/adv/
Recently my orgasms have been getting stronger and stronger, for no real discernible reason. But it has reached the point where I receive so much dopamine (or whatever the fuck the chemical is) from an orgasm that I am close to passing out and almost always end up high as fuck and with a headache.
Sometimes it literally feels like I just smashed a blunt. Am I sick? Should I see a doctor?
>>18527145
Sounds more like something with your circulation, since you're close to passing out and have a headache. Go to a doctor and monitor you blood pressure, preferably check it during masturbation as well.
What do you do to spend the time when daddy grounds you?
>>18527137
Masturbate loudly in my room. What do you do?
>>18527137
Smoke my bong and playe League of Legends
Got laid off from my full time job about a year ago now. They said there would be call backs soon, but fuck that. I got a new job, better one more stable, etc.
anyway.
I got a random pay from them, not even sure what it is for. Not vacation pay. Bonus for me tho.
Think they will ask for it back? When they call me back and I say sorry working for someone else.
>>18527091
Deposit the check, say nothing. If they don't come after you in a few months it's yours. If they do, give it back without a fight because they'd win if they pressed the issue. You're out nothing but the time of writing a check.
spoderman drowning in teh mula
Is a Pastry Diploma at Le Cordon Bleu worth it? Considering to apply for the programmes but I don't know if the price is worth it since it isn't a degree either or anything. Pic is bonbons I made
>>18526997
Jamal is that you?
>>18527117
who else betch
I want to stop masturbating but I cant. I've been masturbating 3-6 times a day for the past 2 months. Ever since I broke up with my GF I've been jerking off to cope with the pain. I cant do this anymore. I just want to die.
I know I am addicted because if I dont masturbate for 3 days straight I literally start shaking and getting rapid anxious thoughts and I really have to rub one off.
How do I stop this? I quit smoking cold turkey from a 1-2 pack a day habit but this is infinitely more difficult than that.
>>18526872
Try to reduce it to once a day. Try to think about how you feel right after masturbating. Try to get yourself busy with something, a hobby, videogames maybe. Play loud music when you are alone and want to masturbate, something you can bang your head to or dance to alone.
Addicts as far as I know don't just cut from 100% to 0%, it probably needs to be gradual. Lower the times you do it, you don't need to suddenly stop completely.
I have taken my first semester of college and passed with good grades, but then when I took the second semester it was to hard and failed. Now I don't know If I should even try and go back and see if I can do it again or not.. It cost a lot of money.
>>18526851
You need to figure out why you failed in the first place before you go back. "it was to hard" is not sufficient.
>>18526851
It is not likely that the second semester courses were all that much harder than the first. It is more likely that, having found the first term fairly easy, you started slacking off. Get back the motivation and dedication you had at the start and you should be OK
I invited a girl to have supper with me. I usually don't visit cafes or restaurants, so I have no idea about good or bad places, about menus and so on.
Can you please tell me, is that socially acceptable to invite a girl in pizzeria, for example? Or is it considered bad place for romantic evening? (I feel like yes, but I don't know, really).
What about coffee house? Or do you have better ideas?
We actually just want to spend some time together and to talk about stuff, but still, I feel like I need to choose a good place, so she won't be disappointed.
>>18526842
Never go super fancy for a first date.
Shit, I took a girl to a place that served nothing but hotdogs. They had like 75 different hot dogs on the menu. She had a great fucking time because it wasn't another lame-ass visit to some stuffy fancy-fuck place trying to impress her with the amount of money you're willing to spend on her steak.
Pizza and beers sounds great, casual, to sit and bullshit. Especially if it's some smaller non-chain place. Pizza Hut, not so much...
Save the romantic candlelit dinners for anniversaries.
First off, let me say anything "can" work out, it depends on the girl. For me (and the nerdy girls I get along with) coming on really strong and romantic has never been my game, but I think in general keeping things "friendly and flirty" at first will work more often in general.
Large chains should be out, and if you have some vague idea what kind of food she's into that's a good place to start. I knew my gf would be into anything Asian, so it was ezpz
Coffee is also a great idea, just hanging out talking about movies/music/normie stuff will work with any girl
Can we have an advice general for any anons who may have run slightly afoul of the law at some point in life?
I recently got something expunged, and a friend recommended I apply at a government agency with her. This isn't possible, even with expunction, is it? For the record, it was possession/paraphernalia, placed on a stet. Expunged only makes you clean with an asterisk, correct?
However it didn't stop me from joining the army, and not only has it been expunged, but it is retroactively "not illegal" so to speak, as my state has recently decriminalized carrying less than 10oz of pot.
