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How can I make a person feel like he matters to me?
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>>18531021
Depends on what they are to you. What is your relationship to this person?
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>>18531021
Spend time with him
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Do something you don't do with anyone else.
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Hey /adv/
Dad was in Nam' I have adrenal gland cancer and autism.
Can you help direct me to any credible material relating to children of Vietnam vets and health issues?
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>>18531017
Monsanto, Agent orange, get to googling
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Hey /adv/,
Would it be weird if I invited this girl I met at a BBQ to go see some fireworks with me and a group of friends, despite not talking to her since said BBQ (which happened about a month ago)?
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>>18531005
Yes. Doesn't mean you shouldn't do it though, but it won't be easy to make it feel not weird, unless she's really into you.
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>>18531029
I mean two of my friends she already knows, hence why I was wondering if I should invite her or not. As for her being into me or not, I really don't think she is, considering how few interactions we had.
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>>18531078
invite your mutual friends, get them to bring her along, make it a group thing. my 2 cents.
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What can I give my e-friend for his birthday?
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>>18530982
an e-card
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>>18530982
steam gift
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im lazy and undisciplined to the point that i will not do well in college if i do not change.
also irritable, socially awkward, insecure, etc., but those are not urgent problems.
i am so apathetic that these problems would not impact my mental health if i chose to replace them with gaming addiction haha.
i have trouble feeling anything including motivation when imagining any type of failure or success in college or work.
i try my best to feel bad and analyze my situation, but im too undisciplined to push my thought and planning past the basics.
there are many safety nets, so i will not feel true failure. i also have a disdain for "artificial failure" e.g. dropping out, getting a job.
haha im not new here, so the only thing that can help me is some true sage wisdom or, idk, maybe you can be my wakeup call.
i really hope my wordvomit retard blog didnt make you mad, my excuse is that im sleep deprived haha
learned yesterday that being """entp""" entails constantly feeling like you are being watched and having to justify everything or else it might be used in an argument against you
>>>/r9k/38447955
holy shit such a large portion of my thoughts and actions are because of this what a horrible way to live yuck
image not related im not suicidal but i wish i was more depressed so i could have a more urgent and apparent problem
haha ill be sure to show this to the psychologist ill probably have to go to
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>>18530933
Why are you going to college? College is not for everyone.
Note that I did NOT say you're not good enough for it. It may not be good enough for you.
College is designed to serve two specific groups - those who enjoy learning for its own sake, and those aiming for professions that require a degree. If you are in neither of those groups, college can not give you anything of value.
What DO you want to be when you grow up? The world will always need plumbers, bus drivers, barbers, postmen, truck drivers, cops, electricians, farmers, groundskeepers, factory workers, etc etc etc - all honorable and well-paying professions.
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>>18530933
Don't do things that distract you. Stop using 4chan, stop playing games, stop doing anything that hypnotizes you and leads you towards consumption instead of creation. Go to social events, like a colloqium or other public event. You don't have to talk to anyone. The point is to get out and do things, even things (especially things) that you don't "want" to do. Volunteer somewhere, or get a part-time job, or both. GO. TO. CLASS. No excuses. Show up late, without your homework, without knowing WTF is going on, without any shame. GO. TO. CLASS.
JUST
DO
IT
Your life depends on it. Look at /r9k/. Are they happy? Look at people who don't try. You have a choice, you always have a choice. Your mind doesn't control you, as weird as it sounds.
Whenever something goes well, relish it. Remember how it feels to be fulfilled, and consider what conditions were in place to lead to that state.
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Hey /adv/
>be fat fem me
>trying to get into shape
>friend also fat but less fat
>she's always doing fad diets and failing
>meanwhile I've been trying to eat cleaner/less and work out
>she really wants this, still eats like shit
>has fat boyfriend with bad habits egging her on
>love her but don't want to hurt her
How do I tell her she's going about it wrong, and that she needs to seriously watch what she eats? How do I go about this without REALLY pissing her off? And how do I battle the habits her boyfriend is instilling in her?
