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Happy New Year NEETs and shut-ins!
Drop out of school due to anxiety? Haven't left the house in a few years? Maybe you have a job, but don't leave the house or talk to people for any reason outside of it? Finding a job sure is hard these days.
The best time to change your life was 5 years ago. But the good news is, the second best time is right now!
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I just dreamed about my highschool time , I was in a rich zone high school , at that time everything seems to be possible for me in the future , I was getting good at grade , good at social , I have no idea how fucked up I'm going to be as now , I have accepted that the term "society" is a fake construct because friends and languages cannot get you a job that sustains your life but examinations and trades do. Should I go travel by myself /adv/? I can't afford many things but I still wanna see europe. I am a chinese who's good at English.
Happy New Year, NEETs and everyone else.
>tfw sick with a cold and it makes me real dizzy
Also I am that NEET who had two job interviews right before Christmas. They did not go well. And now it's scary how easy it would be to slide back into the hikki world.
Oh well, anyways everybody keep your hopes up for the new year!
>have to talk myself into getting out of bed because I know everyone else is asleep
>can't go into town because can't drive
>sit here thinking about how everyone else has their shit together and I'm 26 and barely function
>start thinking "why not suicide"
>start tearing up
Happy New Years guys
I hope we all are gonna make it.
Family panics at the sight of alcohol. I was raised around alcoholics so if I drink more than a little I get reminded of my grandfather and step dad who were fall down drunk all the time.
A bar it's somewhat acceptable as long as you're not driving or causing problems.
>wants to drive into town
>to drink until closing time
>doesn't want to cause problems
I'm not sure where you were going with this unless you live somewhere that public intoxication isn't considered a problem.
My town is full of drunks who drive home all the time, but I see what you mean.
I'd just end up stumbling to the local cheap motel and returning to the bar later. In that case though I could just get the beer and stay at the motel to begin with.
Sorry for wasting your time
I've considered it before. Family and anxieties held me back from doing it though.
Also I wouldn't really say I have quite a bit of money. I pretty much just gain enough to be able to go out to eat at a nice restaurant a couple times a month.
Truckerfag: Can you remove the workout link from the OP? I've had one new person join in the past 6 months, it's done. I won't be visiting this thread much anymore nor advertising it here so best not to lead people on.
Hey guys, Im kind of fighting to not fall back into this lifestyle and the associated depression now. Im currently in my 2nd year of a PhD program for Clinical Psych in Colorado and I'm trying to stay on the right track after a disastrous 1st year where I closed off and isolated myself after a move from MN.
Just wanted to say I'm here for you guys..
You can't a kid falling into depression, you can however fight depression. With this mindset you are going to wake up in a few months again feeling like absolute shit and wandering how could this happen. Take things easy, don't expect too much, remember that you can handle more than you think and that most bad thingns go away
That in itself is a mental problem. It's in fact insulting to even call one's self that. There should be a general for poor saps that use trips and do shit like that instead.
the internet is for children. You havent notticed because you were a kid all this time.
Grown ups dont have that kind of free time, they do go online but cant afford to waste a whole day, creating something in the internet and telling an army of children they cant have it is retarded, dont you agree?
As someone who isnt neet anymore I take adversity one step at a time and its getting better each day.
A new year is a good time to reconstruct some things that need quick fixing,
How much do anons think their environment fucked up their development into a functional non-depressed sociable adult?
Like I wonder would I have been a better person if grew up in the neighbouring area which, and this might be grass-is-greener thinking, was just as crime-infested but seemed much more... friendly, cultured, inclusive etc.
not my environment but my stupid fucking excuse of parents. forced religion down my fucking throat and still do. wouldnt let me just live my fucking life and had to keep me sheltered for years.
i fucking hate them.
i am seriously considering smoking as a weight loss method.
i have absolutely NOTHING going on in my life. the only thing i look forward to is food. i get extremely anxious and eat food to kill time. maybe cigarettes will help calm my anxiety. every fucking day i have to deal with this shit. i feel like my brain i'm going to spaz the fuck out if i don't do something, and 99% of the time that something is eat. i am too depressed to even enjoy my hobbies anymore.
i think i am going to start smoking and going out every fucking day. just walk around the city smoking until bed time.
have you considered going out, ordering a gigant expensive coffee, you can even add sugar and cream, and fucking around on a laptop or reading a book for two hours? i lost some weight doing this until i run out of money
Sure. I'll take the workout of the next OP.
