So there's this girl I started liking in October last year, and I asked her out. She said that she needed to wait a week, after which she said she needed to wait some more. This went on until December, at which point her best friend told me she thought I was too clingy. Through all of this, we arranged a date where she stood me up, and I waited three and a half hours for her. Her friend covered for her. I decided to end whatever this "thing" with her was, and we did. Then, three days later, she contacted me and told me she still has feelings for me. She's messed up inside, but I think I can help her, guys. She's made mistakes in the past, but who hasn't? I can see this turning into something amazing. What do I do? I really trust this girl, and no matter what my friends tell me, I can't let go of her.
if she has feelings for you let her figure them out and come back to you with a solid answer. you deserve a solid answer anon stop yanking your own chain over someone who may or may not give a flying fuck
is she mature enough for a relationship? NO. Can you help someone with their past? yes. can you help someone mature? NO. they have to do it on their own, because they're immature, and won't accept your help. you can listen to immature people talk to you as they work through their problems, but the signs have to be there for there to be any chance of them being ready for you to help them mature. are there any signs of that here? jesus christ, not a single one. in fact, every part of this whole story and equation is red flag after red flag. you will get fucked over if you go forward with this. six years later and my emotions are a trainwreck from *attempting* what you are trying to convince yourself to attempt. with my heart i reach out to you and ask you to not put yourself through this pain
Women who are actually interested in men don't avoid them.
Well, unless she's a teenager who watches too much TV.
So yeah, she's either stringing you along or she's just a garbage-culture lightning rod. Real catch.