>been happily married to my husband
>we finally decide that it's time to try having a baby
>i just found out i'm pregnant
>husband is a smoker, he's been smoking since his teens
Only now did I think about this. I don't know if I want my child to grow up in a smoking household. Would it be fair for me to raise my concerns about this to him? If he refuses, what should I do? I mean I'll probably have to compromise yeah?
As long as he's smart about it (no smoking in the house/car/when holding the baby/pushing the stroller/washing hands often) i would not say a thing. You see, nagging is the way WAY bigger treat to your baby than smoking. Rather grow up
with a dad that smokes than no dad at all. And you know that trying to change somebody is the beginning of the end
First, it's a fair concern and you should raise it to him. It's one thing that you don't judge him for this bad habit as a partner, but as a parent is another story.
Second, as you say, you may want to enter the conversation openly. Maybe he has already thought about it, but if not, there are definitely compromises like only smoking outside.
Finally, I would never settle for him smoking inside around your child. There a many indicators that suggest that second hand smoking is extremely harmful to children, but if also sets a bad example.
Compromise is possible, it'll be fine if he smokes outside. I grew up in a veritable smokestack of a house. My lungs are fine.
That said, let me tell you the story of why my father quit smoking.
>be breadwinner, father of 3, wife useless
>get pneumonia from stress smoking
>laying on couch, infant son in next room crying, needs me
>cant stand, too tired.
>wife running an errand
>literally crawl to nursery to change diaper
>pass out in doorway from lack of oxygen
>wife comes home to nearly dead husband, baby laying in poop, crying
>never felt more useless and helpless
>never smoked again.
Child of a smoker here. How long has he smoked cigarettes? Is he addicted?
If addicted then quitting will be very difficult. My dad could never stop. But as long as he smokes outside and washes and cleans properly you and the kid should be fine.
>would it be fair for me to raise concerns about having and raising a child around someone who sucks a little paper dick filled with addictive toxins
Yes. I'm still surprised the faggot-suckling faggots can breed.
Secondhand smoke exposure, even in utero, has been shown to significantly increase an infant's risk of SIDS. Don't be near him when he's smoking, he shouldn't smoke in the house, and if he previously smoked in the house you all should do a very deep cleaning of any furniture and carpeting.
Bring this up with him, because I'm pretty sure you both want the chance of your baby fucking dying to be as slim as possible.
ngl I grew up in a smoking household (both parents smoked inside the house) and it fucking sucked. So goddamn glad they stopped also because I always worried as a kid that they'd die since school likes to drill you with that info so I was literally awlays scared when I saw them smoke