I never see generals about legal stuff here, so if you're wondering about your own litigious things, ask about them here
Bumpan - I'll just dial it back and ask if I can get a government job after having something expunged. Does anything show up?
>>18526989
>Does anything show up?
It depends on what method they use for the background check. While your official criminal record may be sealed, if a simple Google search reports an old article about the crime you're going to be found out. 95% of the "job" a useless HR woman does is Googling names and reading Goybook posts.
You'll likely need to disclose for any government job, or anything with a proper security background check, but that's why there is that little line under the checkbox where you can write "minor charge, expunged."
If it was years ago, prior to military service (which gives major, major points for being able to follow orders...) and it wasn't a major felony, they literally do not give a shit unless you try to hide it. That includes even applying for security clearance. A minor drug charge means all of dick and shit, but lying about it is serious. It's not the crime, it's the coverup.
>>18527398
So, even with the expunction, if I were to apply as a keyboard jockey at the nsa, just go ahead and say "yes, I did the stupid thing, but it was expunged?"
How do I stop being so avoidant?
It's gotten to the point where I can't move forward in my life and do what I need to get done. I can't even send emails without a week of preparation or else I panic and break down. My parents really don't acknowledge that I can't just do these things normally and just yell at me for not getting things done, my dad especially keeps getting on to me and any time we've had a discussion about me not talking to people he's waived it off saying that I'm able to talk to the few people I've already known for such a long time.
>>18526782
Begin by understanding why it is you are so avoidant.
Feelings are beyond the rational which means it might not be easy to comprehend them at first. Think back upon your life, when did this start? Why? How do you see yourself? How do you think others see you?
If you have some sort of mental disease, however, my advice can only take you so far. Understand that even when it comes to yourself there are things that are beyond your immediate control and get help.
I have a group of friends and besides that another friends, one of these friends came one day with my usual group and me, they met and we had a good time. Now a friend of my group is working in another city, he asked me to go this weekend but i didnt feel like it, so days later the other friend ( the one that is not of my group ) tells me that he is going this weekend, i say that i already said no but now that he is going i might. He didnt ask me again and the next thing i know is that they are together and talking things i didnt want to be talked about me.
I dont know if its childish or not, but im angry as fuck, i feel betrayed by both. Do i have the right to be angry or not? Also one of them got laid, and i shouldnt give a fuck because i have a gf but it makes the situation worse.
Sorry for my english
/adv/, I'm dating a great woman, and I love her, but I've got this feeling that deep down we're just not meant for each other for some reason. She's got different sets of interests, different tastes in everything, and a temperament that feels like it clashes with my easygoing outlook on life. My head's always been in the clouds and I feel like I almost don't want to be pulled back down anymore; she's been gone a few days and I'm realizing I want these days back to myself to lose myself.
What do? I can't tell if I'm being childish in wanting not to be pulled into adult life, if I'm not ready for it, or what's going on. I think I'm just fantasizing about bachelor life but this comes up somewhat frequently. It makes me wonder whether I should have a girlfriend at all.
I enjoy her company and she'd be a wonderful life partner, but... I'm just so tired out sometimes by life with her. Like I'm not ready for this.
Talk with her and try and arrange when and how often to see each other so you can stay happy.
Hopefully she will be cool with it but if she wants more attention you might both have to move on.
>>18526734
This is an interesting question, OP.
All I can say is that relationships are a very difficult enterprise. You invest your time, your mental space, and your material resources and it can be draining at times when things are not travelling as smoothly as planned or desired. Your partner will feel the same way.
Many partners sit down and discuss with their inner circle that they do not 'need' their partner, or life would be 'smoother' without these emotional and material commitments. However, they feel like they are not 'right in the world' without that person. This is attachment, and it also coincide with a sense of romantic companionship that allows each to evolve in their goals for it to work.
This could all be a matter of 'the cat is away, and the mice will play'; but it is all your call. You need to make that judgement and wear the consequences. Do not hastily make a decision and there is no need to moralise and say you are a 'bad boyfriend' because you have these thoughts.
having differences are the best once you grow up, you can find new things through your partner instead of getting bored of eachother after 5 years
you can have your own space and time even in a marriage, its an entirely different thing if you are annoyed by her though
I've literally never posted on /adv/ before, so forgive me if this is off topic. Not so much looking advice, just for opinions...
