GF recently told me she will be moving back to her home country permanently, she's 99% sure of it. Doubtful we will do ldr...
I'm not quite sure what to do, I've been in a expiration date relationship before, but I knew it would end from the get go. I didn't think this new g/f would do this, in fact I asked her if she planned on staying where we live and she said yes, it would benefit her career..
So I started to have feelings for her because things were great and she was planning on staying.
Recently she went to her home country (in asia) and her parents are convincing her to move back... I told her I didn't want to get in the way. I told her she should do what is best for her and not let me get in the way of her and her family. She sounded really surprised when I said this... not in a bad way but she sounded kind of sad.
But I wish I could be like "you're fn 26!! Visit them 2x a year ffs you make an AMAZING salary and have way more opportunities here that you don't have there!".. Ugh did I make the right decision? Should I just end it and become friends with her (I don't think I can be friends unfortunately it's kind of srs)?
Maybe she'll change back to normal once she comes back here?
fuck dude, you could tell her about how it's worth considering what she's giving up, but from a position that you are totally not the significant aspect of that equation. and it's not that you care about her, but how it doesn't feel fair to you to say consider me for X reason, and hope she understands that you're not saying you care about her less. you've done the right thing so far. it sucks, but a relationship that exists cause someone said consider not leaving because of me is way too much pressure
No matter what you've said, it won't make her happy. She has her values, and unfortunately, she thinks you are and her career are not worth being with her family. A twenty six year old girl should think differently, but she doesn't. There's no use arguing or making it harder for her. Let her know that it was her decision to do this, and then be done with it. Do not keep contact, it will only prolong you from moving on with your life.
Props for not wanting to make it about you and for letting her make her own decisions.
That said, I wouldn't hold back on the better money and career if she stays arguement. That sounds like it would be better for her anyway.
Wanting to be with someone in a relationship that you think is good and would work is not the same thing as standing in her way. Do you really think that dating her is bringing her down?
I would tell her what I wanted. I would tell her that I would respect her decision, and if moving back is really what she thinks is best, then I wouldn't try to stop her from doing what is right for her.
But I'd let her know that she has reasons to stay too.