No. This is one of the best zeemaps I've seen, and that's coming from a former user of anonidate. I'll add a quip mentioning contact info should be added and move it up the link list.
But we've still got the summer rush to look forward to. The /soc/ shut-in thread is still healthy, so there's still hope for this one yet.
Nah. I've had three in my neck in the last year. Hasn't helped my life at all.
There are 1-3 of you every thread. Not enough to sustain the thread, but it helps.
Haven't come across a hikki tripfag in a long while.
Nm. Switched back from spiced rum to vodka because fuck the police. It's only a 12 proof difference, so whatever.
What kind of spicy doritos?
>tfw no salsa verde in your neck of the midwest
You can be functional and depressed. I think I'd be worse off if I were in denial of my mental issues like my little brother.
You might as well skip straight to heroin. It's cheaper than food, and rehab is free.
Go for a walk and listen to some music from your childhood. Always works for me.
Society isn't a "fake". It may be a construct, but it isn't "fake".
Playing with society is a big part of what gets you the job. People don't want to work with a person who can't handle teamwork, etc.
>what kind of Doritos?
I don't know, it has a weird name. Something like spicy kiss? It just taste like Doritos with twice the flavour which is an upgrade over the other spicy Doritos I tasted which tasted like regular Doritos.
Currently having heart palpitations and unable to sleep
>society is a fake construct
i always wandered why its only the people who have fallen off from it and have nothing to win from it that clai this. Could it be that because you take no part in society that you dont know its real value?
Feel like I'm finally on a good path, I just finished my first year, working as a apprentice,had a short/sweet relationship with a foreigner, taking a language class and finally living in a place without room mates now that I'm making a bit more.
2016 take me to the moon. Hang in there guys, it gets better.
>tfw listening to a Zelda playlist on YouTube and crying
How did it come to this?
What country are you in, and why did they allow Jacked Doritos within your borders?
Honestly, having had a subway nearby most of my adult life, there is nothing good about that.
>tfw listening to a Zelda playlist on YouTube and crying
>How did it come to this?
Sounds like a good childhood to me.
>Are there any other NEET/shut in communities besides this and r9k?
Are we not good enough for you anon?
i've been really depressed since my 25th birthday a few weeks ago. i feel like i've been wasting my life and that i've turned into a robot since coming to this site at 20. i want to turn things around but i dont even know where to begin.
Stop thinking short term. Right now all you want is to stop feeling like shit and its understandable but won't do you any good, suppose you have the power to not feel like shit right now, you would just feel like shit again next week.
You have instead the power to feel a little better in a couple of months and keep feeling better and better as long as you keep working at it. It comes with the price of feeling like absolute shit at the beginning tho
I guess they count as part of your environment. I'm fairly certain I had a crappy collection of friends when I was growing up. More than certain actually.
I was really short-changed with the homogeneous group of bastards I got.
Hit rock bottom on NYE, had a breakdown and realized I can't continue on like this. Didn't eat, shave or shower until this morning. Just drank fruit juice and slept.
I'm scared since there are a lot of things I need to tackle in 2016, and I've lost friends and familys respect, but for some reason I'm filled with hope. I just wish I would not have caught this cold. I can barely breathe. Once it passes I'm not going to be a NEET anymore. I'm going to train myself, job search, get help and start hiking again.
I'm still scared though. How do I stay on track?
