>>16653140 28 year old kissless virgin here. I have a car, job, house, and a degree. I have lots of friends and a few really close friends. There are two reasons why I'm a virgin: I'm fat and my self confidence when it comes to women is zero. I'm otherwise better than most of the people who get laid easily. Things aren't always as cut and dry as you'd like them to be.
Yet their tits don't jiggle with anxiety when talking to the average bitch.
If you don't have confidence in yourself when interaction with humans on the most basic level, everything else is compensation.
School doesn't make you smart, what pays the bills doesn't define you. It's how you carry yourself. For someone who can't take care of their own body or connect with someone to fuck, you got it some nerve.
>>16653096 >This entire board is "boohoo I can't get a girl" No, that's /r9k/. This board is "How do I fix myself"; the posters' motives often are related to getting a girl, it's true, but most have at least advanced beyond the /r9k/ cocktail of self-pity and denial.
>Just give up, they're worthless. Fucking redpillers. Go back to your masturbatorium, creep.
>>16653215 You're right. All the metrics we base worth on don't mean shit because you said so. Hey guys! Fuck school and work. All we have to do to be socially acceptable and we're automatically top tier! Thanks man. I'm gonna quit my job now. Afk
>>16653228 Pretty much this. This board is consistently one of the most levelheaded and mature on 4chan (which is not to say it's perfect), which is why I still actually enjoy coming here years after losing interest in most of the others. It's so annoying when redpillers and r9kers wander in from the other boards and act like their shit will fly here.
>>16653365 Perhaps I should have clarified. I have zero problems talking with and being friends with women. It's when I try and move myself anywhere past friends that I have no confidence. So, I usually stay at the friendship stage indefinitely.
I used to browse 4chan a lot. Still come one here when I'm bored sometimes. I was a fat, kisless virgin who had never been on a date or even had the balls to ask a girl out. That all changed when I was 18 and I met her.
We met playing board games with a group of people at a university ice breaker. I was 268 pounds and thought I was an ugly piece of shit. But instead of sitting back in my dorm room crying about how unattractive I was, I decided no, fuck that. It's not worth the energy. So I got dressed and went out. I caught her attention because I kept making the same stupid joke about a card during a game of apples to apples. After the meeting, we introduced ourselves just to get to know each other.
Fast forward 2 weeks, and I sit down with her in the cafeteria. We good off. I make stupid jokes. We exchange phone numbers because we seemed to get along well. Later that evening, I ask if she wants to get dinner. We go, and there I find out she's in a relationship.
Did I sit there and get upset that she was dating someone else? You're goddamn right I did. And after I had a bit of time to sit there and feel sorry for myself I realized what a waste of energy that is. I decided to change myself. I decided to prove to her that I was a better man than her boyfriend. I started exercising. Dropped 40 pounds, gained muscle definition. Became close with her. Treated her with more respect and honesty than she had ever felt before. The more and more I spent time with her the more I found out that the current boyfriend was a total shithead and she didn't know how much better I was.
Rather than just sitting there and hating on him, I showed her how awful he was. I told her what was wrong. I earned her trust through caring for her and not by being this macho alpha.
Pretty soon he fucks up and she can't stand it any more. After the breakup I didn't pursue anything. I told her she wasn't a bad person and that he was a dick, and life will be better for her now.
i don't even get how you can be a virgin at all past like age 21. at the very least you must be able to find some desperate, maybe ugly, fat or otherwise flawed woman to have sex with. quadriplegics find love with each other somehow, but they probably do it by actively searching. ugly, poor or otherwise flawed people find each other and fuck each other (where do you think all the ugly, poor, flawed kids come from?).
you can figure something out man. if worst comes to worse just get a whore.
>>16653398 5 days later we kissed. It was wonderful. She is the most amazing person I've ever met. She's a 5'2" adorable blonde with the most amazing figure I've ever seen on a girl. Her favorite video games are the Halo series. We're planning on cosplaying as Cortana and Master Chief for comicon in the future. She's everything I ever wanted in a girl.
My message here is that OP is right about women. They will leave you for someone who they view is better. They will move on if you aren't satisfying them in ways more than just sexually. My message to you is rather than sitting here feeling like a sorry piece of shit, work to be the man she would leave a guy for. Be the person she can't wait to see and misses when he leaves. Crying about it on the internet gets you nowhere, and confidence in yourself is the one key thing. Not only did I get the girl, but I've been in the best shape of my life because of her. I have a body I can be more proud of.
It can be done my friends, you just have to work for it, and starting is the most difficult part.
>>16653409 Understand why she left me instead of blaming her for it. Clearly I wasn't good enough in some way, shape, or form, and it's something I need to fix. If she left me for someone better then it's my job to exceed past him with the next girl.
>>16653471 Yes, and no. The whole situation needs more detail than I typed out. Their relationship was already flawed and she had considered breaking up with him before, again, because he was such a dick to her. Not saying you're wrong though and I'm fully aware that another guy could do that. So I work hard to prove to her I'm worth more than 1000 of them. That's he message I'm trying to convey here.
>>16653429 You're retarded. Girls will consider picture related as "better" even though he's a loser. Becoming a better person is great, but only for yourself, not for girls. Also, if even if you dropped 40lbs, you're still a fat shit unless you're 6'4+.
>>16653589 Was a beta. Changed that. He wasn't a "bad boy." He wanted to go pro in MLG. He was a 5'6" manlet dork who told her she was a conceded bitch for wanting to join a sorority. So yeah, total shithead.
>>16653398 >Pretty soon he fucks up and she can't stand it any more. After the breakup I didn't pursue anything. I told her she wasn't a bad person and that he was a dick, and life will be better for her now. Positive change is great and all but this doesnt really sound like a big win.
>>16653273 >How high is your blood pressure? >Whats your body fat% ? >When was the last time you touched your toes? Not that guy but I can guarantee there are plenty of women out there that are socially retarded, overweight AND dumb as bricks that get railed on a regular basis. That other guy's only mistake was being born a man.
>>16653717 >There are lots of overweight desperate girls at your college animoo clubs and what not. I never thought of looking at animoo clubs. I am really into big girls so this is an idea I'm going to pursue. Nothing like a big soft ass sitting on your lap or your head just sinking in her chest. Haven't had sex in years but last time I did it was with a big girl.
This is some horrible advice. It's like you're telling someone to go buy a shitty product, and then when he says he can't, you say, "Hey man go for the shittiest product you can find they're out there!"
This is my advice. You don't *need* to stick your penis into a vagina just to say that you have. Your life won't miraculously fix itself if you have sex. I've seen some short fat dudes walking around with hot chicks when I was in california, and they were oozing confidence.
Literally all you need to do is work on your self confidence. It's a new year. Start working out, start talking to girls. I guarantee you don't talk to as many girls as you think you do. It's beyond stupid that someone can suggest you keep your standards low or you hire a prostitute.
It's the equivalent of telling someone to keep living in the ghetto.
>>16653753 >This is some horrible advice. It's like you're telling someone to go buy a shitty product, and then when he says he can't, you say, "Hey man go for the shittiest product you can find they're out there!" I'm saying its possible to get laid as a fatass in response to >>16653657
Of course your options are going to be shitty if your own market value is shit. If you work on self improvement, your market value improves and you can afford to be more picky.
>>16653733 Just make sure to bring some air freshener.
>>16653764 >Of course your options are going to be shitty if your own market value is shit. If you work on self improvement, your market value improves and you can afford to be more picky. Lol why you lying to me.
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