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>>18569940

How much does he drink? Are you sure you're not just applying your definition of alcoholism to someone that isn't? I mean, it's your right to not be with someone whose lifestyle you don't agree with, but just make sure you're being there for him.

He's going to lose friends over this, it sounds like, so being supportive means helping him find new constructive activities to fill the void of his drinking buddies.

You should be compassionate with him when he slips. It's almost a guarantee that he will. He should find some kind of resource to help him through this, as well. AA did not work for me, but there are some people that it has helped. You can look into therapists that specialize in addiction recovery, or even perhaps get a physician to prescribe naltrexone.

I'm an alcoholic that has quit and restarted many a time.

>>18569957
He ended up hitting on a girl and asking her out while drunk one night and lied about it. He said he would never do that and that it was the alcohol. I said fine, stop drinking then.

Originally I thought it was too much and this was a good way to take a break from drinking. (A bottle of wine a night/ half a bottle of tequila a night/ 2 pitchers of beer by himself in a few hours etc) he would continue drinking by himself after I went to bed.

Once he stopped though, he went through withdrawl and had at least one minor seizure. That made me think the drinking is definitely a serious problem for him. (Plus halucinations, anxiety, shaking..)

I've cut out drinking around him and we're going for walks and stuff but I don't know any activities he'd like to do. He took a week off work for this. He admitted it was hard being around alcohol his first day back at the bar. And he goes to AA.

>>18569977

So he works at a bar? Yeah, that's gonna be really tough. I suppose if he had full on withdrawals, there's a bigger problem at hand, so that definitely sucks.

But yeah, going for walks isn't enough. You need to actually do things. Keep in mind, for many, drinking so much isn't about just getting drunk, but the social interaction that comes with it. If my pals and I are bored? Bar. If I had a long day at work and need to commiserate with someone? Bar. Sports game on and we wanna watch? Bar.

And you can't just go sit at the bar and drink soda. The bartender is going to get mad that you're taking up a barstool for a paying customer and therefore costing them tip money, your buddies are going to give you shit and peer pressure you, and frankly it's not easy to get as loose and fun without a couple of drinks.

Some people replace this with working out. Or nice dinners. Or a club that has some kind of activity. My recovering addict friend pretty much only exclusively hangs around with recovering addicts she has met through therapy. You need to find him that. His life is on a drastic crash course of change if he is truly quitting.

>>18569926
If you are older than 25 then you have to kill yourself to experience the sweet release of death. If you are younger than 25 STFU you angsty depressed teenager. and grow up and make yourself useful. There are a lot of people who could use your skills and appreciate you for it but noooooo "I'm incapable."

>>18569962
To hell with other human beings.
They desire what is best for themselves.

>>18569997
Getting other to help other people while at the same time being away from your own ego as a reward is a good human motivator. Ease up on the Nietzsche anon

>Get dog cookies
>Grab the dog
>Sell it to the nearest Asian restaurant
>Enjoy the extra amount of money you made by selling the dog

>>18569751
barking is a form of nuisance. Pretty sure you can pursue that under property laws.

>>18569751
Poison and kill it

>>18569740
seconding this shitty thread
save a bullet for me as well, OP.

I'm just like you OP, save another bullet for me

>>18569740
hey loser you forgot to add
>British

no idea. why do you wanna kill yourself though?

>>18569718
Say you just bought it for balloons or something lmao

>>18569718
It's real simple. Tell her the truth, then go get help for your problems. Whatever it is, it's not worth killing yourself.

being civilised and giving fucks about your neighborhood is the opposite of autistic anon

>>18569690
The thing is it's Saturday evening so the council may not feel it's worthy.

This stupid nigger played loud reggae music from 5:30pm until 10pm on Wednesday and when I phoned the council a nigger woman answered and told me off for specifying that the music was "reggae" and then claimed she couldn't hear anything when I held the phone out the window.

