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>>18706738
I assume you're both guys so he might not like sharing his feelings with his friends. For many guys (unfortunately) their feelings are reserved only for those they are romantically involved with.

Or, you might not be close enough to him for him to open up to you. Either way, you can't make him share. If he doesn't come around and tell you, I'd say wait for this to blow over and then just continue your friendship as usual. Maybe you can work towards be more deep with each other when he isn't in crisis.

>>18706784
Maybe he is gay, I would cry too on my porch in the middle of the morning too if I was. I won't ask him though like you said. I'll just watch for any rainbow flags he may throw up.

>>18706827
And I thought you were a good person from your OP. Yeah, have fun with your superficial friendships you homophobic jerk. Showing emotion doesn't make you gay.

No one cares

>>18706441
>I'm okay with this
>What do I do now
Yeah ok guy

buy some bags of heroin, snort it, then non off and hit your head, resulting in eventual death

>>18706416
>I find lying very easy and I don't feel anything after doing it
>I'm curious if this is something wrong with me
Yes, whether it actually matters is another story.
Personally, I lie a lot too but several times being caught by people I really had the respect of has taught me under which circumstances lying outweighs the consequences of being found out.

>>18706416
something is wrong with you but you could be a great politician or lawyer so look into that

>>18706416
Yes, there's something wrong with you. Compulsive lying is one of those behaviors that help you get through some rough times usually as a child, and when those times are over you keep doing it and it's maladaptive. People see through it, they may believe you for a time but eventually they'll figure it out and shun you.

There are times where lying is the best option but only if people can believe you, if you earn a reputation as a liar then its much less effective. I tried to see a therapist to stop lying, I didn't have much success there. Eventually I had to just buckle down and double check everything that came out of my mouth before I opened it, and if I did lie, I'd quickly correct myself.

It wasn't a graceful or intuitive process and sometimes I still fuck up. I am a lot less stressed though and feel good that the people who like me, really like me, and not the person I made myself out to be when I felt like lying.

>>18706296
>I am thinking about continuing smoking weed from time to time, but I fear it's gonna have negative affects on me in time. Wot do /adv/
If you have a stable hookup and no fear of UA's from your job then go for it; I've smoked everyday for the last 3 years and while it can exacerbate anxiety and depression, it's easy to quit as I've recently found out; I haven't smoked in 2 weeks because I'm going to apply for new jobs.

Just don't be a fucking idiot about where/when you smoke and you're solid.

>>18706296
I wouldnt recommend it if you have an addictive personality or are using it to self medicate. I think it becomes a slippery slope when you depend on weed to maintain your mental wellbeing.

>>18706296
Plenty of people self medicate. Never seen anyone turn out ok though. Get proffessional help.

>>18706212
Means nothing at all. Just a dream dude. I've had dreams about all sorts of weird shit before demons included. Literally just dreams.

I said November/December. Chill.

>>18706685
no one said that. What are you talking about?

>>18706038
Stop thinking that bullshiit. Put it in a perspective that's makes you content with the situation. Then continue thinking that way. It's very simple.

>>18706095

I tend to do it in a depressing way, which probably isn't healthy. "They'd never like me anyway", "I'm not good enough for them", ect

>>18706038
Don't get attached. The more you do it, the less it will hurt.

>>18706036
Get a UV lamp that's specifically designed for people with SAD.

>>18706036
Google "Seasonal Affective Disorder"

>>18706008
>How would you guys approach it if you have any experience
Well, I would have studied, so there's that. You can ask, but don't beg. You get what you deserve, try again if it's not enough.

>>18706008
Don't beg. Be a little subtler: "Is it possible that you missed something on my test that would get me the extra four points I need to pass?"

Unless you had made promises about finances, their finances are not your problem. When does the lease get over? You could start talking to her about the issues you are having and how you want both of you to be happy. If she values your companionship, she might agree to changing things around.

>>18705932
You have to talk to your property manager. If she is on the lease as a tenant, that means she is technically a bill payer/lease holder, so you can't just remove her. If she is a dependent or occupant, that means you are the sole lease holder/bill payer and you can remove her anytime.

If she's a tenant, you're fucked. Breaking the lease is messy as fuck. You're better off waiting until your lease is up.

>>18705852
tell him to fuck off, politely

tell your friend how you feel. Mention the drinking and how you're not ok with it. Support your friend if you think their drinking is troublesome.

>>18705852
Just tell him you simply want to relax this Saturday.

>>18705847

I was somewhat similar to him and the best advice I can give you is to get him to see a therapist. Results will be slow, but over time, as long as he takes his sessions seriously, he will get better at coping with his past and his feelings. Medication may also help him temporarily.

In short, yes, it is worth it to put in some effort as long as he is willing to.

>>18705847
Offer to take him to therapy and try and help him, if that doesn't work, leave. If he loves you he'll understand.

People like that really don't change most of the time depending on how old they are. It may not seem abusive now but it can fester into more abusive tendencies towards you and even your children if you plan on having any. Breaking shit as a result of not being able to control your anger properly is a big red flag.

>>18705847
I 100% agree with the other posters, but.
>I really love him but is love enough?
No, you can't save someone.

>>18705834
If spraying doesn't work, insist that management spray other parts of the building as well. It just takes one dirty apartment.......

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>>18705834
>>18705834

plugging some dodgy holes did wonders for me

Eventually, the only weak spots should be the siphons.
- coming from a guy that moved in a roach infested city

literally see these fucks everywhere at night

>>18706870
What did you use to plug the holes?

>>18705825
do you expect a single sane person to reply with "yes" ?

>>18705825
It's not okay and you seem to have lots of trapped emotions in your body that you felt the need to bruise yourself up.

My man, you've got to try this bioenergetics

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GMy4sl9bze4

>>18705825
No.

If you have pent-up energy, do some exercise until you're exhausted - 100 push-ups, run a mile, beat the shit out of a punching bag

>>18705817
Bump

>>18705817

You'll grow up, become more mature, and realize it doesn't really matter what people say of you.

Who cares lol

Yeah yeah, you probably heard it but really now, holy shit hoghschool, college, it's all so pointless in the grand scheme of things. I don't even remember my class mates' names and thinking back, highsvhool was such a big fucking deal back then, not it's literally less important than the empty can of beer on my desktop because that, I actually have to pick with my own hand like right now and throw otherwise it'll sprout mushrooms and shit.

>>18705807
Leave the poor dog alone. Dogs identify each other by smell, and need to smell in order to identify ("Oh, there's a new dog. Let me learn his smell so I'll recognize him next time" turns into "Another dog! Let me sniff. Oh, I recognize him")

It is as "gay" as shaking hands.

>>18705807
It's what they do. Stop trying to change the animals nature and take the God damn pants off the other dog you spazmonkey lol