Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 900. page

>>18527448
Everything is a gamble. Research the company, spend a day there as an unpaid intern / shadow if you can, learn as much about them as possible. You could be walking into a trap, or you could be missing out on an opportunity to advance.

>>18527420
many chaos will say the first thing is true, I and probably a lot of other people on /adv/ will tell you that the second part is true
so as you can see, both apply, depending on what you seek
I personally believe that good, fulfillig sex will only come from the second, but if you just want to get a quick fuck, the first works just as well

>>18527430
chads, not chaos*
also include bitter neckbeards and nice guys

>>18527412
To make this clear, my mom's side of the family refuses to have me in college. And they are ridiculously wealthy. However, they do not want me to go to college, but they also refuse to support me financially in any way. They just want me to work.

My dad wants me to go to college.

To add, my dad also wants me to be on my own. And the time limit to living with him (and paying part of the rent) is dwindling.

>>18527378
Do whatever you want dude. I'm living the dream, but there are times where I begin to wonder why should I live in a house that isn't mine, why should I share my shut in lifestyle with others? I'd say get a job and make enough money to live on your own then you'll truly be living it up.

>>18527378
Yes the easy way out always sounds like a dream. Until your 45, living the "dream" then realize it's a complete nightmare and you wasted your life not achieving any practical skills, friendships, or anything.

>>18527373
Probably just got missorted or something at usps distribution. It'll get rerouted after a day or so, had that happen when i tried to mail some stuff to a family member. Shit happens, give it a couple days, if you don't see anything, call usps with the tracking number.

>>18527384
OP Here, thanks for the tip, but like.. seriously i'm so disappointed.. I've been waiting patiently and shit for this package, and this happens to me lol.. Life's a bitch

Op is a faggot
You need reading skills and a place to get cheap books medicine books

I was like you. What I started doing is simply avoid thinking about the future like the plague. Almost convinced myself that thinking about the future and planning way ahead is bad luck.
I know it sounds easier said than done but still, you must assume that the present and very near future is all that matters, and be always ready for the worst. Also if you've had this happen more than once I assume you eventually got over the girls you liked in the past. Remember this, that whenever you meet someone, she may seem great now but she'll be forgettable. She's not special, no one is.

>>18527352
good adv thanks

>>18527344

Maybe you are not having fun in the present. If you see them as an end goal, if you see a relationship as something to achieve later, then hanging out becomes a chore.

That's why you focus on what's gonna happen later. Because right now you are not having fun.

>>18527332
red pill is just learning about the true nature of women, not necessarily how to get women, don't go to reddit as much

>>18527383
Yeah that's what I thought, just use it to understand them or what?

>>18527332
The red pill is bullshit.

check if there are any public lockers nearby

>>18527327
Im pretty sure there arent any there

>>18527347
What shit do you got?

They aren't your friends, so why keep offering them your friendship if they don't want it. There are other people in this world who will want your friendship.

>>18527280
Yeah, that's what i've been thinking.
But i kinda like them alot, they used to be my high school bros, but i guess it's over now.

I don't know if i should leave a letter before leaving their lives permanently or just do it silently.
I'm more inclined to the latter, but i'm not quite sure.

>we had many more encounters that summer, and I felt the same way throughout.
>she always said I looked like a Mexican though I'm 100% sure I'm white.
>we even got in trouble with the police for being up after curfew baby sitting our high friends.
>she changed one of her Kik name to "I'm so into you" before abandoning it, and that had me convinced she had the same feelings for me.
>in august of the same year me, my friends, and Her met with 2 other of my friends friends.
>I've never met them, and so haven't She
>they were two beans in a pod, both spicks, and became good buddies of mine.
>one of my other close friends tolled me that She had a contract with her parents of witch if she did not have a relationship before the age of 18 she will be given $500
>I devised a plan, find out when her birth day was, and ask her. (Not a very complicated plan, but a plan none the less)
>2 months before Her 18th birth day Lawn Mower #1 said that he wanted Her.
>they later created a relationship that still lasts till this day. (Not sure how stable it is now)
>I still feel the same way I felt when I first met Her, and now when I think about Her I feel like garbage.
>I know i can't have Her, but is it selfish to think I was the one that should have had Her?
>Did she really have feelings for me, or was that just my greedy imagination conjuring reasons as to why I should be angry at spick boi?
>should I be depressed for what could have been, if "what have could have been" was all in my anxiety teenage imagination?
>then what reason is there to feel?
As a side note
>mfw the $500 contract was on my side, but failed.
>mfw she went and accepted an actual spick instead of me.
>mfw she still calls me a spick.
>mfw I still send Her memes.

>>18527258
Don't start a green text with >be me. We know it's you.
Also you're over thinking shit in your dumb teenage mind. Get over it.

>>18527232

Online therapists are useless mirrors that will repeat your statements back at you like questions and make baseless assumptions based on Throwaway sentences, and most aren't allowed to get into trigger sensitive conversations by law (you can't mention suicide.) Honestly better to just find an anon with some time who is Willing to hear you out on discord and offer some actual realistic advice.

>>18527243
Thanks. Any specific discords that'd do the trick?

>>18527283

I have no idea. Just ask someone that seems normal and not retarded to talk to you.

This could be wildly irresponsible advice but I've only had incredibly negative experiences with online therapy 1:1 or group chats before so I cannot in good conscience recommend it.

Straight up, lose weight and get a new haircut. No woman will think your Chad when you look like a crying Seth Rogen.

Give women something of value and they'll want you.

Fuck you and your desire to lose your virginity. It'll come when the times right. But you need to improve yourself first.
Take this the right way OP.

O don't even talk to girls rn you need to chill. I've missed alot of opportunities but what can i do. Its all my fault though just need to get my stuff straight.

>>18527192
The answer to your problem is in your own post. You want "intimacy" but don't want "romance". Unfortunately one is the absolute prerequisite for the other.

Intimacy is not just bare skin to bare skin. It is by its very nature emotional.

If all you want is to lose your virginity, with no real human connection, ask around for the most screwed-up, deeply disturbed and therefore promiscuous girl in your town. There always is one, and everybody knows who she is. And if you can exploit her mental issues just to dip your wick and be satisfied, go ahead. But it won't be intimacy and it won't be satisfying.

>>18527168
Have you considered killing yourself?

>>18527168
>/adv/, i have a serious medical issue, should I see a doctor?
The answer is always yes. If you think there's something seriously wrong with your body, go see an expert who can tell you what it is.

>>18527168
uhhhh, imma go with yeah

>>18527166
Ejaculation, orgasm and detumescence are in fact three physiologically separate events. They usually occur together but any one or two can happen in the absence of the others.

>>18527166
how often do you orgasm a week? you could be overdoing it which would lessen it. if you wait like a full week its bound to not be dull.