>been scared since nye
Join the club
Before nye I was loosing weight and practicing my hobby's most of the day. Then Christmas happened and since 26 I have been raiding gas stations every night to eat junk food until I'm stuffed and spending all day here
I guess as a neet you will always be afraid of new years eve since you are faced with the fact that you turned into a worse looser than you ever thought possible
Hobbies such as...?
You know what I've realised? I don't have a single photo of a person on my phone, not one. I've had this phone for 2 years. Lots of pictures of just random crap but no people.
That's a real depressing factoid.
I'm a shut in with the time and experience to maintain a daily thread, so I took on the responsibility of keeping the NEET/shut-in thread from Ten when he retired. It's a thankless job, and I can deal with the hate, so I took on the responsibility.
Hello all T here so to make a long story short I'm effectively homeless we're evicted the apartment my mother and I were in for 5 years so now I'm scrambling to find a place. I have no credit save an old 2 something medical bill. Tomorrow I'm going to try various services to see if there is subsidized housing as well as hopefully trying to get flat rent.
I'm so fucking nervous about it all I knew I should have prepared more but now..
Listening to an Uplift Spice playlist and crying. How did it come to this?
I think you're thinking of water buffalos, the male analog of lot lizards, neither of which I'm interested in.
Apply at every temp agency in your area before you do anything. Use a friend's mailing address of possible, but explain your situation if it isn't.
I met my second girlfriend at work. She'd wrecked her Geo Storm before applying to where we both worked, 0.4 miles from where she lived with her mother at age 20. She walked there until I bought her a car 4 months into our relationship. It was a beautiful Mercedes W123 300CD that she never appreciated.
Hey dudes, it's been a long time since I've visited this general because I've been in a good place in my life. I think I only visited here less than 5 times in 2015
I'm in grade 12 and Christmas break is over so i have to go back to school starting tomorrow. I've been doing really well so far this year! I only had three absences in term one which is astounding because i previously had to do grade 11 twice due to absences caused by depression. But I got hit with another round of depression in early December and it's only grown worse since then. After Christmas i lost all energy and motivation, and i hardly leave my room anymore. The week before Christmas break sucked, and now that i feel even worse i don't know how I'm gonna be able to handle going to school. I need advice on how to make it easier for myself to go to school being hit with bad depression, and I'd appreciate any tips, thanks
Also sorry for what i assume will be a wall of text, but I'm on mobile so i never know
Damn man, that's rough. It's a fear of change or the unknown, I suppose. Maybe some regret. At this point last year I was employed, happy, mostly sober and in school. I guess if I hit the bottom there's only one direction: up.
Hope things get better for you and the other anons here.
here is a summary
at this point last year i was about to go to college and was experiencing my first week living alone
at this point in 2013 i was kicked out of my mothers place and had my dad threatening to do the same
by this point in 2012 i was out of the hospital a week after i took my dads heart pills
by this point in 2011 i lost my job and got really depresed
boy that was hard to type...
my point is that hollydays are hard but im still standing and so are you. There is countless people who cant say the same
you are strong in a funny kind or ironical way, everyone here is. I once heard my mom tell my best friend to go easy on me because i had a terrible life, it stuck with me, its wierd hearing somebody else say it, it stuck with my friend too but thats another story.
there is a whole world of ifs and maybes, weabe time weaber, but who knows how many people would really stand the same
6 year neet reporting in, first time on this board. about a month ago i started taking fitness seriously and it has improved my outlook on life dramatically. when you wake up you look forward to eating your healthy meals and working out( at home of course). i signed up for online dating its rough but 3 out of the 100+ i messaged are talking and something might happen, at least its something to look forward to. if we rewind 1-2 months my life is eating chocolate drinking coke gaming all day waiting for death.
i suggest you struggling people out there get into the fitness life, i mean what other chance do you have at improving yourself? you dont even need a gym membership if you buy some decent weighted dumbells / ez curl bar you will be able to work almost every muscle in your body. diet is a key part to the puzzle as well, if you are getting the right amount of calories +protein you are going to see results regardless of how you think your body works. check out /fit/ or reddit fitness for the basics
Just make sure you go tomorrow and see how you fare. You're probably getting more worked up and anxious because you've been on break and gotten used to not attending school again
It 100% won't be as bad as you're thinking desu
Really? I had heard 關係 was very important to professional success in China. Here in the US, we like to say the secret is "hard work," but the truth is, it all comes down to connections.
truckerfag is saying he has tousands of sexual partners, this isnt even real
and the thread is shit,
Sorry to those who contributed advice, but most are here to blog their problems and when it comes to others they just post to feel superior. Much like trucker fag.
