I am a girl in my first year of uni. Most of my high school peers in my grade are studying abroad. Only me and three other guys are staying in my homeland.
This guy sometimes texts me other graduation. We are not particularly close and I doubt he has feelings for me or anything. He probably talks to me as we have have something in common (i.e. we are staying in the same country).
He just messaged me asking if I want to meet him a the center of my city, like grab something to eat and chat for a bit. Afterwards, he will meet with a group of people he is collaborating with.
Should I meet him or politely refuse? Do take note that I am a girl and he is a guy. Is it "awkward" for me to meet him? It's not like I have feelings for him. Also, is it dangerous? My mom is worried that he may persuade me to go to a quiet or private area and do nasty stuff to me or he'll invite a group of friends to do that.
You say you have no feelings for him. If you are sure of that, then don't waste his or your time.
>and stop listening to your mom's crazy shit.
He's basically asking you on a date. This doesn't mean that he's looking for a girlfriend or has feelings for you, but the entire point of dating is to get to know someone to decide if you like them. He's probably willing to put his dick in you, should you make the offer.
I don't know why you think it would be "awkward" to meet him. Do you live in some country where dating is frowned upon?
From your mother's reaction, sounds like it. As far as him persuading you to do something dangerous, gee, don't you know whether or not that's likely to happen?
If you're not interested and don't want to go, then decline the invitation. If you have no spine and aren't able to say "no" to going to a hotel with a guy that you don't want to fuck, then definitely don't go.
i would be upfront and tell him that i'm not looking for romance then proceed to agree with the meetup for social purposes.
he's probably going to cancel it once he knows he doesn't have a chance unless he's not looking for one
So I should just be explicit and ask "Are we meeting purely for social purposes?"? Do you think he is really trying to ask me out on a date? I mean, I really don't think he has feelings for me. We weren't close back in high school and only did some small talk (we weren't in the same classes).