Im 30 and I am from Ireland, I moved home nearly two years ago after living in the multi cultural melting pot that is London. Had a great time there and was friends with every race, colour and creed - muslims, sikhs, hindus, jews; you can see where I am coming from. So I move back home to Ireland (the north of Ireland to be precise) which is as backwards as you can get - Catholics fighting Protestants blah blah blah, lets not have a history lesson. I became involved with and ultimately ended up in a relationship with (what I thought) was a lovely girl the same age as myself. She seemingly had her shit together, like me, decent job, car, career, no kids and it really did seem like we clicked. Now initially I thought she was protestant, which is fine and she did lead me to believe this for the first couple of months. It was only after a few months she told me she converted to a "born again christian" and went to an "elim" church. Now if it wasnt already clear, I dont give a fuck about religion, I think it causes more problems than it solves. I myself was raised Catholic but I am in no way practising - Christmas, Easter, Weddings and funerals is about it for me.
Problems set in and I broke up with her about a month ago due to constant fighting and arguments, which I dont know was down to her personality or her religion? Now I think the USA is well versed with born agains so I am just asking here....
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>>18526697
She was very arrogant? Hypocritical? Looked down on others from her proverbial high horse.. Tried to get me tomce a few times but I wasnt having it. Her church said she couldn't drink or have sex, but she did both (in very small quantities mind you!) and of course was against gays and that and obviously adultery yet her two best friends, one was gay the other was cheating on her boyfriend. She met my family several times throughout the 9 months, I didn't meet her family once? I have no problem apologising when I have done wrong, yet she refused to apologise or acknowledge that she had done wrong? And the kicker came when I found out she had lied to me a few times.... Now it was nothing extreme or bad, but she had me believe that she DID NOT under any circumstance lie, and would eviscerate me if I told even a white lie - about what time I came home at for example.
We were even chatting about kids one night after a few drinks and when she said "no kid of mine will be raised by catholics, full of paedophiles" which I took no offence too, its about as original and ignorant as calling muslims terrorists - but it did make me think "well no kid of mine will be brainwashed like you are" (internally)
So very long story short I ended things. Was I right to do this? Do you think it was down to her religion or was it merely a personality clash? Any thoughts or advice at all, im just a little baffled by it all after coming from London where, for the most part, everyone got along.
thanks
>>18526699
It was a personality issue. Yes you did do the right thing.
>mom is in prison
>haven't seen or spoken to her in 16 years
>finally found out where she is; gonna write her a letter
>don't know who she is now
>don't really know that part of my family
>no clue what the fuck to say
Any advice, anons? I was thinking of just sending her some photos and telling her about myself and what I'm doing with my life, but frankly this is something I've pushed away for so long I have no clue what to say to her.
Tell her that you'll be cooking a big tasty dinner for the family when she gets home.
>>18526691
Tell her you just got her address. Tell her you'll respect her privacy and if she doesn't want to reply you won't bother her again. Tell her about yourself - your life up to now and what you're like now. Tell her the family hasn't told you much about her and, if she wants, you'd like to hear her story.
So I'm not getting any pleasure from masturbating and my orgasms are very weak and bland. I also have really low labido. Couple of times in the last 3 months ive tried taking a break for a week or two to see if I'm just jerking off too much. Problem is I find myself distracted and more agressive all the time. When I do jerk off after a wait the build up so semen is so much it hurts when I cum like its stretching my urethra.
What do? I am genuinely serious.
>>18526663
Stop for three months at least to really take a break.
As for being aggressive and distracted, find ways to deal with it. Most people find exercise and meditation work wonders, but there's plenty other ways to cope.
I've been talking to a girl for some time. Invited her out a couple of times, she didn't come, after some more talk I told her about my depression and how I got better, she said she has the same, social anxiety etc.
Last week we finally went on a date -- our first. She's absolutely amazing, blew my mind. Can't stop thinking about her. Told her I really like her and if she feels the same I'd like to hang out next weekend. She says yes, she can't on this weekend but the "idea is approved".
I then like a photo of her on Instagram and she deletes her account... so I ask her if she's ok and she takes a day to respond. She says she's busy studying (which makes sense, she's a med student on her last year -- also justifies deleting her Instagram, too much distraction). She told me she's on a specially difficult section of the hospital now and has to study a lot.
Anyways, I can't help but feel she's avoiding me or just... different after we hang out. However, I'm a little fucked up in the head and haven't had human interaction like this for quite some time.
What should I do? Am I imagining things?
I want this girl in my life so bad.
Help me, shed some light into me, please, anons.
>>18526647
This is all just how you feel. Try to see things for what they are.
Stop stressing about it, it may shape how you feel when you think about her. Just relax dude, and keep her in your convos.
>>18526647
Wait.
Be cool.
Be patient and respectful and see what goes.
Otherwise if you sperge out you'll over cool it and you're done
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>>18526658
Thanks, guys.