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She'll probably figure it out once you begin to weigh less than her.
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I'm 20M, I've had depression since I was 13, around the same time that I developed a serious gender dysphoria. I've been struggling with it all for a long time now, and recently I started thinking about everything surrounding it.
See, I stumbled upon an article about symptoms of child abuse, and I started wondering about all the disturbing stuff from my past - the fact that I was having sexual fantasies at 6, looking for porn around the same time, always trying to hide and seclude myself from everyone else, fearing rape whenever I'm out after dark, masturbation addiction since 11, with lots of guilt, shame, and wanting to stop even at the beginning, blank spaces in memory, all that stuff.
So, seeing as my anxiety goes through the roof nowadays and won't go away, I;m wondering if it's all some sort of "red flags" for some sort of abuse as a child? Or is it most likely completely unrelated? I know I should see a therapist, but if it could be something abuse related, I'd like to know beforehand.
Thanks.
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If you haven't started seeing a psychiatrist to discuss all this - do that first.
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>>18530896
Whether you were abused is not the primary question. You are unhappy and confused right now. Shrinks exist to help you get unconfused and happy. Don't go looking for a specific answer because very few things in life have one-and-only-one cause.
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So, I've considered a syphilis screening before starting a new relationship. 6 years back, I saw a rash on my arm that looked and felt much like scabies. My heart sank when I realized I could've been in secondary and moved to latent this whole damn time! Before I dive into an expensive, out of pocket screening plus copay- what appears first? The chancre or the rash? Because the rash came first and I noticed a reddish bump in the pubic area that wasnt anything more than a bump, no sore/blistering. Happened a bit after the rash broke out on my forearm, really hoping that was just scabies that died quickly due to being in a 120+ degree fahrenheit factory every day.
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I feel ill-at-ease and insecure in presence of mothers with baby strollers and less so with children in general.
I always feel they run straight into me and judge me for being a single guy and probably some pedophile.
I feel that mothers with children are pretty much my antithesis.
Also I'm insecure about people in cars. I always feel they want to force the right of way and the drivers stare into me.
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Stop smoking weed.
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>>18530742
I don't smoke weed. As a matter of fact, I don't suffer from schizophrenia or psychosis either. I have never even been diagnosed with anxiety. I do have OCD though.
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>>18530795
OK sorry I was just joking about the fact that you sound a bit paranoid. The stuff you describe seems irrational, because people don't have time or care about judging you this harshly. It's maybe indeed just your OCD acting out, address this.
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How to not be a lazy fuck / worst person to exist? 2017-07-18 01:53:01 Post No.18530730
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How to not be a lazy fuck / worst person to exist?
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Really don't know where to start honestly.
I'm 18M and I need advice on life in general, I'm a neet (dropped out of high school in 2015), have 0 friends personally, the only friends I have is online, and I'm a very socially awkward guy. So I have nothing to do but sit at home all day. My only hobby is producing music which isn't making me any money at all to the point where im slowly losing passion of it. I have multiple opportunities to not be lazy and get a life such as getting a job application from dollar tree and one from where my sister works where I'll be washing dishes. Also I'm going to take GED classes when fall comes but I feel so lazy and anxious to do any of it. Some days I think it's all in my head and I'll be fine while others I feel extra fucking lazy and get nervous whenever I hear the word job.
On top of being a drop out neet it doesn't help my anxiety and social confidence that I'm a black no life that's 5'6 with a 5 inch dick and very boring, so getting a girlfriend that will help me be a better person is out the window.
I don't know. I just feel very disappointed with my life so far.
So I need advice (Harsh or not) /adv.
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What does being black and your dick size have to do with your story? Unless you are trolling, just get that job washing dishes, gives you a sense of purpose and keeps you preoccupied until you can get to take some classes.
