isn't your co-worker. It's your therapist. The purpose of therapy is to be able to talk about this kind of stuff without getting judged and facing social consequences
Recently I've been having g nightmares about when I was molested. Most of the time when I wakeup from those nightmares I've wet the bed. I really don't want to tell anyone that. It's really fucking pathetic and embarassing. What kind of 18 year old guy does that ?
You do it by being ruthless with yourself. The therapist will probably approve of this even less than whatever it is you actually tell them, but hey, whatever gets the point across.
You need help. You know this. They can help you. But in order to be able to do that, they have a bona fide need-to-know on the contents of your head, especially the stuff you're ashamed of. And this is how you rationalize telling them: they cannot help you if they do not know.
What kind of 18 year old guy does that? One who was molested and needs therapy to stop wetting the bed.
Actually that's more common than you would expect. It's a fairly normal response to high levels of stress. If it's too embarrassing, you could try talking about the nightmare, leaving out the rest until you feel more comfortable. I'm sorry that you had to go through that experience and I really hope you are able to come to terms with it soon
my wife's last 2 exes both had this problem. both way older than 18. i like to make fun of her for getting peed on, but the point is it's not rare at all. no therapist would be rattled by that.
incidentally, both exes were gingers. are you a ginger? i'm working on a theory.