So, I hang out with this one guy and we usually have a really fun time together. However he is better than me in pretty much everything. Physically, mentally, materially.
When I spend time with him there are always these small things popping up which will make me feel inferior to him. They keep building up and I always end up feeling worthless and awful afterwards.
I like hanging out with him but I always have to struggle to keep my jealousy and self-pity from showing.
What should I do?
Does he one-up you when he does shit? Like intentionally. Some guys gravitate toward people they feel they can feel better then and act like the shit cuz insecure. If he doesnt contribute to building you up fuck that shit find someone taller.on the other hand if he is rlly the shit, then you dont have to worry bout him seeing you as less unless u are actually a shitty person cuz good ppl like good ppl. Take a min to chill with ur own self and get comfy as fuck in ur own skin cuz it sounds like ur unsure. You loving yourself is the most important thing. And is attractive as fuck. Dont base loving yourself on whether he loves you cuz thats codependence and ull spend ur life slave to someone elses will with that mentality.
I have a close friend who recently told me how he wished he'd be more like me; both physically and socially. He said everything seems to come naturally to me and feels a bit jealous.
Meanwhile I cry at night because of all the stupid things I do, because I feel worthless, because I feel like such a fuck up all the time.
It's all about perspective.
>MFW I look exactly like the right one
Feels good man.
[spoiler]Haven't ever held hands with a girl because mentally ill, don't tell anyone.[/spoiler]
whats wrong with that? just cuz hes better doesnt mean you aren't good.
my best friend seems to be unbeatable at everything... until we tried pumpkin carving. literally the only thing im better than him at outside of personal hobbies that have no overlap in our lives.
Also, even if you are comparing yourself to him, there's probably something you're better at, or something that you're needed for.
For example, in my friend group pretty much everyone is a musician except for me, but I know a lot about computers and random tech stuff. Just the other day I helped my friend figure out that the reason his speakers weren't working correctly is because he was using a mono 1/4 jack instead of a stereo one. Just by having a little bit of knowledge on how audio jacks work I was able to help my friend solve an issue, which felt good. I'm sure there's plenty of little things like that that you have a good understanding of that he doesn't. Everyone has a unique set of skills that almost never come in handy. Just use what you know when you can to help your pals and don't worry about whose better at what.
>Haircut is absolutely hideous
Ponytail because open hair is fucking annoying in daily life. Can't be arsed to bother so I just let it grow wild.
>clothes don't fit
Comfy as fuck. Call the fashion police.
>don't appear to have much muscle
Meh. I like to build some muscle actually, makes you feel better, though I'd hate looking like a jock.
Thanks though, anon. From what you're saying, I should look really good when I build a bit of muscle, open my hair, and take off my clothes.