>>18569693
well then you've learned they don't give a fuck if it's nogs causing the disturbance and you know to leave that part out and just register a noise complaint

>>18569642
Girls, man. They're weird.

>>18569695
Yeah, kind of made me feel shitty because I had the hope that someone would finally like me back.

>>18569642
Obvious hoe is obvious.

it sounds to me like the solution is very simple and that you need to surround yourself with centrists instead of extremists

>>18569602
except I am myself falling into extremism against women and while it's driving me to constantly improve myself and have some use in society it's also wrecking my self worth and gender identity

>>18569609
you're just an inverse cuck

a right-wing woman, believing in anti-her things

a left-wing man, believing in anti-him things

sounds familiar

compromise your dumb-ass political views you're already voicing discontent
"just stop"

Hey, hey, well too fucking bad yeah

Hey mate, If you want your account back you gonna have to work for it bitch nigger

>>18569581
>hacked
Yea, somebody got your passwords. I bet some friend you know did it. Ignore it and consider spending less time online and more time offline.

>>18569437
depends
some does, some doesnt

Because they think they're special and assume everyone wants to fuck them, so they have to announce it to everyone that they get a lot of people asking them to fuck and that they're "not easy."

Mostly, it's for attention. In my experience, these girls tend to ask to fuck no more than within a few weeks time if you're hitting things off.

>>18569437
>why do they write this? does everyone mean it?
because they're trying to communicate something
some mean it and others are just fronting

>>18569326
piece by piece, start with the money because with money comes a wife.

This is a big multi faceted question. First of all video games are fine in moderation. Lets move on.

Career wise if you want to be succesful and make a lot of money then right now, give up on the idea of doing what you love as a career. Careers that are desperate for good quality people are software engineer, software sales, engineer recruiter, and petroleum engineer, software development again. If you want good money right out of school, pursue these. They are not easy or cheap to pursue.

Korea is insanely expensive in terms of living and korean is not a very useful second language. Think Mandarin, Spanish if you want it to attribute to your success.

25k is not a lot of money to invest, and you will likely need it for school in the near future, best you can do if you need it in under 5 years is park it in the highest interest account you can find.

>>18569352
Sorry, i had a typo in last paragraph, i have saved up 35K USD not 25K...most of them are in a high interest saving account for mortgage with 3.2% - It's not that good, but hey its free money.

>doesn't get it

She wanted romance and you failed to deliver. If you want her to quit being uptight, bring the dynamic back to just her.

If you're good at lying, hide it, and butter her up with the sweet 'you're my number 1' shit. They might fall for it.

Otherwise, this is a sunk ship since you denied her the good stuff. Sound familiar?

Why aren't you fucking them?

>>18569278
ask her to join you two

What exactly is her sexual history?

>Wtf is wrong with me
You are most likely insecure because you never got as much action as she did

>>18569227
Nothings wrong with you. You r just a little insecure. Dont be a cuck tho and date a gangbanger. But its natural

I think it is normal to wonder who she has been with or how many people she is been with, but the important thing is that you are the only one that matters now. It's not like every guy she fucked prior to you carved his name in her vagina or something.

>>18569187
turn it into a movie

>>18569187
*same anon*

Like is it about the title and making a porn like that?

or is it about the concept and if it's possible to direct an amateur porn as a jewish director, who can make money of it?

Sell it as a PDF and say you wrote it, link it to a webpage with ads for people to download from, I will take a 15% cut

I'd crack it and pull the hard drive out to see what's on it.

But, that's me. I'm fuck awful.

You should probably just chuck it. Destroy the hard drive if you're that kinda fellow.

>>18569135
If you check the hard drive do it from a virtual machine. A common tactic used by hackers is to put a virus or malware on a flash drive and either give them out or leave then places. People find them plug them in and that's all it takes to infect a computer. So yeah use a vm

>>18569161
windows boots partially but then blue screens. I'm gonna try to open it in a linux live cd