How could I make money off my computer?
If I learned programming, could I do something as a freelancer?
>tfw want to quit tech support job
Clinical psych? Man, you need a psychologist that specializes in seeing other psychologists then. They do exist.
Excellent idea, trade one set of problems for another!</s>
Don't, get your diploma. If you need a 4-year degree just to have a chance of making a living wage, then without a diploma, you won't even be able to get a menial job. Finish high school with that diploma in hand.
FUCK MY LIFE
I TAKE 3-4 showers a day and I STILL SMELL LIKE SHIT.
EVERYTIME I WALK INTO A ROOM WITH A FAMILY MEMBER THEY ALWAYS ASK ME IF I JUST FARTED!
FUCK ME FUCK ME FUCK ME
How can I possibly progress out of this trap when every damn thing points to people never wanting to hire you?
Oh you had the wrong fucking shoes on sorry no.
Your hair isn't perfect
Your experience that you can't get in the first place is not good enough or too much or whatever.
Oh you did get the job? but god forbid you get fucking health insurance.
Business just don't care , they flat out don't care. Hell the places that help you find a job don't seem to really care "Oh we have reputations with companies to uphold we don't want to send people to interviews and shit who don't look exactly how we want" I wanna be more productive and improve but nobody would honestly care outside maybe my family.
how about you just actually fucking dress well for fucking once in your goddamn life?
so this is the crying about how everything is everyone elses fault and refusing to take responsibility of your own life thread. (oh wait thats all of them)
>I was really short-changed with the homogeneous group of bastards I got.
you know friends isnt a god given right or something you get at birth right? "shortchanged" pffff then get some other fucking friends holy shit
>how about you just actually fucking dress well for fucking once in your goddamn life?
Maybe it's more/deeper than that wow rude much.
It's about it being more against you than for you when job looking.
Walk half a block to the small grocery shop and spend 1/4 of my money in cold meats, cheese and bread
Go to the supermarket and buy a chicken wich will cost me 1/6 of my money but its 8 ocks away and its raining
Walk two blocks to the sandwich place and buy a panini for 1/4 of my money
Buy a pizza for 1/2 of my money but I have to wait a lot for it
Go to McDonalds and buy a big mc and a big fry for 1/4 of my money
Go to the gas station and have a chicken sandwich, some soda and coffee for 1/3 of my money
Which should I choose
One shower a day with soap and washcloth. With 4 showers a day, you're probably greasy as fuck with how your pores are overcompensating with oil production since you keep washing it off.
Society is a fake, anon. But why should that affect what your acting? There are a lot of things that gain you both moral satisfaction and still help you in getting a good resume.
I had always been shut-in. I gamed and smoked weed my way way through highschool. I had the same thoughts as you had. What stuff makes your life complete?
-good, but most importantly, interesting study (/interesting good job)
-the feeling that you make the world a better place
-other people liking you/ good family bonds
-Go to your classes, but not all of them.
-Do work at a social work place or any organisation that betters your surroundings, such as the environment
-Start a small organisation. Esp at uni it's very easy. Facilitate activities in which students can join to meet new people.
It will make you feel better. You participate in the system but you participate in it in a way that is required to get any system up and running. in a positive way. You avoid the bad, useless parts (of course you will meet these things and make mistakes too, but w/e, you're here for 60 years. Go explore. Or travel, for that matter.
