Women, can I get some honest opinions about men who flash their wealth? Does it make you uncomfortable? Serious replies please. Pic related it's my vehicle, $110k.
The biggest things are my cars and my house. I dress normal, maybe a nice watch or something is all. And I don't act like a dick. I have a mortgage for a 4br but I live alone, and my daily driver is expensive. I don't know, it just seems like women are freaked out by it.
If I'm going to see someone, it's going to be more for who they are than what they have. Money is only fun for so long. You can still be a creepy loser with a fat bank account. If you act like your money isn't a big deal, that's a better approach.
i had an ex who was a trust fund baby and had all sorts of flashy shit. it only annoyed me when he was pretentious about his money and possessions or put other people down because of their lack of wealth.
I don't really want to be with a gold digger anyway. But I do like it when women seem impressed or compliment my success. It's like anything else in life; if you put effort into it then it feels good when people notice. It's like someone who gets really buff but then they always swim with a shirt on. At some point it's just fun to show off.
To be honest, it's kind of off-putting. But then again, the kind of girl that you're probably trying to get isn't me. Nothing wrong with having fun, but when it seems like you have something to prove- I'm not into it. I'm kinda 'meh' about how much money a dude has as long as he isn't taking a large portion of mine away.
Also, it's pretty intimidating as well. ... I'm unsure how to articulate it.
So I have no real input on the question, but good fucking taste, OP. Not just an R, but a coupe as well. Best-looking car on the road, IMO, and great to drive as well. I see so many people in Ms, AMGs, 911s etc of similar style and price and wonder what the hell they were thinking. (I'm actually a 911 guy myself but it's completely wasted on 99.9% of the people who buy them.)
My buddy has a 911 and I've driven it several times. It's definitely the better performance buy, but I don't really like the look or the sound as much as the Jag. I've driven many more powerful cars but this was the only one that straight up made me feel like James Bond. You can get the same speed from the new C7s at 60k. You get the Jag for the whole package.
not a woman but be glad you don't have the opposite problem which is be my age and never had a real job before (partly because of anxiety) and really got nothing to impress women with.
I like the 911 pretty much 100% because of its rear-engine driving style. It really encourages you to drive the car hard, go in hot, and throttle steer it through a corner. I fell in love with the 997 after about 5 corners on my favorite road, it was the first time I'd ever gotten so comfortable with a car so quickly.
The 991 sucks, though, it was actually the first modern 911 I'd ever driven, around Laguna Seca no less, and I'd written the whole water-cooled line off until I drove the 997.
There's a hell of a lot to be said for the Bond appeal of the Jag, though, and it's far prettier than anything else comparable.
Depends on what you mean by "flash"
I'm impressed, thoroughly, but it all comes down to how you handle it.
If I call you and you say "I'm coming down in my coupe, I'll be the guy wearing burberry and a rolex" or some weird shit, I'm going to be uncomfortable and I'm probably going to think you're compensating for some massive insecurity, and that always means trouble down the road in relationships
if you call me and say "I'll be the dude with the beard in the silver car" or whatever and you just so happen to have that car I'd think you were cool and probably a little bit cocky but rightfully so
I wouldn't be that hard on Rolex, personally. As long as you pick a subtle model (Sub on a NATO, stainless Daytona, etc.), they're just a nice tasteful watch. Better than some tacky-ass AP and more appropriate for casual wear than a Patek.
I'm partial to Omega myself, though, they're "cheap" enough not to worry too much about and really nicely designed. I'm planning on buying myself a Speedmaster when get my first post-grad job. (Along with my 911.)
Oh man, IWCs are so nice. I have a client who everyday wears one and I'm 'mirin every time he comes around.
I'm not dissing Patek at all, I just think the vast majority of their stuff is more appropriate for formal wear, and it's so damn expensive that unless you're obscenely rich it's scary to wear one all the time.
Any woman that says they aren't impressed by massive amounts of wealth are fucking lying. Money is attractive no matter what, stop kidding yourself. OP, you can get literally any girl you want with that. ANY. You don't really even have to talk to them, they'll automatically come and flirt with you.
What classic car? That's another on my list of "after graduation" things. Probably getting an Alfa GTV.
(I should be making six figures pretty quickly, I already have a career and was making ~80k before but got stuck because no degree.)
