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I have trichotillomania. I pull out the hair on my head and have for most of my life. I would like to kick this habit.

It's usually not a conscious thing, mostly happens when my mind wanders. Waiting for a loading screen in a video game or reading are common situations where I would end up doing it. It feels very therapeutic, which is why I often don't even catch myself doing it until after I have pulled out a hair, or even a couple.

Does anyone have strategies for overcoming habits such as this? I also bite the skin off my knuckles and bite my nails, but not as frequently. I find my hair much more pressing though.

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Basically, this has been going on for a while, now but it's starting to get worse. Every time I see an attractive girl (even in anime) I get really agitated and get a sore chest and headache. Basically stressed out. How do I fix this or what is the problem with me?

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im a neat freak. super concientious (organised, hard working)
everything has to be organised and clean

ive been living with my girlfriend now for 3 years and i am literally going grey from the stress of living with her. I'm 21 years old.

i dread coming home because even though she tries, its never enough

she never cleans up after herself properly (to my standard that is).

i nag all the time and it is not making either of this happy.

To make things more complicated I have no idea if I love her. (I am extremely poor with my feelings and have very little insight into what makes me happy, most of my life so far has been melancholic) When we started dating I was sure I was in love but a couple months after we moved in together it started to fade into me being perpetually annoyed.

We almost broke up with me saying I was unsure and that maybe we should move apart but continue the relationship, since I seemed to enjoy dating her before we moved in together. The idea of my own place excites me so much, even if I roomied with a friend, the idea of my own room that could be perpetually neat to my standards is so compelling.

I'm so lost. Since this is my first relationship, i'm potentially mentally unwell and I have really flat emotions I can't tell what fucking way is up and which is down.

One part of me wants to break up, but it feels like im just quitting trying to improve my self (working on my neuroticism) and I could be throwing away a potential life partner.

The other part wants to stay because even if I'm not sure I love her, I do care for her and want her to be happy and what's to say that I don't carry this problem to my next relationship? What if I really do need to deal with it right now or it will forever haunt me?

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I feel like a nuisance to my family. When I was 14 I got a guitar for Christmas and self taught myself. My family wanted me to play at get togethers, and when I did, all I could think was "they don't want you to play, they think you're annoying." Ever since I've had this urge to prove my worth to my family. I practiced my ass off and in the end felt mediocre at everything. It came back recently when I had a dream. I was playing a song, I had never heard but was amazing and I wish I could remember it all. And my Uncle was there and he said "You're awesome man!". Then I woke up. My Uncle encouraged me to keep playing but I stopped for a while. When I would learn a song or make something of my own, I felt as if they didn't care. My dad told me that no one thinks that and you just have to stop thinking like that. I'm not trying to get showered in praise or some shit but I want more of a response than "good". Maybe i'm a insecure faggot but it still scratches at the back of my head.

>I'm 20 before any UNDERAGEB&
>Pic Unrelated

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What is the difference between depression and laziness?

And by depression i dont mean hurr durr I'm gunna kms I'm so sad.
I mean similar to the state that ssri's induce, numbness.

Emotional numbness vs laziness Thoughts?

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Im tryna figure out this one girl. We're both about to start uni, and I've known her for about half a year. See, we've met through church, (Orthodox Church, as in the ones from eastern europe if you care to know) and I figure she's really shy, cause she's super timid and doesn't really engage in discussion that much. She comes to church with her parents, and I think they respect me since we've had discussions on several topics. Like that one time I asked her to figure skating, and the next week I talked to them about what it's like going skating at that one lake - so I guess she talked to her parents bout it.

Since then, I got her number, and been on one date. It was a bit ago, but I figure it went well - a lot of our interests crossed over. Following that date, I've asked her out about 5 times, but they were all during the school year and she said she was busy during all of them.

I been casually told I have a nice face on multiple occasions, and I also have a fit build from sports. My personality can't be toooo cancerous, though I might have some things to work on. What Im tryna say, is that more times than not, a girl would respond positively to my advances. I don't know what's up this time around. Maybe her parents are protecting her until she reaches university, cant say for sure.

I could find someone else, but Id prefer that they at least be Eastern Orthodox, and maybe even my ethnicity - a combination which is a bit harder to find in America. What do anon?

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What small things on your body do people not usually take care of?

Example, I already got my nails done and I've stopped biting them. I've got a dentists appointment for my teeth and I got a haircut.

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I never finished high school, due to family and life issues. (currently age 22)
Obviously i need to get my GED.
But i'm scared because i was always bad at math and retained nothing from my prior school years. Looking at GED practice tests and everything, i literally don't understand 99% of it.
I was just thinking of finding my local library and asking for some help over there?
Trying to balance this with "trying" to get a job, any sort of job seems impossible atm.
My life is just a total mess and i'm stuck in a loop i can't get out of. Lack of motivation and fear is keeping me from doing most of these things.

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Two questions.

Does that amazon prime free trial exploit still work with throwaway accounts?

If I type in all caps, is there a way to highlight the whole phrase and press a button to make them lower case?

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How do I become a Chad?
Can I be a Chad if I am short?

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So I'm sorting some cables and I came up to this one. What is this cable, what is it used for and how common are they?

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Me: dont like people,dont want to do shit with others, just want to go home watch Anime, chill, Game and fap.
Me:20years old virgin,not bad looking, working as cook ,got a car.
Me: I wanna fuck, but to lazy to approche Women, kinda not worth investing time, happy with just fapping.
Others: dont understand.

Do I have to change?

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Hi I dropped out and have been wagecuckinging for a couple years now. I work at airport doing sales and hate my job. I also have a daughter and her Mom lets me stay over sometimes, but live in a shitty temporary storage unit with all my shit. My cousin deals drugs, but is also a rapper. I took some marketing classes in college. You think I could help him market himself, thus helping me and my daughter? He is already locally huge. Also feel hurt about my ex.

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I'm currently 30 years old, told that I look younger than I am by alot of people but I'm still a pathetic virgin. I say pathetic because at my age that's not something anyone can be proud of.

I've been told that most girls have certain expectations on what a person should be like at a certain age and if you were to betray those expectations it could be used against you and disqualify you in their eyes hence my concern on if I should subtract at least 3 or 4 years off my actual age when it comes to approaching women.

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So I've been friends with this guy since we were teenagers, I dated his cousin who was more like a sister to him for several years and we're all still close friends.

He's been going downhill for a while now, it started years ago with weed which was fine but over the last few years he's gotten into pills and I don't even know what else. The thing is he should know better, his family is full of drug addicts, we've seen first hand what this shit does to people and he's had to live through it, yet he's still going down that path.

Last time he came over he was fucked up on something, lethargic and just looked like a fiend, his girlfriend was with him and they kept like picking at each other, like meth heads do, kinda like monkeys grooming.

I don't know if he's shooting up pills or into something worse but I want to stop it. The problem I'm having is his personality, he's temperamental and likely to just deflect any concern about his drug use and if I push it he'll just get pissed and bail, should I try to do some sort of intervention? His cousin is the only member of his family that will be any help, the rest are junkies or alcoholics, we're all broke twenty somethings that can't afford to put him through some rehab.

Any of you have experience with this shit?