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There's this common misconception that the mind makes your actions, but it's actually the other way around, your actions make your mind. I know it sounds odd, but it's true.
You probably go about life like this:
>I should be fit, but I don't want to work out
>How do I change my mind so that I want to work out?
>I'll read some online about it, maybe even read a book
At the end of the day, you still can't manage to get started.
What you should be doing is this:
>I should be fit, but I don't want to work out
*force yourself to do it even though you hate it*
Eventually you start feeling better about it, and about life in general.
We've evolved to act, and most of our mind is still attuned to that. Thinking is a very new thing evolutionarily speaking, so don't worry too much about it.
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>>18530741
Yeah that makes alot of sense. That things that I am forced to do most of time like public interaction does make me a bit better about my self. I will try and apply this to get a job as well. Thanks Anon.
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Alright, I have this friend.. when we go out together and I ask them where they wanna go next, they always say "I don't care", when I say how about lunch they always say "I'm not hungy" (even though they haven't eaten at all the whole day), when I ask them what do you think about topic x they always only answer with "I don't care", "I don't know" or "I don't understand why anyone would care about that".
I honest to god do not know what to do... how can you not have ANY SORT OF OPINION on ANYTHING. What am I supposed to do? Just drag them to any place I want and just not care? Not ask them anything anymore, since everything seems to have no meaning to them anyway? Any advice would be appreciated.
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Why do you hang out with shitty people, OP?
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>>18530733
exactly. how is this interaction considered friendship?
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Ask him what the fucks bothering them.
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im not beta but i have anxiety issues
i matched up with this chick on tinder, she's actually kinda hot compared to my 4.5/10
she actually gave me her number after a bit of banter and we've been having really good convos
(I matched about 3 days ago - got her number 1-2 days ago)
When is the right time to ask her out and how do i do it to make it not look weird?
thanks ur a bb x
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>When is the right time to ask her out and how do i do it to make it not look weird?
You can do it right away, I have usually done this after few days of chatting with ease. To not make this weird, put it in simple terms ("I think we really click, I was thinking we should get together. How about [insert X hanging out activity]?").
If you really insist on making it weird, pic related is the instructions on how to.
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>>18530691
Tinder exists to ask people out. If she gave you her number, she's expecting it. Anytime is fine.
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thanks dudes i owe you ;)
xx ily
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Breathing anxiety, how could I ever overcome this? 2017-07-18 01:27:54 Post No.18530690
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Breathing anxiety, how could I ever overcome this?
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guys I have breathing anxiety, I feel like I'm breathing wrong or I should be breathing better, I feel sensation in my nose I don't know why, I'm still breathing though it just feels like I'm not myself anymore
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>>18530690
Stop making these threads and choke already
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If you're that nervous about it ask a gp if you're breathing normally and ask about your nose sensation. The doctor will tell you to stop being retarded. At this point, you can stop being retarded.
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>>18530690
MODS PLEASE BLOCK THIS GUY. He posts some variant of this post every single day, ignores the serious answers he gets, and then posts again the next day. Clearly he has some mental problem which has nothing to do with his breathing and which cannot be helped by 4chan
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I am interested in learning Spanish.
When I was younger I learned how to speak English by watching movies and videos on the internet. Can I do that now but with Spanish?
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Probably. It's not a very difficult language. Watch some telenovelas.
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Anyone on here who has had even mild success on youtube 2017-07-18 12:34:52 Post No.18530599
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Anyone on here who has had even mild success on youtube
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Where do you promote your youtube videos? Did you have a large social media following beforehand? What is the basis of your content?
I'm starting a vlog channel with some other skits/reactions/commentaries etc. thrown in and since vlogs don't exactly go viral and attract people by their nature (people don't search "vlog" as often as they search "guy gets knocked out")
Just wondering if anyone has advice on where I should post these and what I can do to optimize traffic?
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>>18530599
>Not realizing that YouTube and gaming channel success is a stochastic variable
Ads get you nothing OP. It's only random chance that will work