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Hey, I actually kinda feel the same. I can go on and on with messages but I hate talking, by phone or in person. Sometimes it messes with my relations because they think I'm angry at them but 1. That's just my expression (resting bitch face) 2. I don't feel comfortable talking 3. Most of the time I don't like to look at people in the eye. I too would like some advice!

Easy, just slowly hint that you're a horrible person by dropping some poor taste jokes and being really cringey. Eventually she'll stop talking to you

If things get intimate at all, just tell her that you think it's only fair to let her know you're not at a place in your life where commitment is an option. Explain that you're working on yourself and can't be in any sort of relationship.

If you're trying to get rid of her as a friend all together, I dunno. But if you like her idk why you'd need to remove her as a friend

"accidentally" open your laptop around her with hardcore rape porn on the screen

she'll either never speak to you again or.. jackpot

can't help with the mold problem but i'd think there's some practical solution to fix it.

i can relate to constantly juggling a million different thoughts in your head though, and while i'm not doing it anymore the one and only thing that really helped was physical exercise of any kind. basically wearing your body out until you have no energy to think about all the random bullshit. sounds cheesy as fuck and you've probably already heard it a million times but that's pretty much it. there's a bunch of science to it but i'm like you not being able to organize my thoughts atm so i can't elaborate.

if you manage to squeeze it into your routine and ride the high that comes off it maybe (probably) it will make it easier for you to move out and cope with your issues.

>>18704091
Sounds pretty much like me. People usually say I'm smart, but I'm sure they're just kidding. Anyways, exercise is under-rated. We always talk about how healthy it is. The untold story is that it actually encourages brain development and connections to be made. So, if you're not, try taking up cardio and lifting. I hate to pull the "/fit/" card, but it may help you. Especially if you've been sedentary.

>finally had one hardcore exercise session last week
>night afterwards I had my first lucid dream

And make sure you air out your room if you have a window.

>>18704159
>>18704447
Just went for a run. Doing it always makes me feel better after doing it but I have never kept it up regularly. Need to change that.

Thanks guys. I'm also going to a meditation class on Sunday as I've found it to help me some when I've tried it.

>>18704089
If you actually want to be useful, tell us what advice you used and how effective it was.

Telling us how does one find wife tier material gf (and even virgin) would also be cool. You have 2000 char limit, feel free to use it.

>>18704097
The advice was mostly about the wedding night, as there wasn't much else left that I/we needed help with.
Thats was mostly stuff I'd expect anyone who's had sex before to know already.
Like, don't expect it to be perfect, don't force it, don't take it too serious, if it doesn't work out the first time, just relax and try again later.
Have a towel ready and make sure she's relaxed.
As for where to find someone like that, it's hard to say, because I only found one, and I think there's a few more out there.
We met over the internet, while playing games,so I'd suggest you look somewhere in your field of interest.
Other than that, she went to church, not because her parents made her, but because she wants to, so that always helps, as well as her generally being traditional, since marriage is a generally traditional institution.
Not saying a 'modern' women can't be married, but it's probably harder to maintain
What's most important though is that you get along well and can REALLY trust each other.
We married rather young, so neither of us really had to worry about gold digging or anything like that.

I'll start with some general life advice.
There's a burning passion lit deep within you yet to surface, as we grow older society likes to dull and hide our flame, its just a matter of rekindling the fire.
Everything you choose to do, every little move you make shapes you into who you are. The actions you take train your mind and the mind follows the body, the body follows the mind. Each time you procrastinate you get BETTER at doing it. You build up your skill set of procrastinating. You need a focal point, goals that are attainable. Understand your vices and keep a schedule, get in a routine, it sounds like dad advice but it works. Identify your reward system of bad habits, do you like the energy you get from a soda in the morning? Replace it with the energy you get from a morning run.
Motivation, just like confidence, is not an emotion. It's a skill.

>>18704046
I never realized how overwhelming it is to get into med school and I could rlly use some motivation to help me not step down from following my dreams.

>>18704231
bumping because i'm in the same boat but in fashion school. it's hard and about 20+ hours a week in only one class

it's hard and everyday i think of backing down but it's my dream

>>18704019
if you're so confident then move to where the cool shit is and don't make any excuses

>>18704025

I'm moving when term starts but good point.

Time.

50 km is like a 30-45min drive, not even that far lmao

>>18703959
>How do I get the idea that she was the love of my life out of my head?
>love of my life
>coudn't keep it in my pants for a week
>broke up because we live 30 minutes away

Clearly NOT the love of your life. You're dramatizing here.

P.S. I live 80km from my GF. We only get to see each other on the weekends, some of which I'm even working during.. Been together for 2.5 years, now looking for a place to move together that's closer to both of our jobs.

>insecurity about being a manlet
quit 4chan

>>18703869
Lord I feel like you've got to start thinking of yourself as more than the answer to a question or the response to something. Your opinions should be for things, not against them. Focus on yourself and making yourself better, anon.

O am taking about text

>>18703851
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation

Don't use minions no matter how self deprecating, ironic, or funny you think it is. Don't mention minions to any girl or anyone, especially on this site you fucking disgusting piece of shit degenerate

Plz respond

Perhaps, probably not.

>>18703842
I doubt it.

What do you like to do?

>>18703786
Some sort of fighting instructor maybe?

>>18703786

You managed to get me to really dislike you in less than 30 words.

You only fuck milfes. So ''date'', sure.

What was the gift Anon?

Put down money for a new non gay car

>>18703729
Is 20k a month your profit or does some of that go back into your business? Because if you profit 20k a month you should be able to have bought a new car outright by now.

>>18703698
Time heals.
Breakups are terrible for everyone with very little exception. Everyone gets over it eventually.

Cut contact with her, take some advil, and wait it out. Get some new hobbies and learn new skills while yer at it.

don't pursue women now, it will be empty and unfulfilling

You literally just apologize. "Derp, sorry for being an emo faggot last night guys, been stressing out a bit and then I didn't even realize I turned off my messages and shit - fuck me lolol"

Hell if you're slick enough you can turn it into some kind of platitude about how not letting other people is the root cause of loneliness and depression or some bullshit.

I didn't talk to anyone, and I really made no issue about it. I am usually social in my group of friends, however, everyone just went out tonight and had a blast, while I missed out and I didn't do anything well instead of it