Nah, I know for a fact this isn't true because I have female friends and a gf who've ditched extremely wealthy guys after a very short courtship.
The problem is that everyone other than the true-blood gold-diggers will eventually get turned off if there isn't any substance behind the wealth.
This doctor left one of them because she wasn't willing to put out early in the relationship. He started making big money and begged her to come back, but she told him to go pound sand.
Another one went on two dates with yet another doctor and stopped seeing him really fast because it became pretty obvious very quickly how much of a chauvinist he was.
Like if you are charismatic and have a great personality then yeah lots of money is only going to make you even more attractive. If my gf was kind, sweet, thoughtful, smart, driven, good looking, and rich I know that I'd marry the shit out of her - wouldn't you?
Okay? Your two little examples don't hold a candle to the countless women I've met and seen who prefer a guy with a fat wallet than some broke loser who has a 'great personality xd'.
I'm an Asian guy with a small dick, and I don't drive an F type R. I drive an M3. I don't know any Asians who drive F types. They drive Maseratis instead,
Also, u sound poor. Pls lay off the welfare.
I actually have seen this kind of shit too.
My cousin is filthy rich, not just because of his family but because he has an incredibly successful career in sports broadcasting, and yet he didn't manage to find a long-term GF until around 30. (They got married last year, I think he's 33 now.)
He's charismatic as shit (he has to be to be on TV every day) and not a bad looking dude, but he's also kind of a dork and not very tall, and it took a long time for him to find a girl who actually liked him and wasn't a gold digger.
He doesn't really flaunt his wealth, but it's kind of hard to hide when you're on TV all the time.
The women get freaked out because of their preconceived notions of what wealthy men are like. It goes something like this:
Self-absorbed, pretentious, selfish, chauvinist, entitled, snobby, domineering, arrogant, materialistic.
The more conspicuous the wealth, the worse their impression is. Maybe it's not even unfair for them to think so, historically speaking women have almost always been the playthings of powerful men.
That being said, my gf told me that that she thought I was a wealthy playboy because the first time she met me I was wearing a black suit with a fancy (looking) smartwatch, had a nice (looking) smartphone that she hadn't see before, and was talking to some other guys about fancy cars and etc. Even though she thought I was really cute, she wrote me off because she assumed that we would be incompatible. Then I actually talked to her and she quickly realized that I wasn't anything like she feared (AND that I was middle class as fuck) and things moved forward pretty quickly from there.
It's because a lot of women - western moreso than asian - are very self-conscious of being gold-diggers. Those that aren't are hardcore gold-diggers who might be in denial. There is like no middle ground, it's either one or the other.
Wealth doesn't make me uncomfortable in the least. I have friends who come from wealthy families, but you wouldn't know because they don't flaunt it. I'm not uncomfortable with wealth, but I am uncomfortable with people that unnecessarily flaunt their wealth. If that makes me basic, so be it. Labelling me basic doesn't change how I feel about it.
Little bit. I can't get white girls because I'm short and Asian, so I channel my rage into making money and being an internet hate machine on 4chan.
H-hug me anon, I don't want to live anymore
Nice, I know them like the back of my hand these days. Done you subframe reinforcement/rod bearings/etc?
The Yoshi in question used to have one of the nicest E46s around, MCS coilovers, TE37SLs, Sparco Pro2ks with a half-cage, etc, and then sold it off to some dumbass and bought an E92 M3 that AFAIK is still stock.
They cost about the same at wholesale, actually. Sparcos just fit him better. (They do for me as well, I have an Evo2 and prefer its upright position to the more leaned-back one of similar Recaros.)
Plus the equivalent Recaros got their FIA rating yanked, which isn't a good thing.
I have factory Recaros in my daily driver, though, and love them.
Nothing super crazy. Just a software developer near SV. Base salary is low six figures but my total comp is higher because I had at a bunch of RSUs that did well after vesting and I cashed out. And my bonuses are usually mid to high five figures each year. The cars and a big down payment on the house came from that. I'm 28.
It's a matter of occasion. I don't mind hanging around flashy people, but it scares me if they do it too publicly. I feel like they become a target, and it makes me anxious to hang around them in the street or somewhere without security. Just try to be safe, anon.