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>>18550589
I think the first step here is to figure out which mannerisms you have which are interpreted as gay and correct them. Stop acting like a homo and people will have less reason to suspect that you are. And, of course you should correct people if they speak falsehoods about you in your presence.

>>18550589
It sounds like people around you are closeted as hell. Where the fuck do you live at, SLC? Deep south?

>>18550607
midwest
lots of shit here that contributes to what you said:
the friend who asked me if i was bi curious in front of everyone and pushed it has had a history of being friends with a legit gay guy, like they spent a great deal of time together. he has also kissed a dude. he gets no flack or anything about it either. This guy has placed his hands on my lap when we were alone drunk and gave me a crazy eyed look. says my other friend is gay who was raped as a kid.

This "friend" who was raped as a kid apparently some girls he dates suggested that he's gay and his sister thinks so. I certainly caught him eying my body when i went to his pool party. He still dates girls and other shit.

another "friend" used to draw erections and shit, has subliminal gay shit in his work but dates girls and because he is a pretty boy, he gets attention. He is also two faced as fuck and overheard him explain to his other friends that im closeted suggesting they don't believe him.

all these dudes i hung out with because i wouldnt have anywhere else to go all are two faced and shit on me, exclude me from real parties and other shit.

>>18550606
its probably my mannerisms because i can be a spaz and cant keep my shit together at times. alcohol gets me excited and happy and energetic. i cant help it man. most of the time i dont peacock, talk shit, or act "hard". ive been through some humiliating shit to where im humbled, timid and quiet.

>>18550486
Get a job

Get a job, I guess. Find a relative's place to stay, till you save up enough money.

>>18550486
you guys in the USA? Every state has federally funded programs to prevent situations like yours. https://portal.hud.gov/hudportal/HUD?src=/topics/homelessness/localassist
find a phone number and call, ask questions, ask them to redirect you to people who can help if they can't. Talk to your welfare case manager.

For me the cure for this is putting on youtube videos as I fall asleep. Long ones that last from like 30 minutes or longer. It's gotta be something you've seen before though or you'll be paying too much attention to it to fall asleep. Could also be episodes of a show you've seen a million times before

>>18550458
You need to tire yourself out. Legit exhaust yourself to the point your thoughts can't even keep you awake. Start running after work. Run as hard, fast and long as you can until it feels like your lungs will collapse. Then go home, shut off your pc, your phone, anything to distract you, and go to bed when you can no longer stand. You WILL go to sleep.

>>18550458
What is bugging you, OP? Maybe just going through hard times.

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>>18550456
I don't know if I have. How were you like before those pills, and how are you now?

>>18550466
I was depressed, anhedonic, but calm and all my thoughts were collected and I was pretty centered. I have been that way for many many years, since the beginning of high school and now I'm 23.

Now I am responsive to outside stimuli, able to enjoy things, but feeling like I cannot process everything my sensors are throwing at me. As a consequence my thoughts are quite less collected, but aside from that the consequences are primarily good, it feels like a high.

The primary complaint is that I am averse to the very concept of not being able to come down from this "high" if I keep taking this pill, which makes me have some pretty bad moments of anxiety. It's probable that my past bad trips caused some trauma and are fucking with me right now.

>>18550382
Open a damn window, it's probably musty ballsack.

>>18550415
I've had it open all summer.

>>18550382
give us some pictures anon. could be anything like a wet sock that was dropped in a corner or a cum stain growing mushrooms.

>>18550185
What do you like to do? Maybe have your dad buy you some beer and you guys could have a fire

>>18550191

Okay. Sounds cool.

>>18550326

Can't really have beer where I'm from. (California, USA)

>>18550184
Well your problem is your looking for it at night when it's only out during the day

Genius lmao good one man

>>18550184
You can't fool me MPAA.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnreLlWJasQ

>>18550132
If you fail your first year of college you might as well drop out

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Don't listen to the retard who said dropping out is an option.

I got some questions to ask you. What was your major in the first year? Why did you fail? How did you obtain arthritis at 21 years old?

>>18550143
Equine science. I like horses, but it's basically the industry of horse PEOPLE. I was getting failed for shit like skipping a daytime Halloween party where they dressed up the horses. I was miserable and somehow my parents convinced me to go again a second semester to finish the year.
I was born with clift foot. No doctor will even prescribe me a pain killer because I'd just be hooked for life on some opiates. I'd get hurt in high school doing shit like running to warm up for sports. I feel like an old man.

>>18550038
Abort it

Get married later. Save on a potential and nasty divorce cost. If child asks just tell him the truth.

Nope, kill the sucker and pretend you never met each other. You are not making the world any better by introducing more retards to it.

>>18549988
realize it's just another retard like your self on the other side

I get scared a lot over the phone. But the only way you can get better at it and not be so worrisome is to do it a few times. What I do is write down exactly what I want to say on a piece of paper, especially if I'm nervous. And after your done speaking, just wait for them to say everything they have to say, try not to butt something in, or you might feel even more nervous. Another thing to keep in mind is, as much as you might think the person on the other line cares about every detail you say or do over the phone, the person at that pizza place is not worried about those small details. They are just placing your order and have no idea who you are, so even if you think you messed up, they don't even know. I answer phones at my job several times a day, and people even fucking stutter over themselves constantly and I could not give the slightest fuck because I'm at work, why the fuck am I worried about someone I don't even know? Man, anxiety sucks, but it is definitely something that can get better, that first step is hard, but the relief and accomplishment afterwards is well rewarding, I promise. You can do it champ.

Kill yourself desu

its because they can tell youre a fake

>>18549943
A grandiose assertion, fair comrade!

>reddit spacing
>pretentious writing
Maybe 4chan isn't for you

I think you should ride it out. She'll probably ease up on her own. She just wants to spend time with her child, don't hurt her for being a mom.

>>18549803
What circumstances led to her putting you up to adoption?

>>18550926
She was raped when she was 13 and had me.

Donald freaking Trump. I'm not going to get to that level, so why bother trying?

me

>>18549792
why?

You need 3 things: a job, time and dedication. Forget about relationships for a while, shits never really going to work unless you're feeling good about yourself.
Write down all the things you want to fix about your life and keep it somewhere safe. Get a job and dedicate yourself to it 100%. Get as much overtime as possible and save as much money as possible. Having cash opens up a lot of options. Try to become a little bit more independent. If you're out of shape, try working out. Look back at your list and try fixing one thing at a time. Use all your resources, anything you have that can help complete the list.

>>18549679
you never had control.
none of us do.

It was all for me.
It always was.

>>18549732
other anon here
I tried the "job with as much overtime" and was still in the same position he was, so I had to quit. Do I have to do it again?

>>18549657
"Hey do you wanna hang out on Friday?"

Stop making excuses and ask him out. He'll be happy you took that pressure off of him. You won't be the first girl to ask a guy out and you won't be the last.

>>18549665
>>18549667

OP here, worst case scenario -- a girl you have a light friendship with asks you out and you don't like her, what do you do?