Oh, and l2time-management
were? my kitchen is destroyed, the oven and burners are desconected
i dont own an electrical cooker or a microwave
in other news chicken is now 3 times more expensive than it was two weeksago so i cant afford it, i got pizza instead and i will have to starve myself tomorrow to afford food on wednesday
I just constantly feel like in my job looking I'm just constantly losing more than I'm ever gaining like I'm losing myself by having to change my appearance just to satisfy others not even guaranteeing that I'll even get a job or that I'll just be miserable working not to mention my anxiety is already a bitch
I encourage all of you fags to take my three month challenge on not being a fag.
This is week one and your challenge is to cut all junk food/sugar. And if you could cut down on your semen consumption just a bit, that would be great.
So I've retracted almost entirely from society and found a great deal of peace of mind in the process. The negative emotions have subsided and I'm content for the first time in a long time.
Why should I feel guilty about this?
> pffff then get some other fucking friends holy shit
At 26? Not likely, anyway I was talking about the terrible friends had way back in school and was usually left out of things anyway. Nobody had my geeky interests in school or the area in fact. Looking back there was an apparent lack of geekiness (or anything different) in my area growing up.
Right now? I have a parasite and a handful of acquaintances.
I feel justified in saying I was short-changed with the set of people I grew up with.
Well I'm 25 and i don't give a single fuck about having IRL friends, and even online I only have 1 true friend. A girlfriend would be great for the sex/affection but I know i'd eventually get sick of her if she wasn't as big a loner/geek as me. I do not want kids ever. My dream life consists of having a nice stable career that requires no more than 40 hours a week from me. Having my own apartment, a car and spending all my free time on my geey hobbies video games/movies/anime/etc.
One day I'm going to wake up being 48 years old, it's going to be my day off and i'll spend the morning watching the latest anime while eating a nice hot breakfast made with quality ingredients and without a fucking care or worry in my head. That sounds fucking amazing to me.
That's what has finally motivated me to stop being a poor as fuck NEET.
I dropped out of college because the commute was long and expensive, it was a community college w/ no majors i liked, and the idea of shelling out tens of thousands to go to a real school sort of made me sick.
Honestly... I feel kind of bad. This is the third time in my life I've been a dropout. I dropped out junior and senior year of highschool only to finally get a ged last year. i've never worked a day in my life. i have stupidly high standards for the type of work i'd do and have crippling anxiety...
i want to be hopeful for the future. but as it stands im lazy and poor and just... prone to major depression. all i ever do is play video games and watch cartoons to get sort of sucked into a reality that isn't this one. I don't have any friends except one friend who constantly ditches me and my only social life is anime cons. i don't have a license... i dont want to live in my parents house for the rest of my life.
please, for the love of god, help me.
Meh, not a true NEET, but here's my story:
>23, Creative Writing Master's degree student (MFA)
>Part time private guitar instructor (make like $500 a month.
>Parents pay rent+tuition+ give me spending money
>Live with my GF of 5 years.
>Had a handful of friends in undergrad and went to parties/concerts/bars all the time.
>After graduation, I just sort of stopped with all of that.
>Now, I don't drink or do drugs anymore.
>I don't go to parties or have any friends other than my GF
>I pretty much just sit at home and watch tv, write, read or video games when i'm not working.
i know that feel broheim, however people will still attempt to make you feel like shit when they see the way you live if only for the simple reason because they are jelly they are getting keked by society.
I sure hope you are not from the land of the free.
Go take an air conditioning repair course or something similar where you don't need to get employed and you work directly with your costumer
I say give lifting a try before you do to cigarettes, maybe you get the hang out of it and once you get addicted to that awesome feeling after you work out I doubt you'll ever be the same. Also you'll live like 60 more years so try to work on your health instead of lung cancer
I'm the same way. I'm a sophomore in college and I partied a lot last year, but the constant drug and alcohol use of my friends affected me really negatively. It got to the point where I was constantly high and fucking random guys to boost my self esteem. I had bad grades too. Felt bad.
