I'd really like some advice from a femanon, but anything will do. My girlfriend of two Years and 3 months just moved out. She took our daughter with her. She's currently staying at her mom's.
I miss her more than anything. I miss my daughter more than anything. I've done nothing but sob uncontrollably since she leftmost I just got out of the hospital after a suicide attempt and a 72 hour hold bc of being put on suicide watch. She just says she doesn't feel anything for me anymore. The fight we had that caused her to leave was terrible. We've never gotten violent with each other, however.
What I'm asking is: how can I make her have feelings for me again? I can't just get over it and drop contact completely because we do have a kid together. I miss them both. They were my entire world.
What do I do?
Pic related: it's her and our daughter.
You can't make her suddenly have her feelings for you again, you can't force love. If it didn't work out, it didn't work out. However, you have a young daughter in this, now. The best thing to do is to come to a civil compromise, so you both can have turns in her life. But honestly? Try to come to terms with her decision, and when you are ready,- IF you are ready or wanting another relationship, pursue one.
Also, who knows, maybe there IS a chance with your ex, still. But, whatever you do, don't force anything and try to use intuition and common sense. above passion.
Same thing kind of happened to me the past summer, except that the ex and I were pretty much mutually through with each other.
To answer your question... let her be, broham. If she's done with you, that's all there is.
Time to put on your big boy pants, bud.
Time to start thinking about that kiddo of yours.
Depends on the answer to these questions.
1. How bad do you want it?
2. How prepared are you for it?
Suicide shows you don't care as much as you believe you do. Just shows a sign of escapism due to overwhelming emotional pain.
Truth is what's done is done. You can't fix this but can change how things flow in the future. It only takes one person to change a relationship. Reflect on why things happened the way they did and how to avoid them in the future.
Patience is important. You won't get her back right away. I mean it'll take time.. lots of time to be willing to try again. You have to understand that this could take months or years before comes around. And that means her having other men at her side during that time.
Which is why it's important you prepare yourself for the oncoming storm. Mentally and physically. You'll have to push through. You're not only a man but a father! You may lose her, but don't lose your daughter to because of the same mistakes. Don't manipulate your daughter to get your lover back, but she'll play a role in reconnecting you two in the future as long as you be a good FATHER.
Keep your appearance fresh, the idea is to show her you've changed. So go ahead give yourself a grace period of being human garbage. Drink, smoke, bar fight, get it all out so you have a motive later. Then start all over.
You attempted suicide. GOOD JOB DAD !!
Get your shit together, life is NOT THAT HARD. You fucking deal with whats in front of you or you complain "how hard it is". Man up, come up with a step-by-step plan to a solution. and fucking move on.
No woman is going to go back to a man child that can handle life situations, then quit opting to a suicide. jesus fuck man....
welp, your girlfriend is pretty cute and your daughter is adorable. maybe just show her that you really want to be a part of your daughter's life
that may cause her to become attracted to you again. honestly, single moms find it hard to date nowadays. as soon as a guy finds out you have a kid, he usually backs off in my experience so she will be back. just show her your commitment to the family and she will realize what she is missing. man up and take a little responsibility for your actions. no more attempting suicide. that's selfish and just shows her that you don't have what it takes to provide for her and your child.
Wow, 4chan is the wrong place to get advice.
You aren't gonna be able to work on your relationship with her until you get your shit together.
You were on a 73 hour hold?! Do you know what that means? That means you need to seriously get your shit together.
Get your shit together, anon.
you can't. if a person doesn't have feelings for you, you can never 'make' them have feelings for you but, if you're asking what you can do personally that might endear her to you.
1) Be consistent;
2) Be reliable;
3) Be responsible;
4) Be better;
In the mean time, remember that nothing you do is about you anymore, it's about your child, so unless you want your kid growing up thinking her father is a suicidal failure, get your shit together.
Really what you need to worry about is your child,as others have pointed out. You might have a long drawn out coustody battle with her in court. Talk to a lawyer about your parental rights. Attempting suicide was the worst thing you could of done. She can now bring it up in court,that you are a unfit,mentally unstable parent and she fears for her child's safety being left alone with you. Get consoling and complete it,so you can show that you are in a better place financially. Pretty much all the advice I have for you.
What changes have you experienced to your lifestyle? What changes has she experienced? How much time do you spend with her? How much time do you spend with the baby? What was pregnancy like for her, and how did you handle it? What was the argument about?
>tfw I'm in a similar situation, but on the other side
My problems stem largely from my life changing drastically, while the father values drinking and playing video games over spending time with us. We're not broken up, but I've been trying unsuccessfully to rekindle my feelings for him for the past year. While that hopefully isn't your problem, it could be an issue of her changing significantly due to pregnancy and motherhood, and you just not changing enough to keep up with her. It also could be that so much of her energy goes to the baby, she just doesn't have any left for the relationship.