>just turned 23
>still a kissless virgin with no gf
>90% of my friends in relationships
Beginning to worry. I think it might be my ISFJ personality and height 5'5" that is making my self esteem go down. I don't think I'm ugly either just average looking.
Anyone in the same boat?
Tbh I don't even really care about the kissless part. I just want to be in a relationship. Now that I'm out of college it's hard to meet girls. I'm sure most people I know met their gf/bf in school
There's a million things that could be wrong with you or turn girls off. You're just listing two completely meaningless ones. The most common reasons for not being attractive to girls are:
>being a jerk
>not caring about appearance
>having no career or future career prospects
Most things in life lead to meeting people. New workplace -> meet people, couchsurfing -> meet people, chatting online -> meet people, join running group -> meet people etc. Some of those people will like you.
Looks don't factor into things too much, as long as you aren't greasy and fedora wearing. Who you are as a person really matters though, everything from ambition to whether you care to buy nice clothes.
> I think it might be my ISFJ personality
Please do not buy into that bullshit. You can't summarize someone's entire personality into 4 fucking letters.
You behave the way you think about yourself. So if you tell yourself all the time that you are a loser all the time, you're going to act like a loser. One of the ways I got over low self esteem was by telling myself that I was awesome all the time. Try that for a month and see if you're more confident.
I'll try that out. But I tend you get jealous when I compare myself to my friends and their seemingly great relationship when I browse Facebook. It's depressing sometimes
You doing pretty good for yourself
Obviously if a tall guy can't get laid, there's no guarantee that you'd be able to get a girl if you were taller. That's the point.
And honestly, there's nothing attractive about a guy who's bitter about his height. There's nothing you can do to change it, you're just a whiny bitch if you blame it for your lack of success with women.
I'm in sort of the situation. The only difference is that I just never found any girl that I even remotely liked. Sure I had friends that were girls but I never found anything special that would take it to the next level.
Maybe I'm just gay but I don't know
hahah me too. i think a lot of girls are not sluts because they are afraid of being judged by other women and guys. so then why are they not sluts online where they can be anonymous? O:
I'm actually pretty popular. I just back off once someone wants to get into my 'me'
Anyway; Don't know. Both things probably don't help you, but it's probably combined with tons of other reasons.
Turning 23 in 5 months. Still a kissless virgin. I've no way to get a GF, because I don't go out much. I don't attend any events or anything, I just play videogames and go to my university where I study IT and there's like 1:10 ratio of girls and guys. I'm also 5'11-ish and I have a small penis which brings my confidence down. I know how silly it sounds. My dick size has litterally 0 impact on me getting a GF, but I just can't take it out of my mind, because there's nothing I can do about it.
Just do it. Seriously. The worst you can do is worry about it. Practice talking to girls about just whatever.
Hopefully you have a cool hobby or two. You can talk about those. Or you can let her do the talking, ask her about what she's into and let her tell you. If you find a mutual interest, all the better, then you have something to talk about.
I'm 29... I've had my opportunities. I may as well not blow wizard status now. Hey, that's my new years resolution! Maybe I should have made a new years resolution to get laid years ago. Oddly enough, I never did. I'll let you guys know what spells I obtain when the time comes.
It's not a bad idea. At least it will let you get it out of your system. It will demystify sex. It will allow you to place less value on sex as you realize it's not such a big deal. Which ironically will actually boost your chances of getting sex from there on.
>Anyone in the same boat?
I'm a virgin with no gf
Same boat, yes. The difference is that I'm not unhappy about this situation
>mfw girls play on easy mode after all
I am but I don't care at all.
Girls are terrible and being single is comfy.
>lol girl easy mode
These threads always collapse into that same faggot meme.
Faggots if you aim low enough you can still get laid.
That 29 year old virgin here. I use tinder and just swipe right on everyone. I get matches(mostly girls I'm repulsed by that I'm sure I can have sex with) and everyone in a while I do match with girls I'm attracted to. The latter, it is difficult to hold their attention for long. You have too give them your full attention and show charisma. It's damn hard. Admittedly, I did sort of stand one girl up who I was attracted to... I didn't show up for the conversation over coffee while she did... I didn't mean it in a dickish way of course, it's just my anxiety got the best of me.
Does prioritizing a relationship this much even make sense? Wouldn't focusing on a career or life goals make you a happier, more comfident person who can later on find a relationship organically?
At 25, you're just starting the real adult life. When you approach 30, you will have a whole new world of opportunities while still being young. Life in my 30s has been a lot better than life in my 20s. And I've been single most of the time.
Im 5'2 yet I got a gf
5'5 isnt that bad m8, trust me it was tough at 5'2. if you can have respect for yourself youll be sure to succeed as corny as that shit sounds (I would fucking kill for 3 inches, if i could do it so can you). Acquire a taste for asian girls, doesnt have to be exclusive but i feel like OP would benefit from dating real asian girls
this is going to sound dumb but talk to girls like youd talk to guys (unless you call guy friends bitches and hoes)
if you stop thinking of it as something different that helps. Also there are millions of introverted people out there that are meant for each other
Consider online dating. So long as you have income, a car, and a place to stay, you can find someone out there.
What if he does have interesting hobbies, it's just that almost every walking vagina on Earth doesn't have any hobbies except socializing, and they don't like his hobbies?