So I distanced myself from that life, and I haven't really made any new friends. I just have my boyfriend who I am about to move in with. I love him more than anything, and he makes me so happy, but when he isn't around I just wish that I had actual friends too.
But hey, this past semester I made a 3.7 GPA. Yay.
>I'm so lonely
At least you guys have memories, all I remember are the innumerable dickheads I've met throughout school and beyond. I have no idea how to make friends, talk to women or most people for that matter, but dickheads home in on me like sharks smell drops of blood in water.
I moved to night shifts to avoid them, a lot more lonely and I don't get to see the customer I have a crush on but it's a lot better than being constantly poked at. Most people treat me with indifference during the day anyway so it's not like I'm missing much.
Are careers as full of dickheads as wageslave jobs are?
Sorry people are dickheads anon, that's rough. I wish I could give you advice about making friends, but I'm a shy girl who relies on looking nice and approachable to make friends.
But don't give up! You seem nice and (cheesy, but) this internet stranger believes in you!
I guess I still kind of hate that it's always gonna hang on me that even once I do get something it'll be like "Yeah I didn't get my first "real" job til 29" So much catching up to do too.
I mean in a "way" I've worked various odd jobs I guess you could say and I'm not completely lazy just in part it was my anxiety/fear of the whole thing not pushing me to do more and time passed me too fast after 6 years of college but I come a long way.
>I wish I could give you advice about making friends, but I'm a shy girl who relies on looking nice and approachable to make friends.
Welcome to the world of unfair double standards. While men can make friends by being attractive and friendly, it is a far less common method of making friends, because of gender roles.
Thanks for reinforcing the woman haters' beliefs in this thread.
oh honey why do you keep insisting these people are good. please for goodness sake just go, youre wasting your time and youth trying to help people that dont deserve your attention and time.
I feel so absolutely wretched for every single person I stopped from killing themselves. I've made the world a far worse place by not letting the trash remove themselves and now its on me for every new or continued person they hurt
Also I really don't care about the actual money aspect I can do just a simple part time for now (I really don't know where to be specific in my career goals) though a lot of them at this level are things that would be real hard for me to do (customer service/food etc) which is why I have the job place who I guess kind of understands this. I hope they can help me. I mean they do say to me with my tests so far that I'm better than I give myself credit for. I also at least don't have crime records and do have the degree and tiny bits of experience in that I've not just always sad on my ass eating chips on the sofa. I even help around my house even the little things can go a long way I guess. Sorry if I seem like an annoying lil pissant.
Oh no it's been nothing like that . No lines, understanding my personal issues etc. and in general more personal. Guess what I'm doing is a bit different. It's not like an unemployment office. I mean yeah stuff has taken long times to progress in steps but that's mostly a gov. redtape issue not them specifically.
I was NEET for about 3 years. Currently have a job I am happy with and ambition to do better. Who would have guessed?! Ask me whatever, I'll be around for a while today.
I'm a designer at a local art store. I plan on becoming a hair dresser because I plan on moving soon. Just a temp job I suppose. It's always good to have a back up plan.
I was a loser in my earlier years. I partied too much in high school (with the other misfits) and had no plans for college.
Well it's true. If you don't look approachable, people are less likely to approach you. I'm not saying If you aren't gorgeous/perfect you won't have any friends, but if you smell like shit and don't shower or take care of yourself, will people be comfortable around you? Probably not.
>I was a loser in my earlier years. I partied too much in high school (with the other misfits) and had no plans for college.
Ehh, wouldn't call that being much of a loser, sounded pretty normal actually.
Then I guess I was pretty normal. My family is all really fucked up, but that's also pretty normal. Living in a broken house or whatever.
Yes. I haven't been this content in a while. Between the meds and therapy it was something i'm glad I forced myself to do. I wish I did it sooner.
I've thought about therapy myself but I can't talk to people I don't know extremely well about my emotions and my past and I don't have endless money to find a therapist I can get to that level of trust.
Did you have this problem or were you able to open up quickly?